In real life, some middle-aged widowed or divorced men and women often remarry and form a second marriage. Compared with first-time married couples, remarried couples have different sexual behaviors and psychological changes in their sexual roles, and how to achieve sexual harmony also has its own characteristics. The psychological characteristics of remarried couples are very different from those of first marriage. Divorce through emotional crisis, if this kind of trauma and shadow continue to cover the emotional development after remarriage, it will hinder the expression of marital sexual love; For widowed middle-aged people, they may feel guilty in their remarried sexual life and feel sorry for their original spouse; When a newly married couple has sex, they often consider how their spouse's ex-husband (or ex-wife) has sex, whether he or she is more attractive than him or her, and whether he or she can satisfy the other party. To achieve sexual harmony, remarried couples should pay attention to the following points: (1) Establish confidence. Although there are great differences in sexual habits between the two sides, as long as the two sides can sincerely love each other and understand each other, they will definitely rebuild a harmonious and happy sex life. (2) forget the past. Don't recall your past sexual life, otherwise it will be difficult to devote yourself wholeheartedly. (3) mutual adaptation. In terms of sexual habits, we should get familiar with each other as soon as possible and respect and understand each other. If there are obvious differences in the requirements for the frequency of sexual life, both husband and wife should fully negotiate and adopt a compromise method. We should also communicate more about the time and habitual posture of sexual life. And reach an agreement through consultation. (4) Overcome obstacles. If one party has sexual dysfunction, the other party should not complain, otherwise it will easily lead to emotional breakdown, and the spouse should be considerate and actively cooperate with the treatment. Of course, there are also many remarried couples who feel that their sexual life is very happy, and that their sexual life after remarriage is much better than their previous marriage. However, there are also many remarried couples who are not satisfied with their sexual life after remarriage. The reason is that when one or both of them have sex with their current spouse, they will always consciously or unconsciously compare with the sexual behavior in the previous marriage and draw a one-sided conclusion that they are not as good as their previous spouse. Therefore, they are increasingly dissatisfied with their current sexual life. This is a characteristic of the psychological change of the gender role of remarried couples, and there are more women than men in this situation. The way to improve the sexual life of remarried couples is to put their love into the new marriage, learn more about each other's sexual characteristics and learn more about sexual knowledge. In sexual life, don't have a fixed pattern, or forget the sexual pattern of the old marriage, and often exchange feelings with the current spouse, so that both sides can achieve sexual satisfaction. Recommend Weibo Dayu Health.

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