The traditional marriage in China is quite distinctive with its grand etiquette and exquisite scenes. It usually goes through "procedures" such as proposing marriage, engagement, marriage and having sex. Among them, it is the climax for the couple to go to bed hand in hand after relatives and friends frolic in the bridal chamber on the wedding night. In the old days, some mischievous and unreasonable behaviors were bred in this process, mostly in the bridal chamber, so it was called "disturbing the bridal chamber", "disturbing the bridal chamber" and "disturbing the new house"; Because this custom takes the bride as the main funny object, it is also called "teasing the bride" and "playing the bride", and it was also called "playing the woman" in the old society.

There are two views on the origin of the custom of disturbing houses in China. One theory stems from exorcising evil spirits and avoiding disasters. According to legend, a long time ago, Zixing came down to earth one day and met a woman dressed in linen on the road, following a group of wedding procession. Seeing that the devil was waiting for an opportunity to do evil, he followed him to the groom's house, only to find that the woman had already arrived first and was hiding in the bridal chamber. When the bride and groom were about to enter the bridal chamber after worshipping heaven and earth, Zixing stood at the door and refused to let them in, saying that there was a devil hidden inside. They asked him how to exorcise demons. He put forward: "The devil is most afraid of many people, and the devil will not dare to do evil." So, the groom invited people to laugh in the bridal chamber and drive away evil spirits with laughter; Sure enough, in the fifth watch, the devil finally escaped. It can be seen that the noisy room was shrouded in the color of exorcism and disaster avoidance from the beginning. The custom of exorcising evil spirits in bridal chambers is spread all over the country. Before the couple enters the bridal chamber, in the middle and lower reaches of the Yangtze River, the groom must sleep in the bridal chamber the night before, and ask two girls to take a photo of the bridal chamber with red candles in their hands in advance; Tianjin people ask the blowing team to blow in the new house for good luck. It is still very important to drive away the evil spirits in the house after the newcomers enter the house. For example, in the East, when the groom enters the house, he will symbolically shoot an arrow in every corner of the new house, or make a virtual knife in every corner with a single knife in his hand, singing "Kill the demon once, twice, the first three times, the god four times, and leave quickly." A more common custom is to build ever-burning lamps in new houses. This is what the so-called "wedding night" means. Some scholars have studied that the custom of "listening to the room" is actually a protective measure to prevent ghosts from entering the bridal chamber.

Another view on the origin of haunted houses is that haunted houses first appeared in the north, and at first they were mainly grooms, which is probably related to the living habits of the northern nationalities. They live by hunting and nomadism, which makes men very aggressive and brave. It can prove that a man is a qualified man when he is married.

Some backward ethnic groups in the world show their men's qualifications by self-mutilation and abuse, and even take the hunted heads as courtship tokens, which is probably the same. The haunted room retains this primitive custom in ancient times.

2. The origin of the bride and groom entering the bridal chamber

Once upon a time, in a village, there lived a young man named the groom. He lives alone, has three straw houses and lives by opening a restaurant. The groom is very talented, and people in three miles and five townships look for him if they have any difficulties. He hung a sign on the door, which read: "aim high and live a long life."

Three shoemakers are on their way to the temple fair. On this day, they passed by the bride's house and saw the wooden sign of "Live in 2008 if you have ambition", which is very rare. A shoemaker said, "What a big breath! Go in and have a look. "

As soon as the three of them entered the door, the groom hurried out to meet them and said politely, "Come and sit in the house, three brothers." He moved the stool to pour tea and worked for a while: "What's the matter, third brother?" "Nothing, we passed by the door and saw the brand was quite civilized. I want to ask you to do something. I don't know if you can do it? " "Let a person in the end, send people home. If you have anything, just say it. "

The shoemaker said, "I want a bun as big as the sun."

Two cobblers said, "I want a can of Haida oil."

Three cobblers said, "knit me a piece of cloth as long as the road."

The groom smiled and said, "How long will it take, three brothers?" As soon as the three of them discussed it, well, the time was not too long, and Dajue said, "Three days will be fine." With that, three people left.

On the third day, the three men came early and shouted, "Is the groom at home?" "yes." The shoemaker asked, "What happened to the bun I wanted?" The groom said unhurriedly, "I'll put noodles for you." You can measure how big the sun is, and I will steam it when you are sure. " Hearing this, the cobbler quickly said, "No, no, you can steam it as you like."

Two cobblers said, "Have you finished a can of oil in Haida?" "You bring the big urn and I'll oil it for you." Hearing this, the two cobblers said, "I wanted to give you a hard time, but it's hard for you to pick me up."

The three cobblers asked again, "Is the cloth I want woven?" "How many feet do you measure this road? My head is fine when I knit a sweater! " The three cobblers smiled and shook their heads and said, "No,no."

The groom knows that they are deliberately making things difficult for others. Seeing that they had nothing to say, he said, "Three brothers, I heard that you are very knowledgeable. I beg you to do something today. " "If you have anything, just say it."

The groom said, "I want six certificates." Please buy them for me. "

After listening to three people, you look at me and I look at you. I don't even know it's called six certificates, and I'm embarrassed to ask. The three of them secretly discussed and listened elsewhere, so that he could not see our incompetence.

No one knows where they went and where they found them. On this day, I came to a mountain called Huanghuashan and saw a beautiful girl washing clothes. They made a ceremony and said, "Excuse me, elder sister, don't you sell six certificates in your village?" If so, how much will it cost? "The girl smiled:" My family has six certificates. "

This girl's name is Chen Nian, and she is also a talented woman. When she got home, she rummaged through everything and found six things: scissors, comb, mirror, bucket, scale and abacus. He explained to the three cobblers, "Cut clothes and scissors as evidence, comb your hair as evidence, look in the mirror as evidence, weigh the scales as evidence, rice flour barrels as evidence, and abacus as evidence. This is the six cards. "

After listening to the old and orderly story, all three admired her very much and said, "How many days have we been looking for it? We don't want to find it here. How much does it cost? "

"Don't pay a penny. I just want to ask who you are looking for? "

"To a young man named the groom."

"Oh, come here to see me if you have anything in the future."

"What's the name of this girl?"

"My name is Chen Nian."

Three people happily came back with six cards. When they saw the groom hand in the things, they said, "Do you think these are six cards?" "Yes, yes, where did you buy it?" "In Huanghua Mountain, a man named Chen Nian gave it to me." "How old are you?" "eighteen or nineteen years old." "Three brothers, please come again." "ok." "Say a few words to her." As he spoke, the groom wrote, "When I was in Yin, I thought the moon was west, vegetables were in the garden and water was in the stream. No one cooks at home, a pillow on the bed, wife. " Put down the groom. He folded and folded, and folded and gave it to them.

The three men went straight to Huanghuashan and found the aged wine. After reading the letter, she smiled and took out her pen to write these words: "There are no beams, purlins and walls in the room. Warm in winter and cool in summer, it is a natural stone wall. "

Three shoemakers came back and gave the letter to the groom. The groom opened it and said with a smile, "Thank you, three brothers, don't worry about this."

How clever the groom is! At first glance, I knew Chen Nian lived in a cave and invited him. He packed his luggage in a hurry and went to look for aging. Go to a mountain and meet a girl in front of a cave. He saluted, "Do you know anyone?" The girl said, "Come on, I know all the names in this area." "Where does a man named Chen Nian live?" "Are you ..." "My name is the bride." The girl blushed: "My name is not Chen Nian." "You told me to find it!" "You make me look forward to it!"

That night, the two became relatives in the cave. The groom said, "Don't call your name aging, call it the bride in the future." From here on, people call newly married men and women the bride and groom, and the first night of marriage is called the bridal chamber. Entering the bridal chamber is actually entering the cave. The saying of three media and six certificates also rose from here.

3. Function and significance

Nowadays, the custom of bridal chamber is still popular in many areas, especially in rural weddings. Some people think that the bridal chamber is just for celebrating, but it's not that simple.

In China's wedding custom, there is a ceremony of "disturbing the bridal chamber", which was practical at the beginning of its existence. In China's long farming society, people generally get married earlier, so boys and girls of this age know almost nothing about sex. It is precisely because of this that mothers have the custom of preparing "wardrobes" for their married daughters. In the groom's house, arranging a group of married relatives and friends to have a wedding night and give the couple a "class" can be regarded as sexual enlightenment to young men and women. "Even if it is a wedding, it is after the wedding. Weddings are sacred and solemn, and Chinese weddings are still the embodiment of family and China culture. " At Chinese weddings, parents and leaders speak and read certificates, which is the commitment of both husband and wife to their respective responsibilities. With the development of society, the link of making trouble in the bridal chamber after the wedding has gradually weakened. Some new families must be "lively" when greeting their hosts in advance during the wedding. As the host of this kind of wedding, the noisier the better.

It is also reasonable to make a scene when you get married. At present, most rural weddings in China are still considered a shameful thing if no one makes a fool of himself, giving people a feeling of "unpopularity". I preside over rural weddings, and there is usually a "couple worship". In order to reflect the atmosphere of making a scene, I usually handle this link by raising my hand to register on the spot. "Today, two couples need the help of a few friends at the scene. I have always grasped the principle of "moderation", which is not excessive and makes newcomers less embarrassed and embarrassed. Within 3 minutes at most, the noise almost ended soon. I have always advocated that marriage should be quarreled with new people, but it must not go too far. I am more disgusted with the vulgar habit of fooling around. In some places, the bride's new dress was "touched" in the process of making trouble, and there were "stains" everywhere, which completely lost the original "meaning" of making trouble and was a bit "hooligan".

4. Layout of the bride's room

There are few furniture choices, but they are exquisite.

Furniture should be suitable for the overall environment.

In addition to the unified style, the furniture of the wedding room must also adapt to its "living" environment in order to produce aesthetic feeling. Therefore, when purchasing and making furniture, we should fully consider whether it is suitable for housing conditions.

First of all, we should choose furniture from the size and orientation of the room. The newly married couple's house is not too big, and sometimes a room often has multiple functions of bedroom, living room, dining room and study. When purchasing furniture, it should be few and refined, and it can be matched with folding furniture and modular furniture with bright lines and neat and generous shapes. One thing has multiple uses, and the occupied area can be reused, which is equivalent to increasing the effective use area of the room and adding fresh vitality to the room. Spacious new houses should not choose large and short furniture, because they occupy more land and have low space utilization rate. Instead, we should choose higher furniture, make full use of the space in the small room and expand the activity area.

Furniture styles should be as uniform as possible.

Whether you live alone or with your parents, the furniture in your cabin should have a unified artistic style and overall charm. It is best to buy furniture in sets or try to choose ones with consistent colors and styles, and strive to form a unified style. For example, the lines are straight and oblique, and the thickness is long; The ups and downs of form, the width of Fiona Fang, the dry and dark colors, the cold light and the shadows should all have a unified charm. If you already have furniture, when you only need to buy a small amount of furniture, you should also follow the principle of harmony with each other, or reorganize the original furniture and readjust the color to make it unified with the furniture you want to buy; Or when buying new furniture, try to match the original furniture. In doing so, the principle of formal beauty of "multiple integration" is well followed.

New furniture suitable for love nest

Folding furniture: give full play to the structural characteristics, put it down when in use, fold it when not in use, and place it without occupying space, thus solving the problem of small space for young couples. Multifunctional furniture: This is really very important for a hospitable young couple. For example, the sofa can be used as a bed when it is opened at night, desk lamps, books, books, trinkets and other things can be placed on the cabinet bed, and three drawers can be installed at the bottom of the big bed. Modular furniture: multi-functional, wardrobe, chest of drawers, dresser, bookshelf, antique cabinet, writing desk, etc. You can combine them together to occupy a wall, or you can take them apart, and change and reorganize them at any time according to your own wishes and room conditions, so that the room is always fresh. These new furniture, with ingenious structure, novel design, rich changes and unique shapes, have both functions of use and beauty, and have become the hot spots for newlyweds to buy.

Colors create the joy of new houses.

In the impression of China people, new houses must be mainly festive red, with red bedding and red curtains. These old-fashioned things are still necessary on the wedding day. The overall layout of the bedroom should highlight the festive atmosphere and the layout should be beautiful and comfortable. Color design can be said to be a good hand to create the atmosphere of the whole bridal chamber, but now young people's preference for bedroom color is more personalized and diverse.

If you want to get a warm home, you must find the atmosphere you need from light and color. Generally speaking, the natural light in the room comes from the windows facing south. With double curtains and gauze curtains during the day, the objective indoor light becomes soft. Add a thick curtain at night, luxurious. Lamps and lanterns are not only lighting, but also rendering and beautifying. Some lamps have wonderful charm.

Similarly, in order to get the ideal wedding atmosphere, there must be color matching. Table cloth, bedspread, pillowcase, curtain, lamps, etc. The pattern style and color should be coordinated. Wedding room layout should not only highlight the festive atmosphere, but also make long-term considerations and properly choose the middle color series. Walls and floors are the largest indoor areas, and their colors should be close to the colors of furniture, and the colors of floors should be slightly darker than those of walls. Indoor colors are composed of colors of six rooms, furniture, textiles, household appliances, decorative items and plants. In addition to choosing a color as the main color of the room, the new house needs a little change. Passionate and unrestrained, with red, yellow, ochre and brown in the warm color system as the main body; Those who like pastoral poetry are mainly green and blue in the cold color system; In the elegant style, neutral white and gray are the main colors, and the contrast of area, light and shade and purity is just right to enliven the color atmosphere. For a small new house, strong colors are not suitable. If the "six sides" choose lighter colors, such as milk, light blue, light green, pink and other simple colors, then curtains and curtains should choose colored fabrics. In addition, seasonal factors should be considered when choosing colors. Light blue, light green, light gray and light purple indoor decorations can give people a quiet and brisk feeling in summer and autumn.

Innocent white bridal chamber

In stark contrast to the red new house, the pure white new house design. The area of the new house is not large, and the owner has functional requirements such as clothes storage and makeup, so the use of color is limited. Too bright and too deep will produce a sense of space bondage, and white is not only a symbol of purity, but also can expand the space visually. Soft warm colors make the new house have a warm warmth, which is very suitable for the requirements of newcomers. In order to increase the atmosphere of the new house, in addition to hanging pictures of new people on the bedside, roses and coffee were specially added to the bed, so that a thick warmth and romance filled the whole new house.

The original red bridal chamber

Red is the traditional color of new houses in China, but now many new people always feel that using red in a large number of new houses will have a tacky feeling. In fact, there is no unchangeable vulgarity and elegance in design. The key lies in the specific grasp of color.

The bedroom of this new house uses a lot of traditional red and red bedding and red curtains, which are romantic and warm. With the Chinese design of the whole bedroom, there is a feeling of a deep house compound in harmony, and this mysterious atmosphere is exactly what young people like. If you are tired of watching red after the wedding, you might as well change the color of a cloth, and the whole room can easily be changed into another style.

Soft pale yellow bridal chamber

When it comes to the color of a new house, people generally associate it with warm red and elegant white, and rarely set foot in other colors. Modern young people like simple and fashionable home design, even new houses can be painted boldly, and festive new houses can be painted in other colors without any worries. Pale yellow has a cordial atmosphere, which adds a soft atmosphere to the newcomers.

Comfort is the most important thing in the renovation of new houses.

Everyone will decorate their wedding room before they get married. The decoration of the wedding room needs two people to complete together. In this process, you can also enjoy the happiness of being at home with your family. Therefore, the renovation of the new house should proceed from the couple's interests and economic affordability, and make the new house a real love nest through careful decoration.

First of all, the decoration of the wedding room should be comprehensively designed according to the space size, light and surrounding environment. To have a sense of integrity, the style of decoration and furniture should be unified, and the colors should be coordinated. In order to reflect the festive atmosphere of the wedding, some areas can have some bright colors. However, we should consider the long-term use of the wedding room, and the overall color should be fresh and elegant, which makes people feel comfortable.

The bedroom, also known as the bridal chamber, is the center of the newlyweds, and it is also the place that newlyweds attach great importance to. Its decoration should reflect the festive, warm and romantic atmosphere, and the colors with romantic and warm temperament should be selected in the use of colors, such as pink, pink purple, pink and light yellow. Indoor light should be moderate, not too bright. The floor next to the bed can be partially covered with pure wool carpet. If the bedroom room is not big, you can also lay a carpet. Curtains can be made of two layers, thin outside and thick inside, which can not only block the line of sight, but also keep the room temperature without affecting the rest during the day. The choice of patterns and colors of curtains, bedspreads, sofa cover and other fabrics should be coordinated, supplemented by appropriate decorations with individual characteristics, so that the interior is full of elegant and romantic atmosphere.

The decoration of the newly-married house should be long-term. Don't patronize the immediate interests, but also consider the child's future living environment and leave enough room for the baby. In addition, things in the room should also be avoided. Many newly-married friends bought a lot of clothes and daily necessities when they got married, as well as gifts from relatives and friends, various decorations, tea sets, wine sets and so on. These things should be in harmony with their family environment. In short, the wedding room should not only highlight the festive atmosphere, but also highlight the personalized style of young people.