In the past, the traffic was underdeveloped, and sometimes the close relatives of the deceased were far away. After death, in order to let relatives see each other for the last time, the body was parked on the door panel in the middle of the main room for three days. In addition, medicine was underdeveloped in the past, and I was afraid of suspended animation, so three days later, I was buried. This custom has been followed in rural areas.
Indeed, at that time, rural people always stood on both sides of the road to watch funerals. In fact, people who watch funerals are not afraid. The relationship and blood relationship with the deceased is that the funeral procession has been sending the deceased to the cemetery and then going home after burial. The people who saw the funeral were neighbors far away from the village. They don't like watching, but stand on the side of the road and watch the dead go for a ride.
In China, funeral culture has always been particular, so people should burn seven after death. From the seventh day to the seventh day, the centenary, the anniversary and the third anniversary, a series of funeral and sacrifice customs have been formed. Sometimes people in rural areas watch one funeral or burn seven, depending on the importance their families attach to the funeral. Of course, we can also communicate with each other when we watch it. Look at people, the paper products are so hard, the old people have everything, and so on.
After someone dies in the countryside, there are also many exquisite customs, such as not posting Spring Festival couplets for three years, not going to other people's homes for the first seven days, not getting married for three years (now some places can't get married for a hundred days), and children can't wear red clothes for three years. These customs have continued from ancient times to the present. In fact, this is also a kind of respect and mourning for the deceased.
Some funeral customs in rural areas are much simpler than in the past. In my opinion, these forms are not important. What is important is that when the old people are alive, their children should be filial and respect the old and love the young, which is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation. Only by passing this virtue on, that is the most important thing.
Q: Why did rural people like to watch funerals before and were not afraid?
In the past, we still used coffins made of longevity materials to carry the dead to the cave where they were buried. Why did rural people like to watch funerals before?
A strong sense of funeral ceremony
The funeral of the dead in the village is a big event, and all the neighbors in the village will come to see the dead off. The more people bid farewell, the more respected the deceased was before his death.
Funerals are complicated. Since the coffin was carried, the deceased had a person leading the way, carrying a shochu aluminum pot ran out of the ancestral temple. We call it "killing" locally. Listening to the elders at home, passers-by need to avoid at this time; Then the grandson walked in front with the portrait, walked a few steps and bowed his back, and so on; Behind is the funeral music team, knocking and beating; Then the coffin bearer carried the coffin, and on both sides of the coffin were filial daughters and daughters crying with the coffin; In the future, people will send me a gift, and my relatives will help me carry the elegiac couplet and the paper building.
Sometimes, I meet an old man with a long life, full of children and grandchildren, which is quite spectacular, and I don't want to see him at the end.
There are few recreational activities in rural areas.
In the past, there were no computers, mobile phones or even televisions, and only wealthier families could afford them. Therefore, there is really nothing to play and see in the countryside. Many people like to watch funerals, although the atmosphere is a little sad. You see how many pallbearers, filial sons and daughters have been invited and how many people have been sent.
Aren't you afraid to watch the funeral?
I remember when I was a child, my parents wouldn't let me and my sister watch the funeral, for fear that we would have nightmares if we watched it at night. However, every time my brothers and sisters peek: our home is in the middle of the village, and the road outside the ancestral hall is at my door. Every time an old man dies in the village and goes to a funeral, my sister and I will look through the window. But I really can't see it, because there will be a big blanket on the coffin, and I can only see the front and back of the coffin.
To tell the truth, I have a natural fear of coffins. Every time I pass an unused coffin prepared by the old man, I will be scared. However, I'm really not afraid to watch the funeral. As for what is the reason?
1, far apart. When you see a funeral, you often look at it from a distance, vaguely, and sometimes you can't even see the coffin.
There are people everywhere. At the funeral, people were all around the coffin, surrounded by people, not afraid at all. Besides, you won't watch the funeral alone, and there are people around you.
3. Funerals are all in broad daylight. Dawn makes people brave. When everything is white and bright in broad daylight, it will not be associated with fear. It is said that being scared is mostly to scare yourself. In broad daylight, I am not afraid in my heart, and naturally I am not afraid.
In rural areas, the death and funeral of the elderly at home these days is actually a microcosm that can best show the human touch in rural areas. In this respect, I personally feel much better than in the city.
My hometown is in the countryside. Generally, after the death of an old man, neighbors will go home to pay homage at the first time, and then pass it on from mouth to mouth. Soon, the basic villagers will know that in a short time, they will go to the victim's house as companions to mourn, and the main family will specially arrange someone to register who has been here so that the mourners can be invited to dinner the next day.
Then I will inform Baishi of the one-stop funeral, and then everything will go in an orderly way. On the day of the funeral, a special person will be responsible for arranging the order of each link. Filial children and grandchildren just need to put on white clothes and wait to cry.
At the moment of awakening, the coffin board will be lifted by the young people in the village. At this time, Qi Xin's gas field will move everyone, slowly out of the door and put it on a special hearse, followed by filial sons and daughters who have already cried into tears, whether it is true or not.
Some families will hold a memorial service for the elderly, and the married daughters of the elderly will take this opportunity to thank their brothers or their spouses for taking care of the elderly for many years and wear red flowers for them. A symbolic act of thanks.
There was a sea of people along the way. I have never heard of passers-by who are afraid of watching funerals. Perhaps this kind of folk behavior has long been deeply rooted in people's hearts and has nothing to do with fear. Some people just have a dignified mood, because everyone knows that one day they will be remembered in this way.
Teams that have never seen a rural funeral must not know the secret.
When we were young in the countryside, the most interesting thing was that some people got married and some people were buried. Of course, we look forward to happy things and delicious food. However, burying people is also a frightening and surprising thing. I'm afraid it's because, after all, someone died, and stories of various ghosts have been around us for a long time when I was a child. Surprisingly, there was food in the process of burying people.
In our village, during the funeral, the main family will make many unique buns, flower rolls, jujube cakes and so on. This is to worship in the ground for a while before giving it to all the children. So once someone has a funeral, they will follow many children, and everyone will follow the funeral procession. After arriving at the cemetery, all the ceremonies are over. After these gaudy buns and rolls are presented, we can eat whatever we want. At that time, we ignored everything and rushed to eat them. Actually, it's not that delicious, but it's funny for everyone to get together. This is a kind of peace of mind, so that those who go can go all the way well.
In the past, funerals in rural areas were actually the same as weddings, and a performance team was invited to sing. It is essential to perform on stage, which has formed a one-stop industry. Next, of course, is to eat. Funeral is also to invite a group of people to cook, and at the same time invite representatives of various families to eat. After dinner, they will be buried together. Of course, some of them are the opposite. The funeral begins with dinner. It depends on custom. This is actually to let the people who are gone rest in peace.
Some places still have this custom, and some people have to hold banquets for three or seven days after death. Some places have movies and so on, which are different.
But in general, it is enough to be kind to people when you are alive. After leaving, these ostentation and extravagance can only be a scene, and can't bring the dead back to life. What did you say?/Sorry?
Why did rural people like to watch funerals before, and were not afraid?
In rural areas, the death of old people these days to attend the funeral is actually a microcosm that best reflects the human touch in rural areas. In this respect, I personally feel much better than in the city! After all, people are not so timid, just like when there were old people in the villagers' homes, there was a tradition of preparing coffins at home. I remember when I was a child, I went to the villagers' home to pay New Year greetings. It was easy to find coffins prepared for the old people in advance. This is actually the embodiment of filial piety in the past, and often such families will respect their parents and the elderly more! If people are afraid, will the coffin at home be more afraid than watching the funeral? ! Actually, no. After all, this is a traditional concept in rural areas, which has been accepted by most people!
Speaking of going to the funeral, it is also the last journey to send the deceased. There are usually three days of white activities in rural areas, but if they are affected by big festivals or other factors, there will be five days. So for rural people, they don't like to watch white activities such as funerals. After all, they will never meet again. Although not relatives, many people are still a little sad!
After the death of someone in rural families, there are also many exquisite customs, such as not posting Spring Festival couplets for three years, not going to other people's homes for the first seven days, not getting married for the younger generation for three years (now in some places, not getting married before 100 days), and not wearing red clothes for children for three years. These customs have continued from ancient times to the present. In rural areas where people are particularly sophisticated, in fact, weddings and funerals will be more frequent. People are more exposed to funeral activities such as funerals, so naturally there is nothing to be afraid of!
I don't think these forms matter. It is important that children should be filial when the old man is alive. That's the most important thing.
Why did rural people like to watch funerals before, and were not afraid?
Because the countryside is a small circle of acquaintance society, we often meet weddings and funerals outside the village. Even if there is fear, once you have experienced many such funeral activities, you will not be timid. Funeral activities are mostly carried out during the day. Coupled with the large number of people, you will basically not feel afraid! After all, people are not so timid, just like when there were old people in the villagers' homes, there was a tradition of preparing coffins at home. I remember that when I went to the villagers' home to pay a New Year call, it was easy to find coffins for the old people in places such as awnings. This is actually the embodiment of filial piety in the past, and often such families will respect their parents and the elderly more! If people are afraid, will the coffin at home be more afraid than watching the funeral? ! Actually, no. After all, this is a traditional concept in rural areas, which has been accepted by most people!
Watching the funeral is also the last journey to send the dead! In rural areas, because the deceased is an acquaintance of the village, villagers will actively participate in funeral activities by paying respects, carrying coffins and holding funerals. Especially members of extended families with the same surname usually put down their important things at this time and then participate in the funeral process all the time. Generally, funeral activities will last for three days, but if they catch up with major festivals or other factors, there will be five days. Therefore, for rural people, they don't like to watch white activities such as funerals, but send the deceased the last journey in this form. After all, they will never meet again. Although not relatives, many people are still a little sad!
Timidity is because there is no pressure, but courage can be practiced! In the countryside, you will encounter many things that seem to be afraid, but actually have no specific impact. For example, in the past, there were few rural roads, and it was often necessary to go through the graveyard at the head of the village when leaving the village at night. At that time, even if a person passed by, there was basically no great fear. After all, people are used to this kind of scene and have no influence. Naturally, there is nothing to worry about! I remember going to school in the town. At that time, I often had to go out to school before dawn because of early self-study Because I met three or four cemeteries on the road, I was afraid at first, so I would go to school with my village partners. Later, after I was divided into classes, I basically went to school alone. I remember I really met a jack-o'-lantern. It's like a group of Lan Huo in front of the grave. Fortunately, I was far away, otherwise I might be scared! But later I learned that it was just a new grave. In the morning, people were burning paper to fill the grave, not a ghost fire! Therefore, fear is actually an incomprehension of the unknown. Once you know the truth, there is nothing to be afraid of!
It is normal to be born, sick and die, especially influenced by rural life and traditional customs. On the contrary, when people in the village get old, there will be funeral ceremonies. It is not surprising that a village is so big that people come and go every year.
Not only before, but now, the weight of rural funeral is the heaviest. Once there is a funeral, almost every household in the village has representatives, and people within the family help each other with various things, and the villagers mourn with the ceremony. The number of people in that scene is absolutely huge, which will naturally attract many people to watch.
Why did rural people like to watch funerals before, and were not afraid?
They are all villagers who bow their heads and don't look up, and they are already familiar with each other. For some people who leave old age, there is sadness and disappointment in their hearts. This emotional proportion is very large. Fear will not exist under the control of emotions, and sadness will make you fearless of anxiety caused by superstition.
Funerals in rural areas are not only watched by adults, but also by many children. The excitement here is not a joke, but a respect for the dead and a yearning to learn from traditional customs. You can fully see the connotation of a family and the comprehensiveness and importance of rural etiquette at the funeral. From the sadness of musical instruments, from the crying of filial sons and grandchildren, from the crying of relatives and friends, you will deeply feel a kind of solemnity.
Generally, there are only two or three main streets in rural areas, and a funeral will completely occupy an intersection. How can so many people feel scared? In our rural areas in southwest Shandong, funerals usually last for three days. During these three days, people will come to offer their condolences one after another. On the afternoon before the funeral, a man of the deceased will walk around the main street of the village and inform the villagers that at night, there will be a special mourning hall to meet the villagers and kneel down to mourn.
You won't be too afraid of the death of someone you know too well. Think about the man who greeted you and laughed yesterday, but today he is in where will you go, and we have never met before. Isn't it the best memory to give him a ride? This situation will only make you cherish your life more and cherish the people around you more.
Of course, there are some taboos in the countryside. Someone died in the village, and it wasn't a family. People with children in the village usually take some plant ash to build a line at the gate. It is said that plant ash has a magical effect, which can block outside interference and prevent children and babies from crying at night.
Why did rural people like to watch funerals before, and were not afraid?
Funeral is a very important thing in the countryside. I remember there was a saying at that time that "it is better to borrow someone to stop mourning than to share a room." In the past, if someone died and their house was not enough, someone would be willing to lend it to them. China has very strict funeral customs, especially in ancient times, people of different status levels can get different funeral treatments, and they can't go beyond this system at will, otherwise they may lose their lives and lose more than they gain.
The fall of the crock basin means that everything in the world is over, and the deceased will go to another world with the blessings and thoughts of their loved ones in the crock. When burying a person, some places will deliberately let children avoid it, because people think it is unlucky and can't let children see it, but adults can't get tired of watching funerals. They like to watch funerals mainly for the following reasons.
First, the relationship with the elderly is mostly good. Someone wants to send the old man one last trip and let him leave with peace of mind. At the same time, they also wrote unfinished words to the elderly to express their grief. Secondly, some people want to see how the funeral at home is arranged, which is actually an aspect of filial piety. We can see the financial strength of this family, and many people like to do these things. Actually, there's nothing to be afraid of watching a funeral. After all, everyone around you is dead. Many old people have lived their whole lives and have seen through life and death. There is nothing to be afraid of, more is to send the last journey.
Funeral customs in rural areas are very complicated. People express their best wishes to the elderly through these complicated etiquette and customs, and also inherit the ancient funeral tradition. People are concerned about being buried underground. Even if he died in a foreign country, some people tried to send it back. This is the biggest concept of the dead. There is nothing to be afraid of for those who watch the funeral. Seeing the deceased leave is the greatest respect for the deceased.
Why did rural people like to watch funerals before, and were not afraid? In rural areas, we often encounter this scene, that is, whoever gets married and whose family dies, the neighbors will help and the people in the same village will watch the fun. Then the question is, if attending a wedding is for happiness, what is the purpose of watching a funeral?
Pay attention to the sense of ceremony
In rural areas, there are ceremonies to pay homage to the church at weddings, but there are funeral ceremonies such as throwing braziers and setting roads at funerals, which have a strong sense of ceremony, especially for wealthy families, which pay more attention to various ceremonies and will be very grand. Therefore, farmers also like to watch funerals.
In order to "see the coffin and make a fortune"
There is a saying in the countryside that "you don't cry when you see a coffin." Generally speaking, seeing a coffin means getting rich, which is a good thing. Some farmers go to other people's funerals for this good omen.
Aren't you afraid to watch the funeral?
Although the deceased is a fellow countryman, he has no blood relationship or normal relationship and cannot feel sad. And the dead are all in the coffin, even the outside of the coffin will be covered with cloth, and they will not be afraid to see it.
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In some places, there will be banquets not only for weddings, but also for funerals. In some places, bands and song and dance troupes will even be invited to perform. Although these are all wasteful and discouraged, there are always people who like to compare themselves and make things bigger and bigger.
The author once heard that an old man raised four sons. Sadly, when the old man was alive, no one wanted to take him home to serve him. Finally, the old man could not take care of himself and starved to death at home because of illness. Sadly, after the death of the old man, four sons and one son invited a person to join the drum band, and the funeral scene was called a lively one.
I like watching funerals now, too. The reason for not being afraid may be based on people's understanding that it is human nature to be born and die, and to downplay their own lives. A few decades ago, a person died, and he was really scared. Now, people who know you well say "go" and "go". Facts tell us that fear of death is useless. Death is the final result of life. If you want to live a few more years, you must always keep a good attitude. That's all.