Tu Lei once said: A man who talks about money with a woman must be a responsible person. Because he thinks that marrying a woman, house, car, wedding dress, ring and so on. I should have prepared it for you. Even if a woman comes forward, he won't feel too much. He thinks it is a man's responsibility to give a woman a beautiful day. "

A friend met his current girlfriend on a blind date and had a stable relationship. Three years later, she was ready to talk about marriage, but she was defeated in the bride price. Before the woman asked for a bride price of 654.38 million, the man also agreed.

Who knows, the woman continued to increase the price and added 80,000 yuan. It's not over yet, 30 thousand was added later, so the bride price reached 2 1 10 thousand. As a result, the man's parents are unhappy and think that the woman is getting worse and worse, which is simply selling her daughter.

As a result, a beautiful wedding ended in discord. In the end, the two men had a estrangement and had to go their separate ways. Put yourself in others' shoes. Both parents have different positions, both for the children.

The woman's parents, the daughter who has worked so hard to raise, will definitely make more plans for her daughter. If a man values money more than you, then such a man is not worth entrusting his life.

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Kobayashi and her boyfriend and college classmate have been in love for five years and are going to get married this year. Because my boyfriend's family bought a house in full, Kobayashi's family is going to marry a car and provide decoration money, which will cost 88 thousand bride price. Speaking of bride price money, parents also plan for their future and help them save it in case the young couple need it.

But Xiaolin's boyfriend jumped up when he heard 88 thousand and said, "Why didn't your family rob it?" Originally, Xiao Lin also felt that their family wanted more. Originally, he wanted to discuss it with his parents and ask for less. As a result, he became angry when he saw his attitude.

Parents have worked hard to support themselves for decades, and how much effort and money they have spent. Now they want this 88,000 bride price money, not because they value money more, but because they hope that the person their daughter marries can value themselves more than money.

Xiao Lin's parents are also very angry. They just want to marry their daughter after being on camera. Besides, the money is for the young couple, and their family can't take it out. The other party doesn't understand this kind of good intention at all. Kobayashi's boyfriend didn't give eight or eight thousand bride price money anyway, and thought they were selling their daughters, giving them thirty thousand at most.

Such a husband's family, Kobayashi's parents will definitely not agree to their daughter's marriage. They don't want to spend money on their daughter before entering the door. How will they be happy in the future

So, originally two people happily got married, but they chose to go their separate ways because of the bride price money.

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I once saw a real thing that happened to me shared by a netizen on the Internet.

Before Xiao An got married, her boyfriend's parents held her in their hands, and everything depended on her. When it comes to marriage, she is obedient. However, the good times did not last long. Ann got pregnant before she got married, so she had to get married. What Xiao 'an's parents didn't expect was that the attitude of her boyfriend's parents suddenly changed a hundred and eighty degrees.

I don't give a house or a bride price. Xiao 'an's parents watched their daughter's belly grow bigger and bigger, and finally had to compromise, thinking that her daughter would be happy.

After getting married, one year during the Spring Festival, a large family talked about bride price money. Xiao 'an's mother-in-law was very proud: "Our family didn't have a penny."

Xiao An said: "At that time, my parents respected our marriage and thought that we were very happy, but also because the family was financially nervous."

Unexpectedly, Xiao 'an's mother-in-law went on to say, "Only Huang Hua's eldest daughter wants a bride price, and her husband's family pays special attention to it." Ann is very angry.

Later, I overheard my mother-in-law chatting, saying that she didn't want the bride price money because she didn't love herself before marriage, and warned others not to pay the bride price in the future.

What makes Xiao Anxin feel cold most is her husband's attitude. He was silent from beginning to end and didn't say a word for himself. Until this moment, Ann suddenly discovered that she really understood the chilling feeling of the person who slept with her every day.

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We don't advocate bride price, but neither do we advocate zero bride price. After all, parents have raised their children for decades, and giving a certain bride price is a respect for the woman's family. The more expensive things are, the more people tend to cherish them; What is easy to get, on the contrary, will not be cherished by learning. Although it is not all, it is meaningless.

Some people may say that the bride price can't guarantee the complete happiness of a marriage, but at least it can guarantee your economy. For girls, marriage is undoubtedly a lifelong dependence. If you make the wrong choice, you will suffer for life.

If you meet a girl who doesn't want a bride price, please cherish it; But if you want a bride price girl, please understand that if you are poor, you will change your mind. Although money is important, sincere feelings can't be bought by money.

Don't lose the love of your life because of money, that's the real loss. With more consideration and understanding, the result of each relationship is more likely to be happy.