Around 2000, I met many Jiangxi friends who came to work in my hometown in Fujian. They have worked with us for a long time and found that the bride price was higher when we got married. At the beginning, our bride price was 50,000 ~ 80,000. Then I often hear them joking with me, saying that you are all "selling daughters" and their bride price will not be so high.
Jiangxi went to Fujian, Zhejiang and other coastal areas, and many people worked. It is not ruled out that these people will see the phenomenon of high bride price in the local area, and then learn a higher bride price when they go home. Or tell other locals about the phenomenon of high bride price along the southern coast, and many locals have begun to imitate it slowly. After a long time, the bride price also caught up.
Where the bride price is high, the local people will surely know that the bride price is rising year by year. It is not static, which is related to the improvement of personal economic income in recent years. For example, in the past, the salary1000 ~ 3,000, but now many of them are 3,000. The higher the income, the higher the bride price.
Contrast! It has always been in the countryside, and this will be compared in all aspects, and the bride price is no exception. How much bride price other people's daughters get? My family is definitely higher than his. Or is it like the problem of more men and fewer women when dating, which will make families with daughters dominant? So many men have a crush on his daughter that it is natural to raise the bride price.
Hello, I think you should ask what caused the bride price to be one of the most abundant provinces in Jiangxi.
This problem should be analyzed from several aspects:
First, there are more men than women because boys are preferred to girls.
In many rural areas, in order to have a son, when pregnant, if it is a girl, it will be aborted by abortion. After decades of accumulation, it is certain that there are more men than women, and the proportion has increased. As a result, many older young people in rural areas can't find wives, so they can only spend money on blind dates and marry wives. Slowly, more and more money is spent.
2. Mobility of female population.
Nowadays, with the rapid development of social economy, the communication between people has increased. Girls go out to school, work, get to know boys from other provinces and marry them from other provinces. Originally, the proportion of local men and women was large, coupled with the high mobility of these girls, more men could not marry. Although there are also men with women from other provinces in this province, relatively speaking, this situation has increased the bride price, and the more you want.
3, comparison psychology.
In contrast, neighbors want 80 thousand bride price to marry their daughters, whose conditions are average. My daughter's condition is so good, I want a bride price of 65438+ 10 thousand anyway. Compared with each other, only more and more, higher and higher. I spent 6,543,800 yuan on my wife, so I definitely want 6,543,800 yuan on my wife. I can't lose anything. There is also the situation of pricing through academic qualifications. How much is the junior college and the undergraduate course? We can't lose money anyway. This phenomenon is the biggest reason for the rise of bride price.
4. extravagance and waste.
The wedding is super luxurious, buying a car, buying a house, taking wedding photos, buying some gold and silver, brand-name clothes and so on. Hold a running water banquet for a few days and invite guests. Weddings planned by professional wedding companies are the main reasons for the high bride price.
5. Consider the future pension.
A colleague in my office, in his fifties, is more in favor of this high bride price. According to his analysis, supporting parents is not only a son's responsibility, but also a daughter's obligation to take care of the elderly and support parents. I worked hard to raise my daughter and even sent her to college. I finally came out to work, and in a few years, I got married again. It is also possible to meet a kind-hearted son-in-law and a kind-hearted father-in-law who is willing to help his brother take care of his father-in-law. What should you do if you don't want to? Although it is stipulated by law, children have the obligation and responsibility to take care of their parents. However, customs and habits cannot be changed. Therefore, some people, they will consider from the aspect of providing for the aged, and receive a little more bride price to make plans for providing for the aged in the future.
In recent years, some provinces and regions have seen huge bride price, which has caused bad influence. Many people are forced to borrow money everywhere, even lend money and usury. Some people with ulterior motives, when they see the benefits in this respect, think of illegal acts such as cheating on marriage, cheating on bride price and abducting women. Watermelon videos often show that men and women go to court to get back the bride price. There are also some older young people who have been cheated out of their homes and even their families. Therefore, the local government has also taken some measures to increase the publicity of the adverse effects caused by the huge bride price. Through advertising, media publicity, etc. But the effect doesn't seem obvious, because the elderly in rural areas have to face the problem of providing for the elderly. If there is no more bride price, what should I do with the pension money? In order to marry a daughter-in-law, I spent my life savings. If I marry my daughter, I will definitely get it back, otherwise I will live forever. These conditions lead to too many older men not getting married or unable to get married. In fact, not only in Jiangxi province, but also in some places in other provinces, there are many ways to collect high bride price. In recent years, there are often reports on the ranking of high bride price in the internet and newspapers and media. I believe that in the near future, this situation will definitely improve and people will not be overwhelmed by the high bride price. So my answer to this question is not aimed at Jiangxi, but based on the questions raised. The issue of bride price is relatively high in many parts of the country. Friends should treat it rationally and welcome suggestions and discussions with each other.
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For the problem of the most bride price in Jiangxi. I think one thing is to keep up with the joneses. Everyone who marries a girl talks about a lot of bride price, which is just a temporary gossip. Secondly, some people are poor at home, and their daughters are older and their sons are younger. Parents want to receive more bride price for their younger sons to get married. Third, the mother-in-law received many gifts and thought that there was light on her face and her daughter could marry a rich man. I don't know that most of the men's families borrowed from the east and borrowed from the west, and in the end they were not returned by their own young couple. Fourth, there are more girls than boys. Starting from the ground, all kinds of gifts, clothes, big ones, small ones, hardware and gold all cost money. Fifth, talk about extravagance and waste. There are two kinds of money to show off, swaggering and famous in the village, all of which are vanity. Some poor houses at home are not so good. It is impossible to get a wife locally without money, even if you are handsome. Taking money as the standard, not talent as the standard, proves that most local women are matchmakers who are in charge of their parents. So I think that in order to break the secular world, men from poor families should go out and work hard, and it is best to find a marriage outside. This society is very realistic and the survival of the fittest is cruel. A good man is not afraid of not getting a wife, and he will find a good wife if he works hard. Some girls still have a vision, and you are the lai in her eyes.
If people want a bride price or take their daughters to their in-laws' homes, they have to pay tens of thousands more. My two sons think that the bride price is not up to standard. The eldest son got married in 2008, and his in-laws didn't say anything. I paid 20,000 yuan to her 80,000 family and brought100,000 yuan to her daughter. The youngest son brought 50 thousand yuan to his in-laws. I feel that beautiful women are paid.
Jiangxi bride price is in the middle and lower level in the whole country. People like to enlarge a little thing in Jiangxi to black Jiangxi, in order to reflect their sense of existence. To tell the truth, the last time I went to a friend's house in Jiangxi for a drink, I asked my buddy how much the bride price cost. My buddy said that it only cost more than 20,000 yuan, and the bride's dowry was 65,438+10,000 yuan, so these are not real Jiangxi bride price circulating on the Internet. There are 100 counties in Jiangxi, but it is not excluded that one or two places may be slightly higher. This does not mean that Jiangxi as a whole is as high as you think. However, the last time a friend in Jiangxi spent more than 65.438+million on the wedding bride price, but the woman lost 500 million, which does not mean that Jiangxi as a whole is like this. I hope that the people of the whole country will treat Jiangxi rationally.
First, on the whole, the western region is significantly higher than the eastern and southern regions, and the rural areas are significantly higher than the suburbs; The poorer the area, the higher the bride price.
Second, specifically, the sky-high price in Jiangxi is surprisingly low in Guangdong.
Third, as far as bride price changes are concerned, big cities are gradually declining, while small counties and villages are still rising.
Obviously, the bride price is not only a bride price, but also has a profound economic and anthropological background. From the geographical distribution characteristics of bride price, we can see the general trend of economic and social differentiation.
Obviously, the bride price is not only a bride price, but also has a profound economic and anthropological background. From the geographical distribution characteristics of bride price, we can see the general trend of economic and social differentiation.
1 Why is the bride price higher in poorer places?
Guangdong bride price starts at 1 000 yuan, which is considered a depression in the country. On the contrary, in Gansu, Jiangxi, Shanxi and other relatively underdeveloped places, the bride price has become an unbearable weight. The same phenomenon still exists in rural and suburban areas.
Why do the most economically developed places have the lowest bride price? And the poorer the place, the higher the bride price?
The explanation of bride price economics is that bride price is an economic compensation for the loss of labor force in the woman's family, so there is a saying among the people that raising children to prevent old age; Since adopted daughters can't prevent old age, bride price exists as compensation. On the contrary, developed areas have generally established a sound pension system, no longer relying on "raising children to prevent old age", but the demand for economic compensation will decrease.
On the other hand, the bride price also realizes the intergenerational transmission of wealth. In some areas, the man's family gives the bride price to the woman, and the woman brings it back to the small family in the form of dowry, thus realizing the intergenerational transfer of the bride price from the hands of the man's parents to the small family of the newlyweds. The more poverty-stricken areas, the more small families need to ask their parents for wealth. However, this wealth acquisition is one-way. The higher the bride price, the more serious the nature of intergenerational exploitation.
Therefore, the poorer the place, the less perfect the social security, the greater the pressure of intergenerational exploitation, and the greater the space for the economic function of bride price to play. To solve the problem of sky-high bride price, we must first solve the problems of economic development and social security.
2 the cost of gender imbalance: marriage is a woman's market
Marriage seems to be an ethical issue, but it is also a market issue. Quite simply, if one side of the market is short of supply, then supply and demand will inevitably be unbalanced. The marriage market is a typical woman market.
Why does Jiangxi bride price stand out on the map? One reason is poverty, and the other reason is that the ratio of men to women here is too unbalanced. There are many young men and few young women, and the bride price has become the capital to compete for spouses.
According to the data of 20 10 national census, the gender of the population in China is 104.90. According to this calculation, there are 30 million more men than women. This means that China will face a bachelor crisis of 30 million people in the future.
Take Jiangxi as an example. In 20 10, the sex ratio of Jiangxi population was as high as 106.67, ranking 12 in the whole country, which was not particularly prominent. The sex ratio at birth in Jiangxi is as high as 128.27, which is 7 points higher than the national average, ranking fourth among 3/kloc-0 provinces and cities, and higher than Henan and Shandong.
3 population outflow: make the distribution of sexual resources more unbalanced
However, new problems have come. The sex ratio of the population born in Guangdong is even unbalanced than that in Jiangxi. Why is the bride price so low?
Behind this is the general trend of population mobility. Guangdong is a big province of population input and Jiangxi is a big province of population outflow. Therefore, Jiangxi is not only facing the crisis of gender imbalance, but also facing the crisis of girl outflow.
Research shows that the age of women's cross-regional mobility is concentrated in 15 to 40 years old, which is the marriageable age. Compared with most men who can only go back to their hometown to get married, some women stay in the city to find better marriage opportunities. This further aggravates the gender imbalance in the population outflow areas.
Four big cities and small counties: the gospel of free love
The cost of getting married in Beijing, Guangzhou and Shenzhen is quite high, but relative to the income level, the bride price is not necessarily high. However, small counties are completely different. Families with an annual income of only 30,000 to 50,000 often need a bride price of1200,000. Why?
In addition to the above-mentioned population mobility, the characteristics of women's market in small counties are more prominent. Culturally, the concept of big cities is relatively open, and the atmosphere of free love is relatively strong. Both men and women have rights. In relatively equal, bride price will not be a necessity for marriage. On the contrary, the concept of small counties is more traditional, and some areas are also influenced by clan concept. Marriage depends more on introduction, so the bride price is inevitable.
It should also be considered that from a sociological point of view, the more poor areas and small counties, the more prominent the circle of interpersonal relationships. A typical feature of the circle society is the love of comparison. Moreover, big cities are basically close to the stranger society, holding a sky-high bride price, who are you compared with?
More unfortunately, comparison is the most likely to fall into the vicious circle of "you are taller than me", so the sky-high bride price has remained high.
The profound social background behind the sky-high bride price
Therefore, behind the sky-high bride price is the general trend of economic and social differentiation.
On the one hand, as long as there is a market for the thinking of raising children and preventing old age, it is difficult to weaken the functions of economic compensation and intergenerational exploitation of bride price. Coupled with the existence of social comparison psychology in the circle, the sky-high bride price will only be "no highest but higher".
In these two cases, the population is still pouring into big cities, and the population in the west is still gathering in the east and south, so the small counties and villages in poor areas will face a more intense battle of mate selection.
Among the three, although the imbalance of sex ratio has eased, the census data shows that there are still 30 million more men than women in China. Especially in some areas where the implementation of family planning is relatively strict or the traditional concept is deeply rooted, it is difficult to change the pattern of the female market in the marriage market in a short time.
Jiangxi parents are business-minded, emancipated, and the marketization of marriage leads the whole country. As a Jiangxi native, I am very proud.
Jiangxi is high? Have you considered the feelings of Heze, Shandong?
There is a Heze city in Shandong, and there is a county in the city. The daughter-in-law wants 300,000 yuan. She doesn't wash clothes or cook, and she runs around all day. This is the realistic portrayal of Heze's wife. (Now, if you marry a daughter-in-law, you will be the queen mother. You are afraid that you can't serve well and run away. ) More than 300,000 bride price may cost a penny to some southern counties, but how many people know that Heze's per capita income can be 200,000+clothes for building a house at home, 65,438,000,000+cars for repairing, and 300,000+bride price (without dowry, the bride price is euphemistically reserved for you, but the fact is left to his brother at the lowest. How many families can afford it in a small county in the north?
I'd like to share with you the hottest job in Heze now: matchmaker's order 10000 yuan, which is not much more than working in a big city. ) Not including the hard work of taking men to see women. If there are three or five matchmakers in series, it is common, which means that you may spend all your day's salary before you meet anyone.
M: looks and conduct are second, mainly depending on the house, car and bride price at home (the more bride price, the priority will be given to meeting)
Woman: Age, body shape, height and fatness are all in short supply now. Just wait at home for these little brothers to pick you up (of course, the bride price should be high, otherwise you can't have all the entertainment in one day)
Yuncheng and Juye are familiar.
However, children are filial and men and women are equal in today's society. The man needs filial piety, and the woman's parents need to support him (I have three aunts and two uncles in my own family, and now my grandmother is old and basically lives in my house or several aunts' houses). The bride price is a symbol of happiness for everyone. But in reality, many families are troubled by bride price, which makes fathers worry about their mothers. Even after marriage, there are many barriers between husband and wife and parents, which leads to divorce and resentment.
And those who can easily calculate the cost of raising children, do you have daughters just to make money ... This kind of investment is more cost-effective than doing business. If you want to talk about business, does it belong to the man who spends a lot of money to buy ownership, and it has nothing to do with the woman's parents from now on?
What is Jiangxi? Is it as high as Fujian?
Where there is poverty, the bride price is high, which is the truth!