This has to start from the identity of his wife, Ms. Xiao! His wife, Ms. Xiao, is from Hunan. She married to Macau because of her husband's infidelity, and finally they agreed to divorce. After the divorce, Ms. Xiao settled in Zhuhai, where she met her current husband, Mr. Yang. Under the pursuit of Mr. Yang, the two fell in love and got married, and it has been three years now. However, Ms. Xiao, who was full of expectations for this marriage, was full of anxiety. Because she has been married for three years, there is a problem that has been bothering her. She suspects that her husband married her for another purpose, not really loving her! Moreover, because of the wife's suspicion, their married life is full of emotional contradictions, and their husbands are also very confused and don't know how to go in the future.
After only three years of marriage, husband and wife should love each other. Why are there contradictions in just three years? What is the wife's suspicion? Why do you think her husband married her for another purpose?
Ms. Xiao spoke angrily about an incident that happened. My husband's son (Mr. Yang and his ex-wife's child) is getting married soon. This was originally a happy event, but it became the sorrow between their husband and wife and the fuse of their contradiction!
1. My son's wedding is just around the corner. Happy event is troublesome!
Although this son is the child of her husband and ex-wife, his stepson is also a good boy, who often comes and goes and has a good relationship with Ms. Xiao. Since the stepson got married, the stepmother is also very happy. She prepared a red envelope early, but her husband suddenly refused to let her attend her son's wedding, which made Ms. Xiao unacceptable. So quarreling with her husband made her particularly uncomfortable.
It doesn't make sense that my son gets married and my stepmother can't attend! It turns out that there is an old custom in her husband's hometown of Henan. On the wedding day, the parents of the newlyweds must wear big red flowers and greet the guests in pairs. This custom is a very common thing, and it is also a basic thing that new parents should do. However, it has become a big problem for Ms. Xiao and Mr. Yang. Should the parents be the current wife, Ms. Xiao, or the biological mother of her ex-wife's son?
As Mr. Yang's wife, Ms. Xiao certainly wants to be the protagonist, but her son wants his mother to do it. As a result, Ms. Xiao quarreled with her husband and divorced.
In the view of his wife, Ms. Xiao, her husband and ex-wife have divorced and are now her husband's legal wife. However, the husband insisted on holding hands with his ex-wife to welcome guests, and even threatened to divorce, regardless of face and feelings. Ms. Xiao also believes that her status as a lawful wife has not been publicly recognized in front of relatives and friends of the Yang family. Why does the wife feel this way?
This has to start with a small incident at the beginning of Ms. Xiao and Mr. Yang's marriage. Recalling the beginning of her marriage with her husband, her husband took her to visit relatives and friends in her hometown in Henan for the first time, which made Ms. Xiao unforgettable.
2. I have to go back to my hometown to apply for a family visit permit, but my husband has passed the house but has not entered.
Although both of them have remarried, meeting their elders, parents, relatives and friends should be a sign that her legal wife is publicly recognized, and it is also the first thing that her husband should do, and it is also the recognition and basic respect for her. But on the same day, their husband and wife arrived at the door, and her husband pushed three obstacles and refused to enter the house, which made Ms. Xiao particularly uncomfortable and could not be forgotten for a long time. Let Ms. Xiao have to wonder if her husband married her for another purpose? Why doesn't the husband want to lead her into the elders?
For this matter, the husband is helpless. In fact, it's not that her husband didn't want to take her home to see it, but because his parents and three younger brothers were working in Zhuhai at that time, and there were only his sister-in-law and two children at home. Moreover, when they divorced their ex-wife, the family strongly opposed it, especially when the younger brother said something particularly ugly, so the husband didn't want to have too much contact with them. Moreover, in the countryside, he is old and has a bad reputation after divorce. After all, does his son have to marry? So Mr. Yang just wants to keep a low profile and hide, and is unwilling to take his wife to see his sister-in-law and some elders in the village. But his wife didn't believe his explanation, only suspected that he had another purpose.
But what Mr. Yang didn't expect was that his bitter explanation left an indelible shadow in his wife's heart. In the wife's view, although she received a marriage certificate from her husband, her legal wife's identity was never made public in front of Yang's relatives and friends, which made her very angry and distressed. At this time, friends around me said that Mr. Yang was only with her because of her status in Macao, which made Ms. Xiao suspicious.
Cheating marriage, is it true that her husband is with himself and wants to use her to get Macao's identity card? Is the motive of this marriage really a scam? In the face of goodwill reminders from friends around her, Ms. Xiao, who once again entered the marriage, began to be vigilant.
In the face of his wife's questioning, the husband is also very helpless. When I first saw Ms. Xiao, I thought she was a clean, diligent and capable woman. I like such people. I don't care about Macao identity cards at all, and my wife has no money. It is because I fell in love with Ms. Xiao almost at first sight and treated her sincerely. Although his wife is a Macao resident with better living conditions, they did not covet each other's money when they got married, let alone cheat. Because I lent money to Ms. Xiao to pay off her debts, which is the best proof!
I borrowed 30,000 yuan to pay my wife's debts!
At that time, the two talents knew each other for more than two months. Usually, Mr. Yang will call Ms. Xiao when he is free, but once he called, no one answered from 9 pm to 6 am the next day. Unable to contact Ms. Xiao, he inquired about her whereabouts everywhere until noon. On the phone, Ms. Xiao cried and said that she didn't want to get into trouble with him and would rather not contact him again. Under Mr. Yang's repeated questioning, I realized that she borrowed 30 thousand because she lost money, and now the other party is forcing her to pay back the money. At that time, Mr. Yang didn't think much, so he said that he would definitely raise 30,000 yuan for her the next day.
Lost money and borrowed 30 thousand. It turned out that Ms. Xiao deliberately used this method to let Mr. Yang leave him consciously. What she didn't expect, however, was that Mr. Yang really gave her 30 thousand yuan the next day. It was because of her husband's brave behavior of borrowing money to pay off debts that she had the courage to step into marriage again.
But what Ms. Xiao didn't expect was that the married husband seemed to be a different person. I don't want to be so considerate together, and my temper has become grumpy. I often quarrel with them over trifles. I will lose my temper with her when things go wrong. Why did my husband change so much before and after marriage? The wife speculates that there is only one reason to explain all this, that is, her husband was kind to her at the beginning in order to get a Macao identity card by marrying her. Now that the husband's first goal has been achieved, his nature is exposed.
Although the couple often quarrel because of some things in their lives, they continue to live after the contradiction. After all, after a day, the husband and wife are grateful and their lives have to go on. However, the wife has always suspected that the purpose of her husband's marriage is to obtain Macao identity. Because in the wife's view, the husband is a rural hukou in Henan, and he is a resident of Macao. According to the relevant regulations, mainland residents and Macao residents can apply for settlement in Macao when they get married. After living in Macao for four years, they can apply for Macao permanent identity cards.
Moreover, the husband has applied for Macao resident status in the local authorities in Macao, and he can get the application opportunity after he has settled for 4 years after marriage. Now that her husband has been married to her for three years, she must find this problem as soon as possible, or she will be used for nothing. Besides, there is one thing that scares her. Her husband is saving private money now.
The husband saves private money, and the wife suspects that this is a precursor to divorce.
Not long ago, my wife found that her husband had saved tens of thousands of dollars without telling her. In her opinion, it is very likely that after her husband intends to get the Macao ID card, he will leave himself and make preparations in advance. However, in the face of his wife's doubts, the husband is also very helpless. His wife forced him to do so. Because all the money I earned before was given to my wife, but everything changed after my daughter was admitted to college.
Because my daughter goes to college, she has to pay 9,000 yuan of tuition every year, plus the usual living expenses, and the burden on her wife is particularly heavy, so my daughter hopes her father can help her. Facing his daughter, Mr. Yang originally felt that he owed her. Divorce has caused some harm to my daughter more or less, and I have not taken care of her for many years, so I agreed. When I asked my wife for it for the first time, although she didn't want to, she still took it out. But the second time, his wife dragged her feet and didn't take it out In desperation, he began to save money himself, just to take care of his daughter, not for divorce.
However, always facing his wife's doubts makes her husband unbearable and hard to argue. In order to prove his innocence, the husband finally made a helpless move. Half a month ago, he ran away from home and sued the court for divorce from his wife. He did this to prove that he was not greedy for Macao identity cards, because once divorced, it would mean that he would lose his qualification to apply for Macao resident identity cards, and his wife's unwarranted doubts about him would be shattered.
Why does Ms. Xiao still doubt her husband so much? She is just puzzled that outsiders can see the authorities clearly. Why do you say that?
Because Ms. Xiao ignored several facts, she has been living in her own thinking analysis and has always suspected that there is any conspiracy. But there is one detail. So far, my husband hasn't got a Macao identity card, but why does he seem to be a different person after marriage? This is because Ms. Xiao doubts about his Macao identity card from time to time, which naturally makes her husband unable to stand losing his temper.
On the contrary, she will feel that she has the right to speak here. Once there is contradiction, she will have this unshakable sense of superiority. It was this sense of superiority that hurt her. As long as there is a quarrel with her husband, she will have the opportunity to show her sense of superiority and forget what identity she has chosen. And her real identity is actually a daughter who helps her husband and takes care of her wife. Although we usually quarrel, the husband doesn't really hurt his wife. In contrast, when a wife loses her temper, she forgets everything. So when they have a conflict, the husband will get hurt.
Her sense of security, but his wife hurt his self-esteem. It will make the contradiction between husband and wife deeper and deeper, and even let the husband prove his innocence by divorce. It's really a pity!