Men are superior to women, which has always been a word used in the old society. Used to bind women and emphasize men's position in society. With the progress of the times, this concept is gradually abandoned by people, and the status of women in society is gradually rising. As the saying goes, "Women hold up half the sky".

Even so, there are still many people who think that women's role in marriage is limited to carrying on the family line and serving their in-laws and husbands, and many family conflicts have also erupted.

This unequal marriage violated the law of happiness from the beginning. A happy marriage is often based on mutual respect. No matter which party in the marriage is not respected in this process, then this marriage will not last long.

Therefore, before a woman marries her husband's family, it is best to know about the other family. If she finds out that the other family has this idea, stop the loss in time, and it will be too late when she finally hurts her whole body.

Xiaoya and her husband Zhibin have been married for three months. In the eyes of outsiders, their marriage is extremely inappropriate, because Zhibin's hometown is rural and he is still a foreigner. Xiaoya is a Beijing girl. Before knowing Zhibin, he never thought that he would deal with such a seemingly incomparable person.

Although Zhibin says his family is poor, he is not stingy in chasing girls. As long as the other person wants it, he will try his best to satisfy it. Even if the conditions are limited, he will make up for it in other ways.

Xiaoya was caught by Zhibin. Zhibin is good-looking, 1.8 meters tall and likes playing basketball. Such boys are very popular with girls.

After being with Zhibin, Xiaoya began to think about Zhibin. She knows that Zhibin's family is not very rich, so she tries to help him in life. Xiaoya has thousands of pocket money every month. Every time he goes out to eat, Xiaoya grabs the bill. Zhibin didn't agree at first, but at Xiaoya's insistence, he accepted it slowly.

After spending some time together, Zhibin proposed to Xiaoya. Although Xiaoya loves Zhibin very much, she feels that the temperature hasn't arrived yet and wants to spend some time together. After all, they have only been dating for less than half a year. After learning what Xiaoya thought, Zhibin ignored her for three days.

Xiaoya was afraid of losing Zhibin, so on the fourth day, she compromised with Zhibin and promised to marry him.

I got a marriage certificate without my parents' consent. For this marriage, Zhibin's parents don't have any opinions, because with their family's conditions, it is really cost-effective to marry such a city girl.

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However, Xiaoya's parents are not happy. Although Zhibin is a perfect person in Xiaoya's eyes, Xiaoya's parents think Zhibin is very scheming. Without the permission of both parents, he took his girlfriend to get the certificate. Moreover, with Zhibin's family conditions, it is difficult to establish a foothold in Beijing, and Xiaoya is his best backer.

Therefore, they think that Zhibin doesn't really love her daughter, and now she is cooked with raw rice. If divorced, Xiaoya will get married. At the same time, they also considered Xiaoya's feelings and knew that Xiaoya loved this man very much, so they only said to Xiaoya, "Daughter, we hope that after you get married, you must be careful of this man and his family and don't let yourself be wronged."

Sure enough, as Xiaoya's parents expected, when discussing the wedding room and bride price, Zhibin said that his family conditions were limited and his parents couldn't afford a wedding room for him. If Xiaoya doesn't mind, he suggests renting a house and getting married, and then buying a house when they have money.

Xiaoya didn't complain, but Xiaoya's parents didn't want their daughter to rent a house every day. They bought a house in the suburbs of Beijing before. Although it is a second-hand house, the decoration is quite new. Regarding the issue of bride price, Zhibin said that their family can only pay 50,000 yuan, and they can't afford more.

Because Xiaoya's parents' names were written on their wedding rooms, Zhibin asked Xiaoya to change their names to them, so that he could live in peace.

Xiaoya lost his mind at this time. She said: "Theoretically, this wedding room should be bought by your family. Now my parents have provided us with a house, which is only rented for free, so this house is still my parents'. " Xiaoya's remarks made Zhibin not bashful to continue.

The wedding banquet money and the plane tickets of relatives in Zhibin's hometown were given by Xiaoya's family. Most relatives in Xiaoya are very rich, so they only received 654.38 million yuan, not to mention many people outsourced red envelopes to them. Compared with Xiaoya's family, Zhibin's relatives are a little shabby. Most of their money is one or two hundred yuan, and the whole family eats together.

After the wedding, Zhibin took his parents and uncle to visit their wedding room, surrounded by a large family.

At this moment, Zhibin's mother said to Xiaoya, "Daughter-in-law, you are a member of our family now. I must clarify some rules with you. In our family, the daughter-in-law is to serve her in-laws, and women can't stop what men say. Besides, a woman's first task is to pass on the family reception. If a woman can't continue the incense for her in-laws, it is extremely unfilial. "

Xiaoya heart began to worry, this is to marry a daughter-in-law, this is clearly to find a nanny for free. Zhibin didn't tell her about her family before. Seeing that Xiaoya didn't answer, her mother-in-law said, "Daughter-in-law, to show your sincerity, we will officially accept you as a daughter-in-law."

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Xiaoya looked at Zhibin awkwardly. Zhibin said, "Let's go. My parents have been tired all day. What's embarrassing about a daughter-in-law washing her parents' feet? ".Xiaoya took a relatively large wooden basin. At this time, several feet reached into the basin. The taste of Xiaoya is unforgettable. Xiaoya washed their feet and then wiped them clean one by one.

Wait until the evening, Xiaoya angrily and Zhibin said, "Let your family go home tomorrow, and I don't intend to associate with them in the future. You can go back to see your mother, but I will never set foot in your home, nor will I be filial to your parents, and my parents don't have to worry. "

Zhibin began to feel a little confused. "What's the matter with you? I just asked you to wash your feet. As for the trouble, it's so serious. Besides, my parents are a little old-fashioned, but they are all like this. In a word, I can't let my parents go back. You should honor them. "

Xiaoya said, "Anyway, my words have come to this. If you disagree, you will divorce tomorrow. " Zhibin didn't think that Xiaoya didn't give in this time.

Although he is filial to his parents and afraid of making them sad, he cares more about his own interests. If he divorces Xiaoya, his previous efforts will be in vain, and he will have to leave home innocently. With his conditions, it's hard to find a good girl like Xiaoya. Therefore, after weighing the pros and cons, Zhibin agreed to Xiaoya's request, but it is worth pondering whether his feelings for Xiaoya are true or not.

On the wedding night, the mother-in-law asked her daughter-in-law to wash the feet of the whole family, and the daughter-in-law broke off relations with her husband's family the next day.

Faced with the embarrassment of her husband's family, Xiaoya acted decisively, because she knew that the concept of male superiority was deeply rooted in her mother-in-law's mind. If she lives together in the future, Xiaoya will certainly suffer a lot, with a filial husband in the middle. Even if Xiaoya is dissatisfied with them, she can only bear it silently.

The famous novelist Dumas said: "Women sometimes allow others to cheat their love, but never allow them to hurt their self-esteem."

Moreover, the idea that men are superior to women is wrong. If Xiaoya wants to live in harmony with her husband's family, she must give up her dignity and make a compromise in this marriage. Therefore, for Xiaoya, breaking up with her husband's family is the best way.

No matter how much women value family and marriage, they can't lose their self-esteem in order to maintain a complete family and marriage. Only by respecting yourself can you get your husband's respect and love. If you lose your dignity, you simply give up the principle of being a man.