If men and women are far apart, they should be separated.
You can hold a big wedding at the man's house first and a small wedding at the woman's house, which is both a respect for the woman and a fancy for the wedding.
However, it still depends on personal wishes. After all, the wedding is a major event in life, and it is a ceremony to witness the life of the new couple. No matter what you do, it is for the sake of a new wish.