1, establish rules
Parents should make rules for their children according to their age characteristics. CCTV's "Living Space" column once reported that a five-year-old child's life is very organized, with his toy cabinets, small bookshelves and drawers. He organized it all by himself. At an early age, I initially developed a good habit of loving neatness, labor and organization, which is commendable. According to the report, since the child was two years old, his mother has made rules for him, asking him to take back his toys after playing. If he doesn't, his mother will confiscate them. It is precisely because the mother pays attention to rules and strict requirements that the children gradually develop the good habit of sorting things out and being neat and orderly.
2, the method is correct
To cultivate children's good habits, we should adopt corresponding methods according to their age characteristics. For children, we should guide the cultivation of good habits in ways that children like to see and hear. For example, cultivate the habit of taking back toys for two or three-year-old children. At the beginning of training, parents can say to their children in a game tone: "The toy is going home, please help it find a home and send it home!" This is much better than making demands on children in a dry way. When children put away their toys, parents should give affirmation and praise in time. After the child is praised, he will definitely repeat this good behavior next time.
3, perseverance, strict requirements
Habit is a relatively stable behavior tendency gradually developed through repeated practice. Therefore, cultivating children's good habits is by no means a one-off event. As parents, you can't ask for it when you think of it, and you can't put it down when you think of it. You should persevere and train day after day, so that children can form good habits. At present, the most difficult thing for parents is to be strict, that is, to combine love with strictness. This is mainly because parents are most likely to lose control of their emotions in educating their children. Many parents also know how to ask their children, but they often act on behalf of their feelings, which is a common situation in family education. For example, it is agreed that children can't eat snacks casually, but as long as they cry and make trouble, parents will be soft-hearted, often accommodating and accommodating, until they are defeated, ending in compromise, and then developing to be responsive, leading children to develop the bad habit of eating snacks casually. There are also many parents who have achieved results in cultivating their children's good habits. This is due to their rational love for children, the combination of love and strictness, consistency, unremitting requirements and patient cultivation.
4. Teachers' requirements are consistent.
Cultivating children's good habits requires teachers to have the same requirements in education. First of all, families (parents, grandparents and others in the family) should have the same requirements for their children. For example, it is impossible to cultivate good habits if parents are strict and grandparents connive. Secondly, family and kindergarten education should be consistent. Now many children can take care of themselves in kindergarten, but when they get home, it's completely different. If children behave differently at home and in the garden, it means that they have not developed good habits, and it also reflects that the family has not cooperated well in this respect. If families and kindergartens work closely together, better results can be achieved.
5, the correct guidance
Now they are generally only children. Several parents in the family look after a child, always afraid that the child will be wronged. In fact, I think people are wronged all their lives. When they were young, they suffered less, but when they grew up, they suffered less at home and more outside. Some parents and children asked, "Did someone bully you?" As soon as they left school. Beat him. "You can think about it, now this society, you also such education, not harmful to children? When the child grows up, do you think it is better for him to cut people with a knife or for someone to cut them? Aren't those who chop people and those who are hacked good at fighting? Therefore, it is normal for children to quarrel and fight with children and suffer a little injustice, which is also the need of his growth. Then as a parent, after encountering this kind of thing, we must first find out the reason, calmly guide the child, educate the child how to face it correctly, and let him learn how to handle things through experience and grow up healthily through experience.
Finally, we should emphasize the role of parents as role models. Parents should set an example of good habits for their children. Because children love to imitate, the first thing is to imitate parents and family. If parents want their children to be polite, they can't swear; Parents should put their children's toys in order and don't throw things about. If parents don't have good habits, it is impossible to cultivate their children's good habits.