1, from an ignorant teenager to a teacher, read Confucius's "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you". Later, I felt lonely again and again that no one could understand. Only then did I find that empathy is so widely used in life and plays such a great role. So what is empathy?
3. Everyone is not an independent individual. As long as you are in contact with others, you can't avoid communicating with people with different personalities, different regions, different family backgrounds and so on. The differences between people make it impossible for others to fully empathize. Empathy is a good way to understand others. So what does my understanding of empathy look like?
4, I think! Stand, that is, stand, should put yourself in the other person's identity and status to see the problem. In addition, not only this superficial thinking, but also the problem of thinking. You have to think with the other person's thinking, so that you can know what others think, and then use your own thinking to achieve the effect of * * * and mutual understanding in a way that others like. Now, I will talk about my understanding through specific examples.
5. The first is the position of empathy. "Children are not fish, how can they know the happiness of fish?" . Similarly, if you are not others, how do you know what others think? So we need to think from the perspective of others. At this time, in the family, parents stand in the position of children to think; In love, men think from the standpoint of women; In friendship, one side thinks from the other's standpoint; At work, leaders think from the standpoint of subordinates, and vice versa. In this way, contradictions will be reduced a lot, and we can get twice the result with half the effort and really solve the problem.
I read a short story, that is, the husband made his wife realize to understand her feelings by nagging. Later, wives really seldom nagged their husbands, and they were happier. Although the life of daily necessities is dull, as long as we understand and help each other, we can live happily. Look, is it really good to understand from each other's standpoint?
6. Understand each other from the way of thinking! When I was in the third year of high school, I was under great pressure to study. My friends often appear because they are too tired and bitter to get through. At this time, she will come to talk to me. She thought I could always make her study hard for a while, but she never thought about why. Later, I thought about it and found that it was because I knew her better, knew her thoughts and persuaded her in the way she liked, so I could achieve the effect.
Finally, talk about empathy from the perspective of business communication! To achieve effective communication, we need to have rigorous analytical skills, good expression skills and flexible processing skills. I think, analysis, we must know ourselves and ourselves. Express, use the other person's favorite way to achieve what you want to achieve. Processing needs improvisation. I think empathy is indispensable from both standpoint and way of thinking.
Different people have different understandings, which is my understanding of empathy. Thinking from the standpoint and mode of thinking is rigorous empathy.