If you don't really love each other and go into marriage against your will, I believe many people are unwilling, so am I and my sister. It is impossible to marry a man you don't love, live under the same roof, don't have the same language, and don't know how to spend the long and boring years.

After marriage, my sister became a member of the family. Every time she goes back to her parents, she will be hit hard by life. What? "Don't you feel ashamed to see your sister get married or even have children?" What "30, don't get married, really nobody wants it" and so on.

My sister is not ugly and her income is not low. At least it's no problem to support yourself. I really don't think she is inferior to other women in any way, let alone marry a man she doesn't love just to get married. But parents don't understand this. What they see is a woman's endless desolation and loneliness after entering the 30 mark. She doesn't want her little daughter to die in loneliness.

It sounds ridiculous to get married for parents' urging, but in reality, some people really get married for their parents' life, maybe for their clean ears, or maybe they are really urged by their parents to change the rules. But is a marriage without love really happy?

Cheng, a librarian, was born in 1992. At the urging of her parents, she got married three years ago. After three years of nominal marriage with her husband, she walked out of the besieged city exhausted. What I regret most is that I wasted three wonderful years, because no matter how hard she tried, she seemed to be in two parallel worlds with that man.

"This is the wedding day, how can you be so melodramatic?"

Cheng's parents think that girls should get married when they are old. After graduating from college, Cheng's looks and income are not bad, but she didn't like the boys introduced by several clients. She is not in a hurry, but her parents, especially her mother, are in a hurry.

Mother thinks that women's good times are only a few years, and youth flies. If a woman doesn't marry herself in those years, she will be like a devalued vegetable, and no one cares about it in the vegetable market. Teacher Cheng doesn't think so. She thinks there should be an emotional foundation between husband and wife, right?

Mother retorted, "Marriage is life, not daily necessities. How come there are so many affectations to think about feelings? Can love be eaten as food? When you have children, you won't waste time on these boring things! "

My mother is strong all her life because she has a tolerant father. They were introduced. Although there is no emotional foundation before marriage, after marriage, my father is patient and considerate to my mother, and their marriage seems to be harmonious.

I regret being forced into marriage.

Because her mother always takes her marriage as an example, Cheng has nowhere to run. Every day when she comes home, she has to put up with the concept that "a woman must get married when she is old". She was forced to accept a young man introduced to her by her parents through a matchmaker.

This man's name is Zhang Yuheng. He has a house and a car. He is two years older than Miss Cheng. It is said that he hasn't found the right one yet. After meeting several times, they felt a good impression. After two months together, they hurried into the marriage hall.

It can be said that the promotion of this marriage is indispensable to the promotion of both parents, both of whom are urged to marry, and both of them are in urgent need of a suitable marriage partner because they are unmarried. But really married, Cheng felt that it was inappropriate anywhere, and it seemed that this move was wrong.

Their temperaments and eating habits are different. Her mother told her that this is normal, and they just need to get used to it for a while. But after a year of marriage, she found that there was still a big problem between husband and wife that could not be bridged.

The nominal relationship between husband and wife is a secret I can't tell.

In marriage, husband and wife need communication and understanding to better promote their feelings, but it seems that her husband Zhang Yuheng doesn't need to talk to her, and seems to completely regard his married wife as a decoration. They always go their separate ways unless necessary.

What's more, after marriage, they sleep in separate rooms. At first, Zhang Yuheng said that she couldn't accept Cheng so quickly from her heart and hoped that she could give herself a buffer time. She felt strange. After the wedding, when her husband left the master bedroom with the quilt in his arms, she suddenly realized that this man still had a psychological cleanliness addiction.

The so-called psychological cleanliness man can't really be with his wife until his body and mind are integrated. Cheng proudly thought, who cares! I don't really like you. You have to wait and see. Maybe I'll be unhappy then!

Wait, a year has passed. Outside, they are a match made in heaven. When they get home, it is a cold world for two people, without mutual interference and concern and without any temperature. The nominal relationship between husband and wife has become an ulterior secret for Cheng.

Those who hasten marriage are at a loss.

A year has passed, and neither Cheng nor her husband has anything to do with the children. The old people on both sides could not sit still at first. They hope to have a child as soon as possible, so that their marriage will be stable and their wish to have grandchildren will come true. But about this matter, the two kept silent together.

Cheng was forced to live by her mother. At first, she was at a loss. These two are nominal. How can they have children? But she gave birth more often, and when her heart was crossed, she told her mother the truth. Mother gasped, some refused to believe her ears.

I don't know how my mother finally told her parents-in-law, and how her parents-in-law told her son. After returning home, Zhang Yuheng complained to Cheng that she should not disclose the privacy between husband and wife to a third person. Besides, he just needs some time, and he didn't really refuse to accept Cheng.

Her husband's words made Cheng feel funny. She felt the man's hypocrisy. Maybe from the beginning, he didn't like himself, and agreeing to get married was just a use.

My father-in-law's illness delayed our divorce for another two years.

I am afraid that no woman can accept such a man. She thought of divorce and nominal marriage, but she was afraid of being laughed at when she said it, and her husband seemed to be planning to delay it indefinitely, which made her more suspicious.

For choosing divorce, parents' attitude at this time is either interference or reluctance. Daughter is unhappy in marriage. They all know. They persuaded their son-in-law to go to the hospital for a physical examination, but they were rudely rejected. The family is disheartened. They are going to learn their lesson and divorce.

The woman wants a divorce, but Zhang Yuheng's attitude is very strange. He insisted on refusing to divorce, but did not explain why. Just as Cheng was preparing for a divorce, her father-in-law died of illness and was admitted to the hospital. Mother-in-law told me about her father-in-law's illness, saying that it would be inhuman for her daughter-in-law to divorce at this time. Even if she wants a divorce, she will have to wait until her father-in-law recovers.

In order not to lose the population, but also to make Cheng feel guilty, he agreed. Who knows, this delay lasted for another two years, and she didn't know that she had been kept in the dark until she happened to see her husband's diary.

After reading her husband's diary, I realized that I played the role of "tool man" in marriage.

Because the computer at home was broken, Cheng took an old computer in the basement for temporary use. Who knows, in this laptop, she actually saw her husband's diary and a lot of photos of another woman. She was curious and read them all before she realized that she had been playing the role of "tool man" in her marriage.

It turned out that before Zhang married her, she fell in love with a girl named because her parents didn't agree to be forcibly separated. As for the specific reasons, the diary did not explain. However, since the girl's family emigrated, Zhang seems to have lost confidence in her feelings and any interest in other women.

The reason why he agreed to let his parents go on blind dates is also because he is an only child, in order to give his parents an explanation. The diary came to an abrupt end here, but in Cheng's heart, it set off a stormy wave. Only then did she understand why her husband behaved differently from ordinary people and kept a lukewarm distance from himself because there was no place for others in his heart.

Two people in parallel worlds are strangers after all.

When Cheng sued for divorce, she asked her husband to compensate her for the concealment and injury during the marriage, and the house at home belonged to her, and she asked for more than half of the property after marriage. After the final divorce, although she got what she wanted in property, I'm afraid the pain brought by her heart will be irreparable for a while.

Two people in parallel worlds are strangers after all. Emotional things can never be forced, and marriage can't bind two loveless men and women together. Everyone has the right to pursue happiness, but a nominal, loveless and asexual marriage is immoral after all.

Whether we are cheated or urged to get married, we should always be loyal to our hearts and not blindly approach a marriage. It is very necessary to know each other before marriage, and it is also responsible for your own life.

Zheng once said to his fans, "Life is worse than death. It is better to be lonely and arrogant. " Love is hard to find, and the relationship between husband and wife is equally important in marriage. Marriage without emotional foundation is unstable and risky.

In marriage, husband and wife live a world of two people after all. In this world, it really should be you and me, and everyone should remain independent. However, you should not use marriage as a shield. The person you marry is not the one you love in your heart. Doing so will not only deceive yourself, but also hurt the innocent.