To get rid of inferiority complex, we must first have confidence in ourselves. Don't belittle yourself. I was born to be useful, as long as you know that you are no worse than others.
"Go your own way and let others talk!" Because others' ridicule and degradation are often due to jealousy or other reasons, remember: as long as you admit that you are the best, no one can make you feel inferior!
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On the afternoon of June 27th, 2005, Fengjiaxing Village in anlin Station Town, Feicheng City, Shandong Province was boiling. Cai Zhenguo, a young man in this village, scored 604 points in the college entrance examination and was admitted to the Department of Bioengineering of Shandong Institute of Light Industry in advance, exceeding the key undergraduate course in Shandong by 7 points. In the face of people's praise, mother and son wept bitterly.
Who knows 17 years ago, on the same day, 3-year-old Cai Zhenguo was shrunk by the fire and could not stand; Jaw and neck adhesion, unable to lift head; The right elbow bends at right angles; There are almost no complete facial features on the face, lower lip valgus, auricle defect ... the tragic fate has not knocked down this strong boy. He persistently studies as hard as his peers. After more than ten years of bitter wind and rain, standing behind Cai Zhenguo is an indestructible and strong mother.
1On June 27th, 988, Cai Zhenguo's life boat suddenly sailed into the dangerous sea of destiny. When he was 3 years old, he sneaked into the kitchen to play with fire while his family was not paying attention, which unexpectedly caused a fire. His son was burned to death when his parents rescued him from the fire.
Due to serious injuries, Cai Zhenguo was transferred from a first-class township hospital to a Shandong Provincial Hospital. In Shandong Provincial Hospital, his fragile life was on the verge of despair again and again; He stopped breathing 2/kloc-0 times a day, but woke up again and again! After 82 days of treatment and 7 consecutive operations, all the money borrowed from patchwork was spent, and this tenacious little life miraculously survived.
Because there was no money to continue treatment, Tian Xiuying had to take the child home with tears in her eyes. The fire left a terrible mark on Cai Zhenguo: the facial features shifted and became terrible; My leg is bent and I can't walk ... After seeing my grandson, my grandmother tearfully advised her daughter: "Even if the child can live, he will be a cripple when he grows up, and even if he wants to eat, he can't go out!" Throw it away! "Tian Xiuying's heart hurts like a needle, but she said firmly," No! I must train my son to be a useful person! "
Tian Xiuying believes that if a child wants to survive, he must first face up to his face. The next morning, she took the mirror and said, "Zhenguo, look at yourself. You don't have to be afraid or cry. No matter what others say about your ugliness, your face will always be the most beautiful flower in your mother's eyes ... "Cai Zhenguo nodded firmly at this, but when her mother held the mirror in front of him, he was still in tears. "Son, there are people in this world who can't talk, there are invisible things, and there are even people who died because of disasters. In contrast, we are lucky. " Tian Xiuying put his hand on his son's shoulder and encouraged him with tears. Xiao Zhenguo seems to understand his mother's words. "Mom, please show me the mirror." A month later, Cai Zhenguo finally stopped shivering in front of the mirror.
My son has solved his problem squarely, but how can he stand up? Tian Xiuying went to the hospital for a doctor's advice. The doctor gave her an idea: tie her son's leg tightly with an elastic band and pull it away. If you exercise for a long time, your legs may straighten.
How cruel it is to pull your son's legs apart! But thinking about her son's future, Tian Xiuying gritted his teeth and began to work. Xiao Zhenguo has skin grafts all over his body, and his skin is particularly sensitive. As soon as elastic belt was pricked, blood and pus flowed straight out, making him struggle hard and cry bitterly. Tian Xiuying suddenly felt that an arrow had pierced her heart, but she gritted her teeth and wrapped her son in a coil. Tian Xiuying fought back tears, pulled up his son's feet and helped him move slowly inch by inch. ...
With endless blood and tears, at the age of eight, Cai Zhenguo finally miraculously stood up, although he was still unstable. That day, he staggered around the house and shouted excitedly, "Mom, come and see, I can walk!" " "Tian Xiuying ran to hug her son, tears kept falling ... For this day, how much the son suffered physically and how much the mother suffered mentally! Tian Xiuying is as happy as a festival. Everyone says, "My son can walk by himself! "
Under the guidance of his mother, Xiao Zhenguo gradually became strong and optimistic, and he began to ask to learn to write. Writing is undoubtedly a great challenge for Cai Zhenguo, because his hands were burned to the ground, leaving only two fist-sized limbs and three fingers like tree buds. Tian Xiuying looked at her son's bloody notebook with great pain, but she gritted her teeth and didn't stop her son. After countless blisters disappeared, Xiao Zhenguo was able to write freely with his "hand".
1One day in May 1994, Cai Zhenguo pulled his mother's sleeve and said, "Mom, I'm going to school." Son's voice is not big, but Tian Xiuying still felt the doubts inside. Yes, his educational ability is limited. His son should go to school to learn more knowledge, so that his standing and walking will be more meaningful.
On September 1 day, Tian Xiuying took his son to the primary school in the village to register. After sending her son to the classroom, she didn't go home, but secretly hid outside the classroom to watch. Her heart ached when she saw the strange expressions of the children and her son hiding in the corner alone. She told herself that she must help her son through the difficulties.
After school, Tian Xiuying told his son a short story: "When my mother was a child, her family was poor and she had lice. The students ignored their mother, but her mother always won the first prize. Since then, many children are willing to play with her ... "Finally, Tian Xiuying added," There are only people in the world who are looked down upon, and there are no faces that are looked down upon! " Xiao Zhenguo understood his mother's words and studied hard from then on. In the class, Xiao Zhenguo is the ugliest, but he gets the best grades. He also took the initiative to chat with his classmates. Slowly, he established prestige in the eyes of his classmates and even became their role model.
But sometimes it is inevitable to be discriminated against. On one occasion, Xiao Zhenguo took the first place in the grade. According to the school rules, he wanted to post his photo on the honor roll. Cai Zhenguo, who happily went to school to take photos in the morning, finally returned home with a certificate in silence. He pretended to say, "The teacher thinks I'm ugly and won't let me hang photos." Hearing this, Tian Xiuying stroked his son's head and said, "Stop crying! Mom's photo is not a photo you hang on the wall, but your college admission notice! "
This also let Tian Xiuying know that as his son grows older, his sense of honor grows stronger and stronger. Now, what I have to do is to enhance my son's self-confidence and optimism. Tian Xiuying will fully affirm every achievement made by her son at an appropriate time, and she will also influence her son by setting an example.
Life at home is extremely difficult. In order to pay off debts, the husband works outside the home. Tian Xiuhuan is alone at home, not only pulling the children to do farm work, but also often pulling a 200-300 kg car and walking more than 20 kilometers to the market to sell chimneys. Even so, the family is often unable to open the pot, because she has a little money left in her hand to pay her bills. But Tian Xiuying never shed tears in front of life. She knows that only by setting an example and living actively can she give her son confidence. During the Chinese New Year, other people's homes were delicious and delicious, and the poor family of four sat on the bed, joking with funny things.
In the fourth grade of primary school, Cai Zhenguo was chosen by the school to take part in the math competition in the town. When Tian Xiuying came to the competition school with his son, people immediately chatted around their mother and son. Tian Xiuying see in the eye, she for countless dagger-like eyes stabbed her son and angry, more son timid eyes and heartache. Tian Xiuying took his son and said, "We can't be afraid of jokes. The key is to get good grades in the exam to prove that we are not worse than others. What we compare with them is brains and wisdom! As long as you can get the first place in the exam every time, who can not admire you ... "With the encouragement of his mother, Xiao Zhenguo stepped into the examination room in people's strange eyes. ...
In order to further "temper" his son, Tian Xiuying decided to take him to a party before Zhenguo went to junior high school in the town. As soon as I arrived at the market, a group of people suddenly surrounded me. Tian Xiuying was worried about his son's reaction, but he saw his son laughing and loudly saying to her, "Mom, I didn't see them just now. I play with them. " Tian Xiuying was secretly pleased at his son's words. She knows that the haze in her son's heart has cleared away and he has become a happy, lively and confident sunshine boy.
There is still one year to enter junior high school. Tian Xiuying asked his son to take care of himself at home. One Saturday afternoon, Cai Zhenguo tried to wash his shirt. Tian Xiuying just came back from outside and saw his son rubbing clothes with his hands. She immediately hid behind her unconscious son, quietly watching the slippery soap slip from his hand to the washbasin again and again and be fished out again and again. My son washed shirts for over an hour. Tian Xiuying didn't make any noise, but his heart was pulled tightly. When his son was ready, Tian Xiuying hugged his son and cried.
Slowly, Cai Zhenguo's self-care ability has been greatly improved. He can not only wash clothes and peel fruits by himself, but also sew clothes and repair the radio. One night, when he saw that the radio at home was broken, Cai Zhenguo fiddled with it. Tian Xiuying said, "Stop it, your father didn't fix it." Cai Zhenguo did not answer. At one o'clock in the morning, Tian Xiuying was awakened by the sound of music. She jumped out of bed, hugged her son happily and shouted, "Son, you are amazing!" "
From 65438 to 0999, Xiao Zhenguo successfully entered junior high school. In order to further cultivate his son's self-care ability, Tian Xiuying decided to let him live on campus, and also "made three chapters": washing clothes by himself; Nothing is allowed to go home; Solve the problem yourself.
In September 2002, Cai Zhenguo was admitted to Taixi Middle School, a provincial key high school, with the first place in the town. Shortly after the start of school, the school will conduct closed military training for half a month. Cai Zhenguo knew he couldn't bear it, but he didn't apply for an exemption. In the 1000m physical fitness test, Cai Zhenguo dragged his sick leg to the finish line. He knows that his goal is still far from this 1000 meter. ...
Disabled Cai Zhenguo infected everyone around him with his unique charm, and his classmates who had been avoiding him began to approach him quietly. The classmates who had laughed at him also began to look at him with new eyes. The reason is: "What he does is something that many normal people can't do. If I laugh at him, am I not laughing at myself? "
In August 2004, Feicheng People's Hospital performed a functional recovery operation for Cai Zhenguo free of charge, and the head and chest were separated. After the successful operation, he can finally hold his head high. Cai Zhenguo was invited to give a lecture to college students in Jinan, the provincial capital. Cai Zhenguo said in a report entitled "Thanks for Suffering": "Tears can't change fate. Facing the wind and rain, I told myself that suffering is the abyss of the weak and the school of the strong. Beyond suffering, it will be a rare wealth in life. I shouted to myself, I want to be strong, I want to be independent, I want to struggle! And these are all given by suffering. Because of this, I thank suffering! " On June 7, 2005, Cai Zhenguo, who studied hard at 12, finally faced the challenge of the college entrance examination. Outside the school gate, the annual college entrance examination connects the hearts of students and parents. A mother and son, one in the door and the other outside. The dialogue between mother and son is conducted through the iron gate:
"Can you do that?" Mother's eyes showed anxiety.
"Mom, it's okay. You can rest assured! " The teenager's voice is weak, but his tone is firm. Then, he turned decisively. Seeing her thin and trembling son struggling to the teaching building, her mother's heart was in her throat.
With a solid foundation, Cai Zhenguo achieved a brilliant record: the college entrance examination score was 604.
At 5 pm on June 27th, Cai Zhenguo received the news that she was admitted to Shandong University of Technology in advance. Tian Xiuying was intoxicated by this great happiness. She choked up and said, "Son, you did it! Son, we succeeded! " Cai Zhenguo has mixed feelings. He felt like a barefoot climber, surpassing many climbers wearing shoes with perseverance and courage ... Cai Zhenguo also said with tears: "Mom, you said, I can do it!"
At the same time, this story about maternal love, struggle and unyielding has aroused strong repercussions in society. Guangzhou Southern Hospital decided to do plastic surgery for Cai Zhenguo for free. "Seeing that the child can still work so hard and strive for self-improvement in such a difficult environment, we feel it is worthwhile to help him." Gao Jianhua, director of plastic surgery at Southern Hospital, said with emotion.
At 9: 00 pm on July 13, Tian Xiuying and her son arrived at Nanfang Hospital. Experts consulted Cai Zhenguo overnight. After more than two hours of examination and discussion, it was confirmed that Cai Zhenguo had 1 1 injury. Because the school is about to start, Cai Zhenguo has too many traumatic parts, and the experts decided to complete the plastic surgery in several times. The first step is to operate on five parts: lips, neck, armpit, right elbow and nose.
The first operation was successfully completed in July 16 and 7 hours.
On July 23, when Cai Zhenguo took out the stitches, he smiled and approached his mother. Tian Xiuying watched her son "break the cocoon" several times and gradually become a butterfly. She couldn't help hugging her son, tears streaming down her face ... The flame failed to burn her indomitable spirit, and a fire phoenix flew out of the disaster.