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You're dead, and suddenly the whole world loves you?
20 19 at 4: 00 p.m. Korea time, June 2065 438+091October 14, Sulli, a former f(x) member and now a Korean female artist, was found in her apartment by her agent.
This 25-year-old girl, as beautiful as flowers and pure as jade, chose to hang herself.
For a time, the internet was full of shock, because it was too sudden for passers-by and fans.
Fans can't accept that the beautiful girl in their eyes will choose to leave so suddenly.
As a person who doesn't know much about Korean entertainment circles, my impression of Suriel is probably the same as that of many ordinary passers-by: many previous hot searches (to be honest, the previous hot searches were basically about her strange behavior), and I would brush some beautiful photos about her from time to time.
Even I, a passerby, am puzzled: How did such an "active" artist commit suicide?
It is undeniable that a lot of bad comments or cynics in the previous hot search seem to disappear at once.
It's like a new group of users in Weibo. Everyone began to use the same argument, copying and pasting the theory of cyber violence and snowflakes in the comments: no snowflake is innocent during an avalanche. Her suicide must be related to every bad critic.
Indeed, the bad comments of netizens have had a certain adverse effect on her. Weibo's comments that spray people beyond your imagination are unbearable, let alone on the other side of the network.
However, when I read the comments section, I suddenly feel that some people's emotions seem to be different from those of those who are sad for themselves-they just seem to seize an opportunity, climb to the moral high ground, use all the words as vicious as the bad critics, and go to ordinary passers-by who are not in cahoots with them, and their words are as excited as the bad critics' blizzard.
It seems that they haven't vented for too long, and finally found a point where they can vent freely, roughly dividing netizens into two parts: either, you have always opposed cyber violence and loved her fans; Either, you are an indifferent netizen who has been subjected to online violence.
The reality is, I believe there are many ordinary passers-by like me who never powder her or criticize her.
Because we don't understand, and we don't have that much energy to deliberately hack her. Including some normal criticisms of artists, have been included in the "cyber violence" they are attacking at this time.
After Suri committed suicide, there was a saying in Weibo: "When you died, the whole world suddenly loved you".
In fact, we just feel a little sincere and rational regret for a 25-year-old girl after this tragedy.
Are you sure you love those who are eager to copy and paste the screen and spray people? No, you're just consuming her death.
Instead of being busy labeling us as "in love with her" after we were born and wandering around the Internet, we might as well sigh for this girl quietly for a while.
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Is to let go of yourself?
Or give up on yourself?
Although I'm not a fan of Suriel and I don't know her very well, I still want to know what happened to her.
It is reported that Suli suffered from severe depression before his death. But what is behind depression? I was commenting and found some voices.
Many people think of the Zhang Ziyan incident, and make some guesses, trying to explain why she frequently posted sexually suggestive content on social platforms. But because there is no real hammer, it is impossible to prove the authenticity of the above statement, and there is no conclusion here.
However, Suli's mental state is different, and everyone can see it.
The following is Zhihu's comment on "How to evaluate Su Li now?" Anonymous answer.
And these are not the hindsight that Bo pays attention to. More than this answer, if you look at it now, you will find that many people have had such an idea before: Su Li's "letting go of himself" is probably a helpless signal to the outside world, a helpless self-abandonment.
She acted as if she didn't care about anything. Was it a hysterical cry for help or a broken jar after despair? We don't know.
The client has passed away, and outsiders can only speculate from everything left behind, trying to find out her vivid traces of life.
Some people may wonder, are depressed people unhappy, taciturn and unhappy in spring and autumn? However, the symptoms of depression are by no means so single.
According to the latest edition of DSM-5, the American Psychiatric Association (APA), the diagnostic criteria of depression include the following items:
Note: Symptoms last for at least two weeks.
However, the above contents are only for your understanding and use, and it is not recommended to refer to the corresponding seats by yourself. If you need help, please go to the hospital or ask a professional for help. )
As the word "depression" appears more and more frequently, we may need to think from more dimensions.
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Why can't stars and artists avoid depression?
The re-emergence of the word "depression" reminds me of some things about Rayza that were searched hot not long ago.
Similarly, it is also because of "depression." After announcing that he had depression, there were many voices questioning the hype in the comments. Just after Sully committed suicide yesterday, someone took it to Rayza:
Strangely, it seems that as long as you openly have depression, but you are still alive, you will inevitably be ridiculed and repeatedly questioned.
A keyboard man said, "Why do so many people say they have depression, but few people really die?"
Come on, how can you see people who really choose to commit suicide? What you can see is precisely because there is still a little desire to live and a little desire to be saved.
When they are hopelessly struggling but still looking forward to hope, how can they think that you are looking at them like this as a bystander?
Many people beautify "death", including "depression" related to "death".
And those who frequently appear in "depression" related information are a group of artists and star artists.
Perhaps accustomed to the appearance of this bondage, we all seem to agree with a conclusion: people with artistic cells are often prone to depression; People with depression are often very artistic.
This statement beautifies the demonized depression into an acceptable appearance for the public. At first glance, it seems to be positive guidance, but in fact, I think this statement is toxic.
Think of ordinary people who are generally depressed. Maybe they don't have any "artistic flavor" and "romantic poet-like flavor" as you imagine, but only emotional instability, paranoia, depression and other characteristics that make you get along very painfully.
At this time, you may have two ideas:
Ha ha.
It is this beautification that brings unrealistic imagination to the public, and the resulting prejudice makes the real depressed patients feel more and more ashamed.
I can understand that people who love her look at Suli from this angle, but I still want to say:
"Depression is not beautiful, but it is always beautified by outsiders."
Depression is a negative emotion, and depression caused by long-term depression is a disease. If we don't face up to it, we will always be biased by ignorance.
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Depression is rotten, you still don't understand.
The past 10 June 10 was World Mental Health Day.
In 20 19, even though "depression" appeared in front of the public because of various tragedies, it was still full of misunderstandings and prejudices after numerous popularization.
Maybe you will have a feeling that "people's acceptance of mental disorders such as depression is much higher now". Undeniably, the current level of education and the development of the Internet have made it more convenient and extensive for the public to understand these things.
However, we should not talk about the whole world. Let's just say that in China, I believe that the popularity of psychological knowledge is not as high as you think.
Because of the "survivor prejudice", we see so much understanding and acceptance on the Internet, perhaps just because people who have the right to speak on the Internet are often people with strong inclusiveness, high education and high personal quality. It is normal for such people to accept and understand psychology.
However, there may be many people who are invisible on the internet, and there are countless people on this earth. It's not that they don't have empathy, but their educational level is limited and they can't understand the difference between "melodramatic" and "mental illness".
There are many people who are not indifferent, but make a living and occupy their whole lives. They have no energy or time to care about others.
Or there are many people who can't face it rationally because of some bad personal experiences.
I remembered a sentence: "Why can everyone accept physical diseases, but not mental diseases?"
Yes, you will receive a lot of condolences and flowers when you have a fracture, but when you have mental illness, you may only get incomprehension and alienation.
The cognition of patients with depression is problematic.
Therefore, a trivial matter in your opinion may be the last straw to crush their hearts, and some people still have to step on it and say, "What's the big deal?"
"You know, what do you think it's no big deal, they may not feel the same way. Because they are sick! They can't recognize those things like normal people.
It will be 2020 soon, and this figure seems that we have entered a new era.
I don't know in which era, misunderstandings and prejudices about depression and all psychological and mental disorders can be eliminated?
Well, elimination is impossible. I just hope there won't be another Suli, another Jimmy and another Leslie Cheung.