Revealing the stages and manifestations of love

Revealing the stages and manifestations of love, many people think that love is only a process of passionate love, which is wrong. There are several stages from acquaintance to love, and the feelings in each stage are different. Let's reveal the stages and manifestations of love. Revealing the stage and manifestation of love 1

The first stage: the first love, which is the choice of partner. This is an animal instinct. After the concept of mate selection is generated, people begin to reproduce or stay forever by looking for a mate. The object of choosing a mate includes friends, colleagues or strangers. In fact, the choice at this time is a potential consciousness. You will compare your chosen partner with your imaginary spouse, and choose more from appearance and temperament. If one meets or approaches your standards, you will pay attention to him. At this time, it is the first love.

The second stage: infatuation with love. When you choose some partners in temperament and appearance, you will start to pay attention to them, hoping to get the other person's good opinion, and at the same time test whether the other person also has a good opinion of yourself. This is a primitive impulse. If the other person doesn't pay attention to you, you will try to show yourself and let the other person find yourself. If the other person pays equal attention to you, there will be a fascination with love, and there is a primitive motivation to show each other at this stage. When both sides have a good impression, they will enter the third stage.

the third stage: passionate love. In the passionate love stage, both parties in love see each other's advantages and have a beautiful yearning for all things related to love. At this stage, the chemical reaction of love is heated up, and both parties in love express their love more through body language, such as hugging, holding hands, kissing and so on. At this stage, two people want to be together all the time.

The fourth stage: attachment to love. Both parties are accustomed to each other's companionship and existence in their daily lives, and they will feel unhappy or uneasy when they leave for a while. At this stage, there is less fanaticism than love, and more spiritual dependence.

the fifth stage: love alone, when both sides see through love and reality, they will release each other's ideals and choose to let hardships create their true colors, even though both sides will feel sorry for each other's hardships, they will comfort themselves with their spiritual dependence, and live for each other and themselves.

Behavior

Love is often expressed through kissing, hugging, caressing and sexual behavior between partners. The most important manifestation of love is that a person does everything he can to his lover. Confucius said: if you love him, can you not work hard (if you love him/her, can you not work hard for him/her? ）？ Love will bring psychological changes to both parties in love. The first is idealization. Two people in love will ignore each other's shortcomings and exaggerate each other's advantages.

Idealization can make both parties believe that they have made the right choice. The second is to endure pain. Even if rejected by the person you like, this person will justify the unrequited behavior by enduring pain.

the third is fantasy. People in love will have some illusions about the future, even unrealistic fantasies. In addition, love can also make a person highly sensitive, especially emotional response to each other's behavior. This not only brings insecurity, but also brings satisfaction. The quality of love can be judged by the above characteristics. Love makes one person emotionally and physically dependent on another.

I sincerely hope that the above contents can help you. Love needs to go through these stages and have these manifestations. Will this make you know love more deeply? Revealing the stage and manifestation of love 2

The first stage: liking

This stage can also be called affection, which may lead to affection for his appearance, morality and knowledge. Or it may be that he feels happy because of some behaviors such as thoughtfulness, enthusiasm and humor. Although liking doesn't mean love, liking is definitely the premise of love. If you don't like him, there can be no love at all.

Stage 2: Attachment

At this stage, people always want to be with him, and when they are not together, they will feel "separation anxiety", feel uncomfortable and want to stay with him. This is "attachment".

Stage 3: Possession

When attachment reaches a certain level, possessiveness will occur. This is because if he spends more time with others, he will spend less time with me. In order to satisfy my attachment and dependence, I don't allow him to spend time on others. If others take up my time, I will be jealous. If he is absent-minded when he is with me, I will be jealous. People at this level also have a performance, which is to transform each other. Although you love him, he always has some minor faults that you can't stand, so you will ask him and hope he can change. Such transformation is a kind of possession.

stage 4: transaction

"soft control" has the color of transaction, but it is different from real transaction. A transaction means that in order to make the other person like me so as to monopolize the other person, I am willing to do something to make him happy and make him stay with me voluntarily instead of being forced. For example, make yourself more lovely, cater to him and please him; Obey him, care for him, help him, please him, and make him like being with me more.

stage 5: repay

gratitude is a kind of repayment. I have benefited from others, and now I repay him. The other party may not ask for anything in return, but my return will definitely bring him happiness and make him more willing to be with me. In addition, for myself, if I don't repay, I will feel uneasy and always feel indebted to him. In fact, this kind of reward also belongs to emotional investment. You are kind to him and hope that he will give you the same good return in the future.

Stage 6: Pay attention to

At this stage, you will always pay attention to his words and deeds, just like a mother treats a baby, "I only have eyes for you". On the contrary, it is not love if you ignore each other's existence and are indifferent and ignorant of him.

Stage 7: * * * Emotion

Humanism defines * * * Emotion as "putting yourself in the other's shoes", while psychoanalysis defines it as "alternative inner tense, which means to enter the other person's inner world, experience his experience and feel his feelings, or to experience and feel instead of him, so as to find out his inner activities. In a sense, * * * love is to ponder, but its purpose is to understand him so as to help him better.

Stage 8: Support

Everyone is willing to do something for their loved ones. If this is to make the other person love themselves more, it is a transaction; If you do this just to make the other person happy and ask for nothing in return, it is true love. In other words, love is free service and voluntary labor, and it is satisfied because of paying, and no extra reward is needed. Help can be material or spiritual. Spiritual help is emotional support.

Stage 9: Dedication

This stage is a dilemma, which can only be achieved by those who are brave in self-sacrifice, have the spirit of dedication, and are somewhat masochistic and tragic. The concrete manifestation is to respect each other, give them some personal space and set them free. Compared with attention, affection and support, dedication is true love. Attention, affection and support will not harm one's own interests, but dedication is self-sacrifice, ready to sacrifice one's own interests at any time.

another manifestation of this level is respect, trust, tolerance and acceptance. It is not easy to respect others. Maybe they will fly away or climb on my head.

Stage 1: Harmony

If the other person doesn't fly away and base his happiness on my pain, it shows that we have high consistency and good compatibility, and we don't need to do anything for each other deliberately. Any action and words can make each other happy at will.