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How to see through people's hearts?
Li Zongwu believes that knowing people is the first step in employing people. But people are good at camouflage. Only by looking at the inner essence through appearances can we truly understand people's hearts and master human nature, and we can find talents who can really be used by us in the turbulent flow of people.

Judge a person by his appearance and see through people's hearts.

As the old saying goes: judge a person by his appearance, and lose a hair. It means that judging a person's quality and ability only by his appearance often leads to inaccurate answers. However, Li Zongwu believes that if a person wants to live in the world, he must learn to judge a person by his appearance, and then understand a person's heart. The key to understanding people is not to judge people by their appearance, but to see through their real thoughts through their external performance.

Guo Jia was a famous "genius" in the Three Kingdoms period. He was a clever man with outstanding insight. At the beginning of his official career, Guo Jia defected to Yuan Shao, a priest in Jizhou at that time. Yuan Shao was very respectful to Guo Jia and regarded him as a guest of honor. However, Guo Jia only stayed at Yuan Shao's place for more than ten days, and said to Yuan Shao's advisers, Xin Ping and Guo Tu, "Yuan Shao is generous in appearance, but arrogant at heart. On the surface, he is a scholar at school, but in fact he doesn't know how to choose people. It is very difficult to reach a hegemony with him. " Xin Ping and Guo Tu scoffed at this and said, "Yuan Gong is the most powerful country in the world today, and it will win the world sooner or later. Besides, Yuan Gong is very friendly to all scholars in the world, and all scholars come to join him. Isn't it a pity to leave such a wise Lord? " Guo Jia knew that the two of them had not found Lombardi's weakness, so he stopped talking and left Lombardi himself.

Later, with the help of Xun, Guo Jia met Cao Cao. Through his own knowledge, Guo Jia found that Cao Cao was a "simple outside but deep inside" person, so he said admiringly, "It's really my Lord!" From then on, he followed Cao Cao and became one of the five early counselors of Cao Cao.

Guo Jia's insight was verified several years later. Yuan Shao, who was pretentious, did not listen to the adviser's advice, made repeated mistakes in the war with Cao Cao for the world, and soon gave up his territory to Cao Cao, and he also ended up dead in his hometown. Guo Tu and Xin Ping, who regarded Yuan Shao as the wise master, eventually became the victims of Yuan Shao's defeat.

Guo Jia chose to follow Yuan Shao when everyone thought highly of him and despised Cao Cao, because he saw through the differences between them and realized the gap between them through their external performance. So he abandoned Yuan Shao, who respected talents on the surface, but was actually jealous of talents, and chose Cao Cao, who was smart in his bones with a casual appearance. Cao Cao later lamented after Guo Jia's death: "Only filial piety can make you know loneliness", which shows how profound Guo Jia's insight into people's hearts is.

Laroche believes that a person's ability and way of doing things are often inadvertently revealed through his external performance. Being able to see other people's hearts and abilities from such small moves is an important step to identify talents.

Liu Bang, the Emperor Gaozu of Han Dynasty, loved flying eagles and lackeys when he was young, and was regarded as a ruffian rogue by the villagers. However, at that time, a county magistrate named Lv Gong had great respect for Liu Bang.

On one occasion, Lv Gong hosted a banquet for distinguished guests, and local officials and rich people came to congratulate him. At that time, Liu Bang was just a small pavilion. According to the regulations, he is not qualified to enter the hall. Not convinced, Liu Bang shouted "a gift of 10,000 yuan" when he entered the door. Everyone laughed at his fantastic ideas, but Lv Gong was very surprised. He carefully observed Liu Bang's appearance and bearing, and thought that he was a rare talent, so he attracted Liu Bang to the table regardless of everyone's opposition. The guests were very dissatisfied with this, but Liu Bang was unaware of it and laughed.

After the banquet, Lv Gong deliberately left Liu Bang and said to him, "I have a daughter to marry you." Liu bang heard of such a good thing and readily agreed. Lv Gong's wife complained to Lv Gong: "Liu Bang is a scoundrel. How can you marry his daughter? " Lv Gong said: "People say that Liu Bang is a ruffian rogue, and he can't do much. I see that Liu Hu is walking step by step, and if the emperor is looming, he will become a great instrument in the future. " Sure enough, as Lv Gong expected, after the anti-Qin war started, Liu Bang cut the white snake uprising and won the world in one fell swoop.

Lv Gong can see Liu Bang's unusual demeanor through his external performance, and he can't help but sigh that his skill of knowing people is perfect. In the end, the Lushi family also became a prominent family with Liu Bang's achievements.

A person's inner psychology and thoughts will always be expressed through his external behavior. Laroche believes that only by seeing through people with sharp eyes can people be better controlled.

Look at people and see through their essence at the same time.

As the old saying goes, it is difficult to paint a tiger's skin but not a bone, and a man knows his face but his heart. A person's thoughts and ideas are often hidden deep in his heart. Laroche believes that if you want to know a person clearly, you must carefully observe each other's actions, understand his inner activities through the surface, and then see through his essence.

Jia Xu was a famous counselor in the Three Kingdoms period and the best counselor in that turbulent era, because he lived to 77 years old. The reason why he was able to live alone in the "autumn of doubt" at that time was that he observed the penetrating power of people.

Jia Xu was originally an official under Dong Zhuo's account. After Dong Zhuo's defeat, Jia Xu left Chang 'an and went to a local neighbor's house to simmer. Duan Wei was respectful to Jia Xu, but Jia Xu felt very uncomfortable. At this moment, Zhang Xiu in Nanyang valued Jia Xu very much, and often came and went with Jia Xu, so Jia Xu decided to leave Duan Wei and take refuge in Zhang Xiu.

People around Duan Wei are puzzled by this. They asked Jia Xu, "General Duan respects you so much and treats you like a brother. Why did you leave? " Jia Xu said: "Duan Wei is suspicious by nature. On the surface, he respects me, but in fact he is afraid that I will take his place. If I don't leave, I will be hurt by him sooner or later. Moreover, Duan Wei is very isolated and has no foreign aid to help him, so he wants me to go to Zhang Xiu and help him get through to Zhang Xiu, so that he can be kind to my wife and children. At the same time, there is no counselor under Zhang Xiu's account. When I go, he will definitely value me, so that my family and I can be saved. "

Sure enough, after Jia Xu went to Zhang Xiu, Zhang Xiu honored him as a distinguished guest and took Jia Xu's wife and children to his home to take good care of him. All this is just as Jia Xu expected.

Later, Cao Cao conquered Zhang Xiu. After Zhang Xiu surrendered, he rebelled against Cao Cao and forged a deep hatred with him. Just then, Yuan Shao sent an envoy to Zhang Xiu to surrender, because he wanted to fight Cao Cao. As a result, Jia Xu blew out all the messengers. Zhang Xiu was very unhappy and asked Jia Xu, "Why did you offend Yuan Shao? Is there any place for us to live in such a big world? "

Jia Xu said, "Yes, let's take refuge in Cao Cao."

Zhang Xiu turned pale with fear and asked, "After we surrendered to Cao Cao, we betrayed him and killed his son and beloved general. Now that we are going to take refuge in Cao Cao, aren't we sending sheep into the tiger's mouth? "

Jia Xu said, "Cao Cao is simple in appearance, but shrewd in heart. Such a person won't forget great things because of personal honor or disgrace. Not only that, he will follow the example of the general and show his generosity to the world. And now that he is going to fight Yuan Shao, it is not worth mentioning that our troops are sent to Yuan Shao, but it is a timely help to Cao Cao. General, please relax. "

Jia Xu got exactly what he expected. When Zhang Xiu arrived in Xuchang, Cao Cao personally greeted him and named him General Yang Wu and Hou. He also asked his son to marry Zhang Xiu's daughter and become his children's in-laws, without mentioning past grievances.

Jia Xu deserves to be a gangster, and his understanding of human heart and humanity has reached the point where people are divided into three parts. Because of this, the clever Jia Xu became taciturn after surrendering to Cao Cao, living in seclusion and not dealing with the upper-class celebrities at that time. He doesn't even choose the elite when his children get married. As a result, his life was bleak and he died.

The cleverest thing about Jia Xu is that he knows how to gain insight into a person's heart through his subtle external performance. He not only saw through people's hearts, but also saw through human nature. So he was able to make ends meet in the troubled times at that time and won numerous praises.

Laroche believes that the first step to know people is to understand each other's hearts through their external performance. This is the first step in contact with people and the most direct way to observe a stranger. Zhuge Liang is an expert in this field.

After Battle of Red Cliffs, Liu Bei sent Guan Yu to attack Changsha. The battle lasted for a long time, but Guan Yu failed to break the city. Later, the other general Wei Yan killed Han Xuan and sacrificed Changsha City because he was dissatisfied with Han Xuan's rude attitude towards his subordinates.

Who knows, Zhuge Liang, who arrived later, saw Wei Delayed. Instead of praising his contribution, he pushed him out and beheaded him. Liu Bei quickly dissuaded Zhuge Liang and asked him why.

Zhuge Liang replied, "He took Han Xuan's salary, but killed his master. Living in Changsha, but giving the land to others, is an unfaithful and unjust person. I think he has a bone in the back of his head. If he stays in the battle, he will definitely rebel in the future. "

Although Wei Yan saved his life under Liu Bei's intercession, he left his own home after Zhuge Liang's death and wanted to stand on his own feet as king. Fortunately, Zhuge Liang had made plans before he died and ordered Ma Dai to slay Wei Yan, thus avoiding a disaster in Shu.

This shows how important it is for a person to know people correctly. The so-called physiognomy of larded school is not to let you simply observe other people's facial features, but to see their inner truth through their faces.

Judge a person by his appearance, and see his true colors by his deeds.

The external expression of inner thoughts is a person's words and deeds. Therefore, by carefully observing a person's daily behavior, we can get a glimpse of his true face.

During the Three Kingdoms period, Jingzhou had five brothers named Ma, who were called "Ma Wuchang" by local people. Among them, Ma Su, the youngest, became famous and was appreciated by Zhuge Liang, the counselor of Liu Bei's military group at that time. Ma Su often discussed the art of war with some civil servants at that time. He is eloquent and regarded as a wizard. However, Liu Bei is not optimistic about Ma Su. He thinks Ma Su is frivolous and ambitious, not a general. So before he died, he said to Zhuge Liang, who admired Ma Su, "Ma Su is exaggerating and can't be used more."

Unfortunately, Liu Bei's words didn't get Zhuge Liang's attention. After Liu Bei's death, Zhuge Liang led an army to attack Wei and began the Northern Expedition in order to realize Liu Bei's ideal of restoring the Han Dynasty. During this period, Zhuge Liang parted the crowd, appointed Ma Su as the pioneer, and led the army to guard the street pavilion. As a result, Ma Su did not listen to Wang Ping's kind words, so he camped his troops on the mountain. Finally, Zhang Tai cut off his retreat and was defeated. Zhuge Liang regretted it and ordered the thugs to drag Ma Su out and behead him.

When the thugs brought Ma Su's head, Zhuge Liang burst into tears. The generals asked Zhuge Liang, "Ma Su has been convicted and sentenced. Why is the Prime Minister crying? " Zhuge Liang said, "When my late emperor died, he told me that Ma Su was a braggart and could not be reused. It really came true today. I deeply hate myself for not listening to the advice of my late emperor, so I cried. "

A person's ability can be shown through his actions. If he is confused by the illusion of others' appearance when he knows people, it is easy to make a mistake and use the wrong person, thus causing irreparable losses. The difficulty of knowing a person lies in seeing through his heart through his external actions. Through Ma Su's external actions, Liu Bei saw through Ma Su's arrogance and grandiosity, so Ma Su was "useless"; Zhuge Liang only saw Ma Su's external familiarity with the art of war, but he didn't realize his inner ignorance and naivety, so he only got a painful lesson.

There are many people in history who can know the essence of human beings through the actions of others. Liu Bang, the founding emperor of the Western Han Dynasty, is also a model worthy of learning in knowing people.

Although Liu Bang has no culture, he has developed an excellent skill of recognizing people during years of court disputes. His grasp of human nature has reached the point of penetrating, and he can often see through a person's heart through the details of his behavior.

Lv Hou asked Liu Bang: "One hundred years later, Prime Minister Xiao He died. Who can replace him?"

Liu Bang solemnly replied: "Cao Can, although he said that he has no wizards and strategies, he has a strong learning ability. He can replace Xiao He. "

Lv Hou asked again, "What happened after Cao Can?"

Liu bang replied: "it's ok to rob a tomb, but it's stupid, too straight, and sometimes you can't turn the corner, so you need someone to remind you at any time;" Chen Ping is resourceful, but timid. It is difficult for both of them to shoulder the heavy responsibility alone. Only let them work together. "

He also specifically told: "Zhou Bo is the only honest and simple minister, although he is a little illiterate. It must be him who can decide the world in the future. In addition, let Zhou Bo be the commander and take charge of military power. "

Lv Hou wanted someone from Liu Bang who could obey his orders and help him usurp power, so he went on to ask, "Who can be appointed besides Zhou Bo?"

Liu Bang closed his eyes when he didn't answer.

In fact, Liu Bang had long known that he wanted to ruin the country and the people and subvert the Liu family. Before his death, he once said to his important ministers Zhou Bo and Chen Ping, "Lv Hou, a woman, has great ambitions for power. Every time she is asked to choose jewelry, although she hides her true thoughts and only chooses some medium ones, her eyes are always fixed on those noble treasures. After my death, she will definitely subvert state affairs, so you should be prepared. "

As a result, everything was expected by Liu Bang. After Liu Bang's death, Xiao He, Cao Can, Wang Ling and Chen Ping became the pillars of the Han Dynasty. Until BC 187, Lv Hou was unwilling to take power in the background and began to prepare for replacing the Han family in the future.

At this time, Zhou Bo and Chen Ping, who were left behind by Liu Bang before his death, actively staged a coup in accordance with Liu Bang's wishes, and obtained the bugle call by the method of "defeating the enemy without fighting", thus destroying the Lu regime in one fell swoop.

In Liu Bang's arrangement, Chen Ping and Zhou Bo are the most key figures. Chen Pingshan is the first strategist after Sean; Zhou Bo dares to break, "Gaudi thinks this is a great event". Liu Bang left them as the last batch of prime ministers and Qiu candidates known to the emperor, on the one hand, because their combination was brave and resourceful, and they could shoulder the heavy responsibility of restoring the Han Dynasty. On the other hand, they are in high positions, can have more power and have the strength to achieve this goal. This shows Liu Bang's excellent ability to recognize people.

Laroche scholars believe that people are good at camouflage animals. They often keep their ideas deep in their hearts, afraid of being seen by others. And whether he hides it or not, the subtle movements will reflect his nature to some extent. As long as you are good at observation and analysis, you can get rid of the clouds on the surface and see the sky.

Analyze people with words and colors, and guess the heart through expressions.

Li Zongwu believes that a person's psychological activities will be reflected in his expression. Even a man with a deep talent often reveals his inner secrets through his eyes inadvertently. It is the basic skill of a larded person to observe and read. So by trying to figure out each other's expression, you can feel each other's real thoughts and inner feelings. If you can't read, you will turn the rudder without knowing the wind direction, or capsize in the storm.

In the Qing dynasty, there was a juren who studied hard at the cold window for several years and finally became a county magistrate. On his first day in office, he went to visit Daotai's adult. At first, he couldn't think of anything to say. He was silent for a while and suddenly asked, "What's your name, my Lord?" Lord Daotai was surprised by his question and reluctantly told him his last name.

The magistrate bowed his head and thought for a long time, then suddenly said, "There seems to be no adult's surname among hundreds of surnames."

The Daotai was even more surprised and said, "I am a flag bearer. Don't you know in your county? "

The magistrate stood up and asked, "Where is your Excellency?"

Daotai said, "Set up a red flag."

The county magistrate said, "Zhenghuang Banner is the best. Why are adults not in Zhenghuangqi? "

Daotai flew into a rage, but the county magistrate didn't know it. Then the question: "where is the adult's home?"

Tao Tai was so angry that he thought the magistrate was mocking him for being a Commissioner, so he got up and left, and the magistrate was still at a loss.

The next day, the county magistrate received the official document from Daotai and was demoted to a small rural county.

The reason why this county magistrate was demoted was simple: he didn't know how to read and write, but he just expressed his views blindly, hoping to get involved in the relationship with his boss, and the result was self-defeating.

It is a skill that a person must master to know others. A person who knows how to read words and feelings can often know what the other person is thinking through his own observation, so that his reaction can resonate with the other person, thus gaining the trust of the other person and achieving his own goals.

Xiao Shenyang, the beloved prime minister during the Qianlong period of the Qing Dynasty, is not worth mentioning in terms of writing or governing the country. The reason why he was highly valued and loved by Qianlong was that he was particularly good at figuring out the emperor's wishes, catering to the king's wishes, playing politics, and collecting money for the emperor to pay all kinds of expenses that inconvenient him to openly use the state treasury, thus gaining the emperor's favor.

Little Shenyang knows very well that if he wants to win the favor of Emperor Qianlong, he must understand the temperament of the emperor. Through careful observation, Xiao Shenyang quickly mastered the preferences of Emperor Qianlong, and got close to the emperor, and won the love of Emperor Qianlong.

Emperor Qianlong likes to write poems, and often writes some impromptu poems. After careful study of Ganlong's poems, Xiao Shenyang has a deep understanding of the style of Ganlong's poems. From time to time, he borrowed his own poems in front of Qianlong to express his loyalty to the emperor. Gan Long praised his nature and even asked Xiao Shenyang to write some poems instead of himself. Small Shenyang won the preliminary affirmation of Ganlong with its own harvest.

In addition, Emperor Qianlong also loved calligraphy very much, so Xiao Shenyang deliberately imitated Qianlong's calligraphy, which often made it difficult for Qianlong himself to distinguish. Small Shenyang is so well-intentioned, naturally it will not be ignored by Emperor Qianlong, and its official position will rise again and become the prime minister of the dynasty.

Later, a popular uprising took place in Taiwan Province Province, and the Qing army responsible for repression was repeatedly resisted and hit. Ganlong is very angry about this. He called the military official in the study and said that he would use personal expedition.

When the officials heard that the emperor was going to use personal expedition, they were too scared to breathe. Only Xiao Shenyang made it clear that Gan Long's so-called "personal expedition" was carried out within reason. He was just angry and made a fortune in Rowen. Where will he really go in Taiwan Province Province? But you're joking. The emperor's words have been spoken. How can you take them back? Little Shenyang knew it was time for him to speak, so he said softly, "Long live, calm down. I think there are many reasons why the war in Taiwan Province Province has been tense, so long live is not enough. During the long live rule, the people lived and worked in peace and contentment, even the poll tax was exempted. What are you sorry for? The people of Taiwan Province Province fought back because they didn't know my Lord's kindness, generosity and wise SHEN WOO. This is the responsibility of officials in Taiwan Province Province. What does it have to do with you? Now, because of the mistakes of officials in Taiwan Province Province, you have to sacrifice the people of the Central Plains to go through fire and water. How can the people of the Central Plains agree? Besides, my emperor is busy with everything. How could North Korea lose you for a day? Therefore, in my humble opinion, I'd better replace the local officials in Taiwan Province Province, let the newly appointed officials spread your kindness to Taiwan Province Province, and then continue to fight the thieves. At that time, the people of Taiwan Province Province will know your kindness and help us in the Qing Dynasty in turn. In this way, although my emperor has no personal expedition, it has the same effect as personal expedition. Please think twice forever. If you cancel your personal expedition, the world will be very lucky and the country will be very lucky! "

After Qianlong got angry, his anger disappeared and he regretted what he blurted out. After listening to Xiao Shenyang's flattery, he accepted Xiao Shenyang's suggestion, and Xiao Shenyang was praised for it.

It is precisely because Xiao Shenyang is good at catering to, understanding and catering to Qianlong's complacency, exultation, love to listen to flattery and whitewash peace, and he claims to be a wise king and acts according to his own will, so he is especially favored by Qianlong's emperor and becomes Qianlong's only confidant and agent.

According to larded school, the so-called skill of knowing people is to understand a person from "psychological language" and "behavioral language" through quiet observation and help him make a reasonable decision.

Look at others and taste through interest.

Laroche believes that a person's taste in life can be observed through his interests, hobbies and ambitions. The taste of life often affects a person's inner thoughts and true feelings.

Ning Guan was a famous scribe in the Three Kingdoms period, and Hua Xin were good friends. He is a modest gentleman who treats wealth like dirt and is respected.

Once, Guan Ning and Huaxin planted vegetables in the garden and dug up a piece of gold from the ground. Guan Ning kept digging without looking. Huaxin picked it up, looked at it and threw it away.

After a while, they were reading in the room, and when they saw someone passing by, Guan Ning sent them away, and Huaxin put down his book and ran out to see it. Ning Guan despised Hua Xin from now on. He cut the mat where Hua Xin sat and broke up with him.

Later, Guan Ning refused the invitation of Cao Cao, lived in seclusion in the State of Wu, and never worked for the State of Wei for life, which was highly praised by the people. Hua Xin, on the other hand, helped the victims and killed Queen Fu, thus becoming the target of reviling.

As the saying goes, Guan Ning and Hua Xin broke up because Guan Ning saw his passion for fame and fortune through his observation of Hua Xin, saw through Hua Xin's desire to become a powerful person, and found out Hua Xin's interest and taste.

Li Zongwu said: "The most important thing in dealing with the world is to see through others and hide yourself." The first condition to judge others is to know what kind of psychological state the other person is through the study of their hobbies, so as to distinguish between friends and enemies and distinguish between right and wrong.

Liu Bei, the founding monarch of Shu in the Three Kingdoms period, took refuge everywhere in his early years, which made people panic. However, with the reputation of Corporal Lixian, many literati at that time had special respect for him.

When Liu Bei was in Jingzhou, a man named Xu Yi came to see Liu Bei, and Liu Bei sat with him to discuss the world. When talking about the famous Chen Jianqiu at that time, Xu Yun said: "Chen Deng is a very arrogant person. When I went to visit him in Xiapi, he didn't talk to me for a long time, and then he went to the big bed and let me sleep in the small bed. Where is this attitude towards the guests? " Hearing this, Liu Bei said disdainfully, "The first step is called a national scholar, but unfortunately there is no land. Now the world is falling apart, the king's orders are not good, and the people are displaced. As a national celebrity, you not only have no intention of worrying about the country and saving the world, but only know how to buy land everywhere and seek personal gain. This is exactly what heroes in the world despise. Since Chen Deng and you have different ambitions, what can we say to you? You are lucky to meet Chen Deng. You have a small bed to live in. If only I could sleep in a building 100 feet high and let you sleep on the cold ground! " Say that finish, left.

For this matter, Xin Qiji, a poet in the Southern Song Dynasty, left a poem "Begging for a field and asking for a home, fearing the shame of my seeing, and Liu Lang is brilliant" to praise Liu Bei's high morality and integrity. Liu Bei, who has always been known as a courtesy corporal, is so disrespectful to Xu Yunfeng because he has seen through Xu Yunfeng's ambition and interests and can't use it for himself. Therefore, he left angrily.

People's wishes and interests are often expressed through such details as "seeking the land and asking the family". If you want to know whether a person is ambitious or short-sighted, you must learn to find the answer from the details.

In the Tang Dynasty, a highly respected official, Lv Yuanying, often played chess with his colleagues when he was in Luoyang, the eastern capital. On one occasion, Lu Yuanying played chess with an official in charge of money and food. Halfway through, a batch of urgent official documents arrived, which needed Lv Yuan's instructions. So Lv Yuan left the chess game and hurried to deal with official business. When the opportunity came, the money officer who played chess with him secretly changed a piece. As a result, the chess game changed suddenly, and Qian Liangguan was a shoo-in.

When Lv Yuan came back, he found a change. Lv Yuan didn't immediately expose the fake, so he ended the game according to the situation.

A few days later, he politely said to the money manager, "I am overstaffed here, which will inevitably delay my husband's future." I'd better find another job. " After that, I prepared a gift to see him off. Qian Guan had to walk away with a red face.

Other officials were puzzled, so they asked Lv Yuan why he did it. Lu Yuanying said: "People should be aboveboard and should not do things that benefit others and harm others behind their backs. He will even play a game of chess for his own benefit. How can I trust him to be in charge of money and grain in Luoyang? He will never be an official again in his life. If you are an official again, you must be punished for corruption. "

Things did not have Lv Yuan's false expectations. After Qian Guan was dismissed, he bribed his superiors and became an official in charge of money and food in a different place. As a result, a few years later, he was arrested for embezzling money and food. Lv Yuan can clearly see a person's ambition and ambition from a chess piece, which can be described as knowing people's faces but not their hearts.

It is believed that a person's ambition and taste are related to his growth experience and way of thinking, and his taste can often be revealed in details. If a person wants to learn to know people, he must look at each other's tastes through their tastes and hobbies, so as to truly know people in detail and see them in detail.

Personality is broken and personality tends to crack.

Li Zongwu believes that no two people in the world have exactly the same personality. A person who always smiles at people may also wrap his heart so that others can't see it; On the contrary, people who are taciturn sometimes laugh.

Although a person's character is elusive, there are always certain tendencies and internal laws. The formation of a person's character is the result of long-term tempering. As long as we know a person's experience, we can infer a person's personality characteristics.

Fan Li, who helped Gou Jian, the King of Yue, successfully restore the country, was a wise man who saw through human nature.

Fan Li is a native of Chu. Later, there was a war between wuyue. Unfortunately, the State of Yue was defeated by the State of Wu, and Gou Jian, the King of Yue, became a prisoner of the State of Wu and had to be a slave in the State of Wu. In order to ensure Gou Jian's personal safety, Fan Li bribed Ai Bo, the prime minister of Wu State, and asked him to put in a good word for the King of Yue in front of the King of Wu. At the same time, he also gave a beautiful woman stone to King Wu to calm his heart. On the one hand, he constantly encouraged Gou Jian to make a comeback with humiliation, on the other hand, he repeatedly rejected the intention of the prince of Wu to recruit him as an official. Finally, with his efforts, Gou Jian gained the trust of the king of Wu by stratagem and finally returned to the country safely.

Since then, through the joint efforts of Fan Li and doctor Wen Zi, the State of Yue has become increasingly prosperous and powerful. They finally helped Gou Jian destroy the State of Wu and dominate the princes. Fan Li was also named a general by Gou Jian for his outstanding feats.

However, Fan Li realized the danger at this time. In the days of getting along with Gou Jian, Fan Li deeply understood Gou Jian's deep character. At the beginning, Gou Jian did not hesitate to die for rejuvenating the country. Now that the world is closed, it is difficult to protect peace. Therefore, he asked Gou Jian to retire, but Gou Jian refused to leave, so he left without saying goodbye and fled to Qi overnight.

When Fan Li left, he wrote a letter to Wen Zi, who was in the same boat, and advised Wen Zi: "A sly rabbit dies, and a running dog cooks; The birds are exhausted, and the bow is hidden. The King of Yue is a deep and vicious person. You can get into trouble with him, but you can't get rich with him. If Mr. Wang doesn't leave, it will definitely harm him. "

Wen Zi didn't believe Fan Li's suggestion and didn't leave the country. He didn't go to court on the pretext that he was ill. Soon, the King of Yue gave Wen Zi a dagger, and Wen Zi deeply regretted not listening to Fan Li, so he drew his sword and committed suicide.

The so-called human nature, in short, is a person's feelings and thinking habits formed in the process of survival. Once this habit is formed, it is difficult to change. For example, some people are used to being angry, while others are used to being sad. This is the emotional habit. Some people are used to doubt, while others are used to fantasy. This is the habit of thinking.

Laroche believes that a person's personality affects his behavior norms and ways. Through your own observation, you can see through this person's inner world. Fan Li recognized the character of King Yue from his daily behavior, so he resolutely chose to retire after his success, thus avoiding the end of rabbit death.

As the saying goes, "eyes speak better than mouth." Jorge Posada believes that even though a person's mouth can endlessly fabricate lies, his eyes are still authentic. So you can infer a person's psychology from his eyes alone. But if you want to grasp a person's personality, you must take the eyes as the core, and then carefully observe each other's expressions.

Expression is a reflection of emotion. The so-called emotion refers to a person's inner spiritual activities such as feelings and will, especially the superficial actions that can best reflect emotions, which are called expressions.

So as long as you carefully observe a person's expression, you can basically see through his personality tendency and judge his interpersonal relationship. For example, people with rich expressions and bright smiles often have good interpersonal relationships, and such people are easy to kiss.