Compared with the three young ladies, the economic situation of the elder sister of scallion cake is not as good as theirs. A family of three can only live in a shabby and narrow house and get up before dawn every day, but they seem to be much happier than people in Gu Jia.
People who are optimistic, strong and easy to satisfy can indeed be happier.
But the upper-middle class people like Gu Jia who live in the top aristocratic community still feel anxious. Will Zhong, whose family is well-off, worry about trifles? Will it really be easier for women living at the bottom to set up food stalls?
If you think about it carefully, you will know that the happiness of the 30-year-old "scallion cake family" is only the biggest scam. The play only shows the warm scene of a family of three, but it doesn't depict them worrying about their lives.
Setting up food stalls should not only face the wind and sun of nature, but also deal with the urban management that comes at any time; How to survive in a big city is not so easy.
There is a scene in the play in which a rainstorm strikes. The sister of scallion cake covers the booth with a tarpaulin, and her husband hides in a telephone booth to avoid the rain. A family of three didn't complain about the bad weather, but happily made a video call.
Are you really happy on such a day? They are smiling, but I feel very sad.
In the same situation, few people can really enjoy this kind of life from the heart, so there will be adults crying in the street because life is not satisfactory; There will be a takeaway brother squatting on the side of the road with tears in his eyes and eating the food returned by customers; There will be middle-aged men who commit suicide by jumping off a building because of unemployment.
The life of the scallion cake family is not uncommon, but there are really few people who can enjoy themselves in suffering like them.
In the finale of "Nothing More than Thirty", the scallion cake maker has his own shop and has lived a better life by his own efforts, which is admirable; But the screenwriter also concealed such a story at the beginning of the play:
Poor but loving couples get rich by pushing fast food trucks. When life got better, the husband and his new lover reorganized their families. The wife saw the glamorous mistress and lamented that she didn't even have decent clothes. She worked hard for half her life, earned money, but lost her home.
So she bought millions of jewels in a shop in Wang Manni, saying that women should be better to themselves.
Isn't her experience the last "scallion cake sister"? The reality is that many bitter couples can't share the joys and sorrows, because more wealth means more temptations, so it is very common for husbands in the circle of rich women to "steal food", and even a hen-pecked wife like Xu Huanshan can betray a good wife like Gu Jia.
Is the story of this family told at the end of every episode of Except Thirty just to prove that the poor can be happier than the rich?
Obviously not. The ending of this family was written as early as the moment when the elder sister walked into the Wang Manni store with the basket. The same fast food truck, the same poor couple, this story is more like a circle, and the similar plots are constantly circulating, which also implies a cruel truth of 30-year-old women: women can only resist sudden changes if they are strong.
What makes me feel sorry especially is the children of the scallion cake family. He is about the same age as Gu Jia's son Xu Ziyan, but he leads a completely different life.
Xu Ziyan attended the most expensive kindergarten and studied English, equestrian and other courses in his early years. Gu Jia has been preparing for Xu Ziyan to go abroad; Xu Ziyan has toys, a bathtub, a nanny and nutritious meals at home. Kindergarten students are all children of rich families, and everyone is equally well informed and wins at the starting line.
And what about the son of the scallion cake family? There are mosquitoes in the place where I live in summer, and there is no separate bathroom. Bathing is a problem; After school, he follows his mother and sometimes helps her sell cakes.
He ate the "pure white egg" that his mother scraped off the egg white in the thrown eggshell and fried it. Occasionally exchanging their own food with other stall owners and eating only roadside stalls every day is really unhealthy for growing children.
He didn't study his major, and he didn't have any valuable hobbies. Every day, he plays with bugs or cats. His only short-lived friend is Xu Ziyan, but even if Xu Ziyan's family is ruined, there is still a tea factory in his family. How do two children face the huge gap when they grow up?
Friendship is also appropriate. At the age of five, he lost consciousness. When he is 25 years old, he will know that Xu Ziyan is not with him.
He has to share a bed with his parents at night. After school, he followed the roadside stall and didn't even watch a cartoon. Once, he ran into the middle of the road and almost had an accident. Thanks to the help of a kind driver, he was not injured.
I feel that adults are forced to endure such a weather-beaten wandering life, and children have to suffer this kind of suffering since childhood. It's really pitiful.
When he is older, it will be more difficult for local children in Shanghai to laugh at him and make friends with him than in Xu Ziyan.
He has no special skills, no hobbies, and has never seen the world. When he grows up, he is likely to feel inferior because of these. Will the scallion cake family be happy?
If you haven't given your child the ability to live a better life, don't rush to bring him into this world.
In fact, Chen Yu has fully considered the issue of having children. Whether two people can support one more person economically and whether both sides can have mature psychology to face childbirth are all issues that need to be considered before becoming parents.
The scallion cake couple gave their children enough love, but materially, they really lacked it. It's not easy to be such a parent, but I don't advocate such a birth concept.
About the author: Lei Yitian, an engineering graduate from 985 University, is the author of 10W+ explosive articles. Welcome attention.