Because my girlfriend's latest girlfriend came to our city for micro-plastic surgery, I was disgusted and excited when I heard the news. I think this is the so-called moral kidnapping, imposing my own values on others, and plastic surgery is an unacceptable concept in my heart. Therefore, I heard that my girlfriend's best friend wanted plastic surgery, which caused me strong discomfort. I also launched my girlfriend and tried to persuade my best friend to give up plastic surgery together.
First of all, whether plastic surgery is the right thing or not, I just don't think others should do it, so this is forcing others to do what I want, and everyone has the freedom to choose. I'm a little nosy.
Secondly, I didn't reflect on my own thoughts, but pointed out that others had done something wrong and stood at the moral high ground with my girlfriend to criticize others. Such behavior makes me feel a little ashamed.
Third, my girlfriend's best friend just does micro-plastic surgery and doesn't change her appearance. Great progress has been made in what she is willing to do with her own money. As friends, why don't we support her just because we need to delay time with her? I think it's because we lack self-awareness ability.
Finally, my girlfriend's best friend trusted us and asked us to accompany her to the plastic surgery hospital. We betrayed her trust and criticized her behavior mentally, which at least brought her mental pressure, so there was a bad sign that day. When my girlfriend got on the bus, her finger was caught by the door, and my daughter hit her head on the coffee table while playing, which made me unhappy when I helped my sister with her luggage. These unpleasant things have a reason. My understanding is that the world is alive, and the world will treat you as you treat it. So do people. We and others are mirror images of each other. If you can't see the goodness of others, others will react on you, so that we can live in a world where you are not good and I am not good.
What really chills me a little is that I realize that I live in a low-dimensional world now. On the level of consciousness, I think the plastic surgery of my girlfriend's best friend is "you are not good, I am fine". Our relationship is like being in a binary world, and all our attention is focused on her bad aspects (or shortcomings), thus ignoring her good aspects (or advantages).
From this matter, I try to reflect on my own thinking and see where there are loopholes. The world I want in my heart should be "You are fine, and I am fine". From now on, we are not as good as we thought, but if we can see each other's advantages and focus on our own growth, it is not important to prove ourselves at all. If the growth is realized, then proving yourself will be completed automatically.
Using my metacognitive ability, I can find my own shortcomings at the right time, which makes me feel creepy, because I have done nothing wrong and brought my girlfriend into the ditch. I told myself from the bottom of my heart that this kind of thing that harms others and does not benefit myself must never happen again in this life, which also sounded the alarm for me. The only thing we can avoid is to focus on our own growth and eventually live in. "