The function of "daughter-in-law" will evolve again every holiday, and the resentment of daughter-in-law can be seen from the word "tool daughter-in-law". We will reorganize and publish last year's daughter-in-law's picture book, hoping that her various voices can be heard by relatives and friends.

First, the family daughter-in-law

Before the Chinese New Year, the biggest headache for daughters-in-law is the annual Spring Festival cleaning!

The sad tears of others' daughter-in-law

Before getting married, sisters might watch TV or eat snacks at home, and elders would chew carefully why they didn't help. Those who have cleaning habits may get up and clean together.

Some people continue to watch TV and eat snacks, but when they get married, it's very different. In addition to cleaning the home where they live, if they don't live with their in-laws, they have to overcome all difficulties, even ask for leave from the company and fly back to the man's parents to fulfill their obligations as "housewives". Why doesn't the man have the "responsibility" and "obligation" to fly to the woman's parents' house to clean up? )

Here, I provide a small step for a housewife to fight back.

In fact, there is now a "home management" service, which can provide fixed-point cleaning and door-to-door cleaning!

But just like the distress of daughter-in-law Ahua next door: "But my in-laws think that the cost of cleaning is too high. Anyway, there is a daughter-in-law at home, so it's okay for her to sweep. It only happens once a year anyway. Is there any difficulty? " 」

Teach daughters-in-law some small steps. You can ask your husband to arrange on-site cleaning service directly, and pay the fee first. On the morning of the appointed cleaning day or an hour before, you can tell your parents that you have arranged for the cleaner to enter the man's parents' home in lightning speed, so there is no chance to refuse, and it is also a good opportunity for your husband to thank his parents for their kindness. Besides, this is also a great opportunity to support social groups! It is better to act now than to move!

In addition, if you are interested in long-term door-to-door cleaning service, you can go to Peng Wenjiao Foundation, a consortium legal person, for details ~ ~

Data supplement: Peng Foundation focuses on long-term door-to-door service and does not accept single cleaning application. If you want to clean your home during the Spring Festival, you can find a legally registered family service agency.

Recommended reading: resignation letter to in-laws, I don't want to be a daughter-in-law.

Second, the stove foot daughter-in-law.

The Lunar New Year is basically a concept of "guests keep coming, bye bye". Traditional families began a series of worship from the twelfth lunar month, from the worship of the earth god and the kitchen god to the busiest New Year's Eve. Experienced friends know that you should never chat with people who cook in the kitchen before the New Year's Eve, because they are usually busy and their anger will be ignited at any time.

During the Spring Festival, the person who is most expected to be responsible for kitchen chores is the "daughter-in-law". Daughter-in-law should not neglect to prepare fruit snacks for relatives and friends. In addition to learning the tastes and dishes that the man's family likes, she almost has to stand by in the kitchen during the New Year.

Bitter tears of daughter-in-law in the kitchen

After becoming a daughter-in-law, the elders will put the responsibility of preparing for worship and New Year's Eve dinner on the daughter-in-law. Anyway, whether you can cook before marriage or not, you will definitely worship after marriage. If you are a daughter-in-law who is not good at cooking, you must accompany her, praise her elders' cooking skills from time to time, or help with chores such as loofah skin or picking vegetables;

If you are a big daughter-in-law, or not a sweet-mouthed daughter-in-law, you should become a "senior chef's daughter-in-law" and arrange good-bye from New Year's Eve to the second day of junior high school. However, the most depressing thing is that when the daughter-in-law cooks, her mother-in-law will guide you how to cut and how to do it, which will suit the appetite of the family. Chinese New Year seems to be a part-time job in a restaurant, but it doesn't feel like a holiday at all.

Interestingly, men who want to help in the kitchen are often kicked out, saying that they are all thumbs and can't help. In fact, boys are not expected to be responsible for cooking and other housework from an early age. )

Here, I want to provide a mini-skimming step for my wife to fight back.

In fact, it is a good idea for many families to choose restaurants or restaurants in order to save the trouble of preparation and cleaning up. If they have the habit of paying New Year's greetings at home, they can also book New Year's dishes directly to avoid the dilemma of fatigue and worry.

But just like the distress of daughter-in-law Ahua next door: "But my in-laws say that buying worship has both meat and elements. Anyway, there is a daughter-in-law at home, so it's okay for her to cook a meal. It only happens once a year anyway. Is there any difficulty? " Daughter-in-law should not be so lazy ~ ~ "

Please, the average office worker can have a good rest only if he has annual leave this week, let alone a housewife who stays all year round 365 days a year. How can the family bear to make their daughter-in-law and sisters work so hard? Here are the most time-saving and labor-saving bye-bye menu post-it notes for your reference: (In fact, if a family can divide their work and everyone is responsible for their own good housework, it can make this festival less angry and more gender-conscious. Let's have a challenge!

Meat food

Most of the 12 vegetarian dishes needed for sacrifice can be ordered for take-away. Just remember to cook a pot of plain rice, so you can also enjoy the fun of online shopping. Say goodbye to the three common animals on the table-"chicken, fish and pig". You can also buy a chicken, fish and pork burger in a fast food restaurant instead.

Be a vegetarian.

Sweet potato, jelly, three-string noodles, fruits (oranges, dates or pineapples), rice cakes, steamed cakes, vegetarian radish cakes, melon seeds, peanuts, walnuts, pistachios and glutinous rice balls that can be bought near convenience stores can be directly used as sacrifices, and you can buy all the sacrifices when you walk into the alley, saving time and effort.

Third, catch a pregnant daughter-in-law

As a daughter-in-law, everyone must be "When will you have a baby?" ","why don't you give birth? " When the problems are blown up. From before marriage to after marriage, as long as friends and family get together, these questions will be skipped constantly. Especially the New Year's Eve of the first year after marriage has become a nightmare for every wife. In this occasion full of "magic people", daughters-in-law will inevitably doubt whether they are used as a tool to carry on the family line.

Grasp the bitter tears of pregnant daughter-in-law

In traditional family culture, the pressure of having children comes from the expectation of "spreading incense". If both husband and wife have other plans to have children, whether they don't want to or can't have children, they may be described as selfish and hedonistic, and there may even be rumors that the husband and wife don't love each other.

What is commonly heard is this:

■ "It's too late to have children, so it's not easy to have children in the future. It's too late. 」

■ "When I still have physical strength, you should be alive soon. I can help you look after the children. 」

■ "One is too few, when do you want a second child? 」

■ "Sisters also have lives? That's someone else's child! 」

■ "My parents are also old and want to have grandchildren before I" that ". 」

In addition to the fertility tactics shared above, the daughter-in-law Ahua next door also shared a more exaggerated story. Before Ahua got pregnant, her in-laws gave her a "comparison table of boys and girls in Qing Dynasty" and asked her to attend classes according to the table immediately. When she was pregnant for three or four months, Ahua obviously felt that her in-laws had expectations for the sex of the fetus. If she finds out that you are not pregnant with a boy, some even find someone to do a "flower-changing" tire-changing spell and drink several bowls of water every day.

In addition, there are many restrictions on diet and daily life, for fear of disturbing the fetal god. Next, it includes confinement, the time of caesarean section, whether the husband and wife should sleep in separate rooms, the child's name right and so on. Elders should intervene everywhere and make decisions for their grandchildren.

For the pressure of the elders during the Chinese New Year holiday, if the sisters have tried their best to communicate ineffectively, here are some tips for your reference:

The first formula

Quote the three most common daughter-in-law treasures in internet culture: "Uh-huh, hehe, take a bath", so you should be able to muddle through in the first year.

The second formula

In the second year, the in-laws will have more firepower than in the first year. Sisters can look at their in-laws with respect and say gently and firmly, "thank you, I will try my best!" 」。

The third formula

After the third year, I dragged my husband into the war, took out my pocket and said to my parents with empty eyes, "How can I live without money?" 」

With these three tricks, rebellious wives will probably be able to stop for three to five years, but we still need to find opportunities to make a comeback. When Ahua next door used these three tricks, her in-laws had no choice but to move their brains to the name of Ahua, thinking that the word Ahua was not easy to take, and decided to rename her.

Therefore, the following "Ahua" will be renamed as "Cao Cao" ... That is to say, why don't the parents-in-law think that the son's name is not easy to take? )

I deeply feel that we should launch a "daughter-in-law friendly movement" for our sisters. Please respect the decision between husband and wife, and don't ask any more questions ~ ~ Finally, I suggest that fans can learn about the current parenting policies first, which is more practical and important than giving birth to boys and girls!

Recommended reading: The daughter-in-law is pregnant, and the father-in-law says, "If the child is a boy, stay in Korea for education. If it is a girl, you can do it yourself."

Fourth, public relations daughter-in-law

From escort to escort, the daughter-in-law is like entering a public relations company. In addition to remembering the titles and information of relatives in-laws, sometimes even the in-laws of relatives should know. Facing the courtesy of relatives and friends and fruit drinks, even chatting can't be awkward. We must first prepare a few topics to stir up the atmosphere at any time and sincerely force the people to represent the candidates. The title of "public relations daughter-in-law" is a must!

Bitter tears of public relations daughter-in-law

During the Chinese New Year, a public relations woman serves on the dining table in the living room and dining room almost like a stewardess. As long as they see that the teacup is empty, they should ask "coffee or tea?" 」 。 All kinds of small things, such as staying up too late, staying in the room and not coming out to say hello, sitting in the living room and not going to the kitchen to help cut fruit, can make you a wife of ng.

Daughters-in-law, everyone has worked hard! Here, I have selected several sets of "Daughter-in-law's Life" for public relations daughters-in-law, which can be used together when there are lanterns in life. Teacher, please play the music:

Grandma's words/Fuzhu Liu's lyrics: Fuzhu Liu/composer: Fuzhu Liu

Music Review: This song describes various traditional values and many hidden rules in the field of daughter-in-law. Before marriage, I only felt disdain, and after marriage, every word was bloody and tearful.

* * */Chen Xiaoyun Lyrics: Yu Longhua/Composer: Yu Longhua

Music Review: The artistic conception of the lyrics and the singer fully explain the helplessness of the public relations daughter-in-law, and the expression of tears in front of people is also very vivid. For the public relations daughter-in-law, it's like finishing a dream after the Chinese New Year.

Good night/Yu-Ching Fei writes lyrics and composes.

Music Review: Everyone is asleep, which is the moment when the PR daughter-in-law can really rest. In order to meet the challenge of the next day, the daughter-in-law needs the positive energy in the lyrics! Don't miss what you should forget!

It is definitely not a simple matter to tolerate the husband's family and maintain a smile at the corners of the mouth. If you want to spend your annual leave smoothly, you can refer to the anti-wife strategy here:

Five, with a hidden daughter-in-law

For homosexuals, holidays can be a stressful time, because "coming out to your family" has always been the most difficult problem in China culture. In the face of caring eyes from relatives and friends, or warm greetings from elders, most of them can only be silent or have fun.

This contradiction and tug-of-war have made comrades-in-arms and friends have unspeakable "companions." Even if a partner comes to visit at home during the Chinese New Year, most of them can only be called "girlfriends" and "girlfriends". The status of your partner is invisible to your family, so be sure to remind your partner not to get too close. But to be honest, how can the family not see the clue? It's not so much a cover-up, as a cover-up. Endless bitterness, let "Tibetan daughter-in-law" explain it to everyone …

The bitter tears of the same hidden daughter-in-law

For comrades-in-arms, annual leave is really hard. Obviously, it is a precious holiday for office workers, but they can't spend the New Year with their partners like heterosexuals. They even have to be careful when making phone calls, and often meet at the end of annual leave (wiping their tears).

If you are assigned to each other's home for the New Year as a friend, you will often encounter many embarrassing scenes. Like lesbian friends, they are often asked the following questions …

■ "Do you have a boyfriend? Do you want your uncle and aunt to introduce you? 」

■ "Don't you have a boyfriend? Our brother Hoa is a good man. Think about it! 」

■ "Look at you, you are so beautiful in vain, and our daughter is so feminine. I want to learn more from you ~ ~ "

My daughter-in-law's inner theater is really busy during the annual leave ~ ~ I'm here to misappropriate gamblers' gambling methods and provide them to several rebellious daughter-in-law and some survival strategies for gay friends who is still struggling at home:

If you don't win, you win first.

Before you are ready to come out, if you feel the temptation pressure from your elders, it is very important to integrate gender issues into your usual life situation and let everyone know the concept of gender human rights! Simply put, it is to lead the whole family to the road of equality between men and women with momentum!

The lion fights the rabbit and rules the world.

It means "use all your strength to deal with small things seriously." That is to say, if family members are biased against multi-gender issues, even if they are joking, they should solemnly clarify to each other and help their families establish the concept of respect. In this way, the day of family acceptance is naturally not far away.

If you are strong, you will give in and lend flowers to the Buddha.

For the issue of coming out, in addition to the usual preparations, fate is also very important. If the elders strongly rebound on the issue of homosexuality, it is not the time. Why don't you switch to the channel your elders like to watch and wait for the next crossing ~ ~

The above three moves, I hope to bring a little turn for gay friends's annual leave. Let's turn over the new year together and wish everyone a happy new year!

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