1. Next time you focus on the scar on your arm, remember to think carefully about what happened in the past and say to yourself, fortunately, I just burned a scar the size of a coin on my arm. If I hadn't done this, I really couldn't imagine what I would have done. At that time, I burned a scar the size of a coin, which showed that I was not mature enough. Now that I am mature enough, I will never do anything out of control again. There is no shame in having this scar. I can regard it as the beginning of my maturity and be a truly promising man from now on. That thing is over, don't think about it. Imagine that you used a shredder to crush your habit of focusing on that scar on your arm. At the same time, you should actively imagine in your mind that after doing so, your heart will be safer, stronger, more proud and more confident than before.

When you can do this often, the psychological problems that once troubled you will disappear on your own.

2. You said that you had read some nlp books in the past, but you forgot after doing them several times, and the effect was not obvious. The reason for your doubt is that your determination is not enough, or your association practice is not enough.

That was not the case.

The reason why the effect is not obvious is not that your determination is not enough, nor that your association practice is not enough, but that your mentality has not really changed. You failed to recognize the beneficial side from your past behavior, but you never let go of the psychological shadow left by the past, which is the fundamental reason why your previous effect was not obvious.

In this case, although on the surface you are afraid of other people's negative comments and you care about others, in fact, the center of your concern is yourself.

The root of all human troubles lies in people's excessive concern for themselves. Therefore, the only effective way to get rid of this trouble is to forget me.

When you live with a selfless spirit, combine your personal life with the life of all mankind, and strive for ideals, beliefs and careers, you can transcend personal existence to achieve universal existence, transcend finite and infinite, transcend self-struggle and strive for the freedom of all mankind, so as to live a carefree, satisfied, free, natural, hopeful and stable and harmonious happiness.

Selflessness is the highest state of human spirit.