The three views conform to the fact that people have something to say together, and there will be fewer contradictions between them. If the three views are inconsistent, many things in life are irreconcilable contradictions, ranging from food, clothing, housing and transportation to family relations.
Can be willing to spend money for me, no money to earn, but never stingy with what is necessary. He may only have 100 yuan on him, but he is willing to spend 99 yuan for you. When you are in trouble, I can help you.
I will take the initiative to comfort you after quarreling: couples are most afraid of cold violence when quarreling. Even if they quarrel with you, they are still willing to take the initiative to coax you, comfort your emotions first, and then explain his feelings and thoughts to you. Such talents are worth entrusting.
I didn't prepare it for you: if he doesn't even want to show you his mobile phone and tell you his family or his own financial situation, what trust is there? How much weight do you have in his heart?
His relatives and friends all know that you exist: whether it's a friend's party or a family dinner, the first thing that comes to mind is you. If there is an opportunity, he can take you out and introduce you to everyone.
I am very happy to travel and date with him: most people now regard premarital travel as a trial marriage, which is a good opportunity to get to know and get along with each other. Marriage itself is like two people walking together, with beautiful scenery and thorny problems, and they work together to solve them.
There is an independent economic foundation: there is a real package to change forever. He doesn't have to be rich, but at least he has enough economic foundation to support your family.
Urging you to make progress independently ◇ spoil you blindly or move you away, which may not really love you. People who really love you and are kind to you will hope that you will make continuous progress, keep improving, make common progress and push each other forward.
Parents' problems include old-age care and daily care. Will you go out to live alone or live with your parents after marriage? Can the decision of a small family be independent of parents? Do parents need help raising their children? Do you provide financial support to your parents?
These problems need serious consideration. What is more difficult is that the couple can't make a decision on this, but also consider the views and preferences of both parents.
When are you going to have a baby? Ask each other clearly, please bring your own child after birth, or do both parents come to help?
Including parenting style, parenting responsibility distribution, etc. On this issue, women often complain about men, but complaining can't solve the problem. Both sides should realize that children are shared by both sides, not just the responsibility of one side. When raising children, the two sides may pay differently, but both sides must pay, and if necessary, sacrifice some personal hobbies.
If there is an opportunity at work, can you allow the other person to work in other cities? What are our earning power and goals? Can you accept the nature and time of each other's work?
After marriage, the future of the other party's job is directly related to the economic strength and stability of the family. No one wants the other's job to change dramatically after marriage, so both sides need to make some plans for the other's career development and avoid unilateral job-hopping.