People are completely different in the matter of birth; Some people may have everything at birth, but some people will suffer from poverty and life at birth.

Some people say that the wealth of family background has a great influence on a person's growth, but this statement is absolutely correct.

If you let a person from a rich family, you will find that it is very different from a person from a poor family who only has enough food and clothing.

There are essential differences between academic completion in the process of growth and love and marriage in adulthood.

It is true that "it is difficult for a poor family to have a noble child." Similarly, it is difficult for a poor family to change their future life through marriage.

After all, most people now pay attention to a suitable marriage; You are a poor boy, don't imagine that a girl with a good family will marry you.

Especially when children get married, some parents can't even afford to give their children a wedding; But the wedding may be what girls want. After all, it only happens once in a lifetime.

Some unhappy marriages are often due to lack of money; In order to marry the girl he likes at home, the boy has no choice but to lie to the girl to marry him.

But can such a marriage really be happy?

A female reader contributed her experience to me. She said that she didn't know until she got married that the money for the wedding was borrowed by her in-laws. Now that I am married, my husband secretly helps my in-laws pay back the money.

First of all, the female reader spoke:

Promise me before marriage that you will be good to me after marriage and work hard to live a good life together; Just married for a month, I found out the lies my husband kept from me.

We can fall in love freely. We met at work. Small cities are all rural families. In fact, I don't have any extravagant demands and rich expectations for marriage. I just think that people who fall in love and get married must be responsible, self-motivated and willing to be kind to me.

It's that simple. Even if he has no money now, I believe that as long as both of us are not lazy and willing to work hard, the future will be better and better.

Because of this, I have never rejected my husband's poor family. His family is really poor. The husband is the second child in the family, the boss is married, and the husband's younger brother is still in college.

My husband's parents are over 60 years old and have no jobs. They live in rural areas all the year round and can't earn much money.

I just think my husband is good to me. He is particularly motivated. Now I am engaged in the decoration industry, and I plan to take over this job myself in a few years. I'm taking a teacher exam, and now I'm a teacher in a township primary school.

I didn't think much about the two of us getting married, but I feel that my family is similar. Although my parents have income and family conditions are slightly better, I don't mind these.

However, after we got married, I realized that the money we got married turned out to be money borrowed by my in-laws from villagers, which was a usury in the countryside.

Borrowed 30,000 yuan for the wedding and agreed to return it to others 1 year.

Two days ago, I found my husband secretly gave my in-laws 5K to pay them back first.

In fact, to tell the truth, I am particularly angry; I gave my family 33 thousand bride price, and I got it all back; If someone gets married with three gold medals, I get rings and earrings.

I don't think these are important. There will be in the future, as long as my husband is good to me.

But what makes me angry is why my husband didn't discuss such a big thing with me first; What makes me even more angry is that my husband's parents can't help at all.

I don't want to say anything more. If I choose this marriage, I have to live.

Second, the author doubts:

Hiding the truth and lying to your partner are taboo.

I think it is a good state to get along with each other when there is something to discuss between husband and wife.

Now that you have made up your mind to marry your husband, it shows that you are ready to face some hardships in marriage and some difficulties in life.

So your husband really doesn't have to hide this from you. Since he can't afford a wedding, let's just do it. There's no need to borrow money for a wedding to save face.

After all, his parents are his parents. They are old and have no income. These are all helpless things.

Your husband has been with you for so long, don't you know this?

There is no way to avoid borrowing money His mistake is that he shouldn't hide the truth from you.