Although I am a native of Yi nationality, I know little about the marriage customs of Yi nationality. It was not until I attended my brother's engagement ceremony that I learned something about the marriage customs of the Yi people.

On the day of my brother's engagement, I was in charge of taking pictures. However, according to the marriage custom of Yi people, the engagement team consists of nine elders and brothers of the man ("nine" means "solid" in Yi language), and there can be no girls, so I took the bus to the woman's house in advance.

When I arrived, someone was standing around the woman's house. I found a position suitable for taking pictures and waited for the engagement team to arrive.

"Come, come ..." Hearing the sound, I saw the venerable elder walking at the front of the engagement team, followed by my brother and others. They entered the gate, and there was no one in the yard. According to the rules, the girl of the woman's family will splash water on the engagement team. Where did they go? The silent air is filled with "murder". The fighting team moved forward carefully again. When they reached the front door, boy! Girls who just left suddenly appeared from all directions, some with spoons, some with bowls, and some with buckets, throwing water at them. The soldiers flew very fast, and this "raid" completely disrupted all the countermeasures they wanted, so everyone had to flee to the back room. But the girls are in charge of the inner room and the outer room. Wherever they go, the water will splash. This "female soldier" who splashes water seems to have received special training and a clear division of labor: the little girl is responsible for carrying water outside, the older one guards the gate to prevent someone from escaping, and others are full-time splashing water. Several important people in the warring teams have become "turtles in a jar", with nowhere to run and nowhere to hide. ...

After more than ten minutes of "indiscriminate bombing", all nine of them were "soaked", and the worst of course was their brother. At this time, the elder of the woman's family was "very angry" and "reprimanded" the girl who splashed water: "You didn't listen to advice or scold. How can you shower your guests like this? " It was after the adults repeatedly stopped the attack that the girls stopped. Seeing the water 2 ~ 3 cm deep on the ground, I can't help feeling: the woman's family is really strong. It seems that my brother should be careful in the future!

Seeing their brother shivering with cold, the boy of the woman's family brought firewood and let them sit by the fireplace to keep warm. After a while, the elder brothers of the woman's family also sat over and chatted while eating. At first, everyone just politely exchanged peace and good luck. After a few glasses of wine, everyone's chatterboxes opened, and the elders began to use Er Bilgi (Yi proverb) to spell wit and eloquence. The younger generation began to take turns drinking cups and cups with relatives and friends of the host family, which was very lively.

Yi people are a people with clear love and hate. They are passionate about the people and things they like, just like the fire in the fireplace. Indifferent to people and things you don't like, as cold as cold water in winter. But splashing water when engaged is a sign of decontamination and blessing.