The wedding night is the first of the "four joys" in life. Without human reproduction, where did it come from? Where can I meet my old friends in a foreign country? Even if it is a long drought, what's the point?
Marriage is the first stop to start the happy journey of life, and the wedding is a ceremony for two people who love each other in this happy position, and it is also a moment to witness happiness. A harmonious, warm, relaxed and happy wedding reception will bring more happiness to this wedding and get more people's blessings.
The etiquette at the wedding reception determines whether the wedding will be perfect in the end. To put it bluntly, it is how to arrange the position of uncle at the wedding banquet. If it is not handled properly, it will make people complain and hurt their loved ones. Otherwise people will knock over the table and make people laugh.
Under normal circumstances, the bride's family will hold a ceremony to leave the house on the first day of marriage, and invite relatives and friends to participate. In the arrangement of seats, my uncle often takes the chair, followed by my uncle and uncle.
On the wedding day, that is, the man's house, we must pay attention to the arrangement of the wedding banquet. On this day, the bride bid farewell to her family and came to the man. On this day, the bride is the oldest. On this day, the bride's farewell speaker is not only the chief, but also the escort. Specifically, there are the following situations:
First, according to the opinions of the bride's family, see how many people the other party will come and who they are; The man should make preparations in advance and arrange his seat.
Second, it depends on the other party's request to arrange several separate seats. The man can ask the priority of the other staff, that is, in order of importance.
Third, it is most important for the man to find a good companion. It should be arranged in the order of uncle, uncle and uncle, with uncle accompanying female No.1 to see her off, and so on.
Of course, not all uncles are assigned to the first place. You can choose a representative. Let my uncle discuss this, or find someone who can drink a lot, or find someone who can talk, or find an elderly person. The advantage is that my uncle's family won't give advice.
Fourth, if there are few people to send the bride, you can arrange uncles, uncles and uncles to accompany you at the same table, but the seating order cannot be arbitrary.
Fifth, if my uncle takes the initiative to give way, my uncle will become the first escort.
You can get a glimpse of the whole leopard by giving a few examples that happened around you.
First, a young man got married and sent his son away. As a teenager, his uncle didn't come to congratulate him because he was unwell. The groom's family arranged for the escort to see him off, which was embarrassing. According to the truth, my uncle is the oldest and should be the first to accompany him, but my uncle didn't come, only one child came. What should I do? At this time, my uncle's son said that his father said he would take the initiative to give up his position to the groom's uncle. This solved the sadness of the groom's father; That night, my uncle's family and my aunt's relatives haven't left. At dinner, the groom's uncle said nothing and insisted that my uncle's son, the teenager, be seated.
This is a typical example of mutual humility between uncles. If my uncle doesn't let me at noon, the wedding reception can't go smoothly; If my uncle doesn't let me at night, I will be scolded by others. Mutual humility and comity are the virtues of the Chinese nation, not to mention that everyone is still a direct relative at this time. Only in this way will relatives get closer and closer.
Secondly, at another wedding banquet, my uncle bullied my uncle's honesty, rudely said that he was the first escort, and took the initiative to sit in the position of the first escort. Afterwards, my uncle and aunt almost turned against each other.
Third, my uncle and uncle fought for the qualification of being the first escort. Finally, the groom's father was partial to his uncle, which made him angry on the spot. After scolding, he overturned the table.
Of course, these discordant scenes also have a lot to do with the host of the on-site wedding banquet. They don't know manners, don't communicate with the groom's family, and do whatever they want.
In addition, this wonderful thing often happens at some wedding banquets. Now, I will sort out a few cases:
Example 1: Regardless of relatives, leadership is paramount. At this time, it is the day when everyone sends you blessings and congratulations. It is the time to get in touch with feelings and life, not the time to work, not the time to curry favor with leaders and flatter.
Such parents are confused and will be scolded as a result; If you lead too hard, something will happen sooner or later.
Example 2, arrange the seating according to the interest relationship, regardless of etiquette. It was supposed to be my uncle's seat, but I arranged for my uncle to be in the upper position, not even my own uncle, because this uncle helped the groom's father's business.
The inheritance of these traditional cultures is particularly obvious in rural areas, and some people may say that these are not necessarily correct. Yes, but this is the inheritance of China culture, which is undeniable. While inheriting Chinese culture, we should know etiquette, enrich and perfect Chinese culture, and be the inheritor of China traditional culture.
Some people may say that their uncle is the oldest. I won't refute this. I can only say that China's culture is profound and rich in content. But if you have to attack my point of view, I can only say that you are a Martian and taller than the earth. Since ancient times, there have been many jingles or proverbs about this relationship. Now, I'll sort out a few as follows:
1, my nephew and uncle are like father and son.
2, my uncle and cousin are as big as the sky, and my aunt and family stand aside.
3. Mom has an uncle and Dad has an uncle.
4. Uncle and uncle are not relatives, and neither cow dung nor horse dung is dung.