Intermarriage with the Han nationality and other nationalities is common. Before liberation, most of them were arranged by their parents, and a few people were free to fall in love. After liberation, most people practice free love. The ways of free love are throwing hydrangeas, playing wooden troughs, chasing songs and singing duets. Hydrangea throwing is still very popular in Du 'an and Bama. Playing the wooden trough is first played by young women with wooden sticks, making different sounds. Several women beat wooden troughs and then sang folk songs. Many young men also came to the wooden trough with wooden sticks to knock together. Every time we knock at the door, everyone sings folk songs to express the joy and affection between men and women. Folding in half is also a way for young Zhuang men and women to choose their spouses in love. Through Duigue, they can express their feelings, get to know each other and build feelings. However, "choosing a spouse by songs" is not completed at one time, but on the basis of the initial friendship in "Gwen", after many exchanges to develop feelings, it is decided to be lifelong.

Yao (the legendary leader of the tribal alliance in the late period of the patriarchal clan society in ancient China)

Generally don't marry other people. Young Yao men and women have the freedom to fall in love before marriage. Generally speaking, young men and women establish feelings by singing in festivals or other ways, and get married with the consent of their parents. It is common for men to go to their house to adopt wives. Families without boys often have husbands at home. Some families must have husbands at home even if they have boys. In some Yao areas, all men are even "married", and their daughters are left at home with husbands. Today, it is still quite common to recruit husbands to come to the door in Yao areas. The son-in-law who comes to the door is respected by the society, and the daughter has the right to inherit property. The feudal thought of "men are superior to women" is relatively weak. Uncle power is more prominent in some Yao areas. There is a custom in some places that an aunt's daughter must marry her uncle's son. Only when her uncle has no children, or her family doesn't want her, can she marry someone else, but the bride price must be accepted by her uncle. Weddings of Yao people are generally very simple. When seeing the bride off for marriage, the bride usually walks or rides to the man's house, and the men and women in the village come to sing congratulations. I went back to my house for one day the next day and started to work and get married on the third day. When grandpa comes to the door, he doesn't need to bring anything except the matchmaker and two accompanying lang companions. He only went to the woman's house alone, and stayed at the woman's house after returning the door the next day. Divorce is very strict. Widows will not be discriminated against when they remarry. Brothers are separated when they grow up and get married, and parents are generally supported by their younger sons.

Miao and Dong people

Young men and women have relatively free love activities before marriage, and socialize through "going into the village" and "going uphill", but they must also get their parents' consent before they can get married. In the past, women's custom of "staying indoors" after marriage was mostly changed after liberation. It is more common to be a son-in-law at home.

Dong people of the same clan can't get married, so cousin marriage is popular, cousin marriage is forbidden, and uncle power is emphasized. Miao people are not in the same family, not in their aunts and cousins, and do not marry between different ethnic groups. There used to be a saying that Miao people don't touch guests (Han). After liberation, national unity has been strengthened, and intermarriage among ethnic groups has increased day by day. In the past, some Dong cottages in the border areas of Hunan, Guangxi and Guizhou still retain the ancient marriage custom of "robbing relatives". The ways of "robbing the bride" vary from place to place, and basically both men and women are willing. On the night of the wedding, they deliberately hid the bride, while the man tried to "snatch" the bride in the middle of the night, carried it on the sedan chair and returned home in triumph. After liberation, new marriage customs were carried forward. Most of the Dong and Miao people have simple marriages, with loving husband and wife and harmonious families. Dong people also have the custom of eloping. When a pair of lovers are opposed by either parent, they flee to other places and start a small family. After a few months or years, they will ask their relatives and friends to intercede with their opposing parents. Who are the opponents? "What's done is done" had to be admitted, so the young couple went back to their hometown to live.