The "bride price" has existed since ancient times. At first, it was the custom of exchanging betrothal money and bride price when both parties got engaged. Note that the original "bride price" has two key factors: one is the initial engagement, and the other is the gift from both parties.

However, I don't know when it evolved into a "bride price" that only the man gave the woman satisfaction, and the engagement could be initially reached.

It can be seen that the present "bride price" is not the same as the "bride price" passed down from ancient times. But nowadays, the bride price has existed since ancient times.

In fact, no matter who brought up their daughter and got married, parents would never give up. Therefore, it is a great happy event for a daughter to get married, but it is a sad thing for her parents, so it is understandable for her parents to ask for some bride price. In order to express gratitude to the woman's parents, it is also a kind of gratitude to the woman's parents to send some bride price appropriately.

Moreover, as long as it is a marriage that truly loves each other, basically both sides will give in to each other. Men will not think that women want more, and women will not think that men give less. And those who talk about chickens flying and dogs jumping because of the bride price, and finally talk about collapse, are mostly sheep's heads with "affection" and dog meat with "profit".

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Speaking of which, I remembered an article I saw on the Internet the other day asking for help from female netizens.

According to the girl, both her and her boyfriend's family are rural and their family conditions are average. Her boyfriend has three suites, two of which are self-built and one is bought in the county. The girl's own single-parent family grew up with her father. There is a suite in the county, and the down payment is from her father. At present, the girl is repaying the loan.

The girl's father is in poor health, so when talking about the bride price, she hopes that the boy's family can give 50 thousand, because there is usually 60 thousand bride price there. It is precisely because the boy's family is not rich and her own job is not very stable, so she decided to ask for 50 thousand yuan. So I can have some money to treat my father, and the pressure on my boyfriend's family will not be too great.

She thought so, but her boyfriend's family said it was unacceptable. They say that there are not many bride price in their hometown, generally 10,000 to 20,000. In addition, the future wedding needs money, so under normal circumstances, the bride price can only be 10000, with a maximum of 20000. If you go out to borrow money for a bride price, it will make people laugh. If a girl forces a man to borrow money to get married, she will be looked down upon by her husband's family.

The girl is also happy. In this case, she simply doesn't want the bride price, saves money and has a good wedding, but needs to add her name to her boyfriend's house in the county. But I didn't expect to be rejected by my boyfriend. He said that the house was bought by his father, and it was not easy to add a name.

The girl thinks she is considerate enough for her boyfriend. My boyfriend said that he had no money and didn't want a bride price. The house was ready-made, and it didn't cost extra to add a name. Besides, we have to pay the mortgage together after marriage, but my boyfriend agreed.

And she also saw in her boyfriend's circle of friends that he only wanted to spend the least money to marry a woman who really loved him. The woman who only recognizes the bride price is probably not in his life plan.

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It is precisely because of seeing her boyfriend's circle of friends that the girl is more determined to give a bride price of 50 thousand or add a name to the house.

Because she is not married, she is already vaguely uneasy. She feels that her boyfriend doesn't love her. If she loves her, he can do both.

Corresponding to this is her boyfriend's attitude, it is impossible to add a name to the house, and there is no bride price of 50 thousand.

Now she is very contradictory, broke up, and a little reluctant to break up, and she is upset because she suspects that her boyfriend doesn't love herself at all. The reason why she married herself first is that she can spend less money.

Actually, it's the same sentence. Any wedding that eventually collapses because of the bride price, no matter how much affection there is, is actually fake. Most people sell dog meat with the sheep's head of "love" and "interest", and their love is unwavering, and the abacus rings in their hearts.

In fact, the bride price reflects an attitude to a great extent, reflecting the position of women in this man or his family. Most women "value" the bride price, not necessarily because they care about money, but because of their marital and family status.

Because the "bride price" is a mutual gift after all-the woman either takes it back or has the same value as him. In women's eyes, whether "bride price" is one thing, whether you are willing to give it or not is another matter.

Therefore, a man who cares about the "bride price" before marriage advises the girl to go as far as she can, because no matter what reason he says, he is endorsing his own economic interests.

What is the position of women in men's hearts? The bride price is the best mirror.