The ancient custom of "adoption" still exists in Tianlin, Longlin, Xilin, Lingyun, leye county, Donglan, Fengshan and Bama in Guangxi. The so-called "adoption" means that the man "marries" to his mother's family, gives birth to a son and a daughter with his mother's surname, and has the right to inherit the mother's property.
Young men who voluntarily "adopt" are often asked about their husband's family because they have too many brothers at home. Young women who are willing to stay at home will go village by village to find their favorite "home". Once you have a crush on a man, you will find opportunities to chat, and if you like it, you will send it with shoes. If the man agrees, he will be "adopted" after one and a half years. Everything needed for marriage is prepared by the woman. There is no banquet at home on a man's wedding day. But the woman's house should be magnificent. In the evening, the elders in the clan will be asked to change the name of their son-in-law according to their surnames and the names of men of the same age. Daughter ranks high, son-in-law ranks high, and his peers call him a teacher and brother. It is absolutely forbidden to call him "brother-in-law" or "brother-in-law".
Give red eggs when getting married: When young men and women of Rong Lao and Zhuang nationality get married in Jingxi, Guangxi, the man should give her 50 to 100 red boiled eggs. After the woman accepted it, she kept it for the young lady and best friend who attended the wedding. If the man is in financial difficulties, it is understandable for the woman to send fewer eggs. If the man ignores this habit and does not give the red egg, the woman will think that the other person is not sincere and will not agree to marry him.
2。 Xu Ge
It is a traditional large-scale folk song festival of Zhuang nationality. Every spring and autumn, young people should put on holiday costumes, choose singing opponents and find beloved couples. As usual, the young man asked the girl to sing until she was satisfied. If the girl doesn't answer at the end of the song, he has to run away in a panic and give way to a program with more songs to sing the first songs, hymns, inquiries, songs and love songs. When they sang in love, they sang songs of friendship and gifts and gave gifts to each other. The lovers left their companions and both went into the jungle among the flowers. When they were about to break up, they sang a farewell song, agreed to meet next time, and then broke up. Many couples have made lifelong commitments. However, this duet program also has many "risks". In particular, the songs that women ask men to answer include as far away as the Three Emperors and Five Emperors, as far away as today's world, from the sun, the moon and stars to mountains and rivers, and various animals. Its content is extensive and its talent is agile, which makes people fall for it.
In addition to singing activities, there are a series of games and entertainment programs. Here are a few examples:
(1) Touch the Red Egg Game
Touching the red egg game is a unique and interesting activity in the "March 3" song meeting of Zhuang nationality in Mianshan, Du 'an, Guangxi. It is a way for young men and women to socialize and choose their spouses. According to local customs, red symbolizes the fiery heart of young people. Therefore, before rushing to Gewei, young people not only cooked five-color glutinous rice for their guests, but also specially prepared one or twenty hot eggs dyed purple (goose eggs and duck eggs can be used), tied up with straw and brought to Gewei. Young people use the opportunity of singing to make contact, invite them to take a trip to the red egg and predict each other's marriage.
The game method is: both men and women hold a boiled egg, stand opposite each other, and then touch each other with the red egg tip in their hands. If the red eggs on both sides are broken at the same time, it is considered that the fate of two people is linked and there is a marriage, so let the other person taste the taste of * * * and become bosom friends, and the people around him will bless them. If it is only unilaterally broken, it means that the two have no fate, and others will invite him to eat the eggs himself or give them to each other to show their understanding.
(2) throwing hydrangeas
Throwing hydrangea is a traditional form of entertainment for the Zhuang people at the song festival, and it is also a way for both men and women to express their love. On the day of Gewei, young men and women danced hydrangea after singing songs, and began to throw hydrangeas after dancing. When throwing, young men and women stand on both sides of the bamboo pole, and the hydrangea should be thrown over the bamboo pole to the other side. If the other party doesn't receive it, it loses. Losers will sing or dance. Men and women throw at each other for a while and exchange hydrangeas in pairs to show their love.
Carrying the bride across the river
When the Zhuang people in the mountainous area of northern Guangxi get married, they have the custom of carrying the bride across the river. Because the local mountains and rivers are complex and the roads are steep, in order to ensure the safety of the bride, people called "sailors" should be invited to carry the bridge across the river. "Sailors" are mostly strong unmarried young men. When the bride crossed the river, the gun rang three times and the horn sounded. The sailor immediately bent down and crossed the river with the bride on his back. The bride is very particular about her back. The bride can't keep her legs apart, and the "sailor" can't be rude in action, let alone tease. Therefore, the "sailors" who carry the bride are mostly the best in moral character. When crossing the river, the bride-to-be of unmarried young women holds an umbrella to shade the bride. No matter what the weather is like, this umbrella should be spread out, because the local people think that holding an umbrella can prevent the happy separation. On the tens of meters wide river, the wedding procession was pulled into a line, which was very lively. After landing, ying niang will deliberately hold the umbrella low to prevent others from "peeking" at the veiled bride.