I remember a famous person said, "if there is 50% profit, capital will take risks;" For the profit of 100%, capital dares to trample on all human laws; 300% profits and capital dare to commit any crime, even at the risk of being strangled. "

Wealth, whether for individuals or capital, has a strong attraction. This is the reason why many young men and women want to marry rich girls and rich people, and it is also the reason why people attach so much importance to marriage from ancient times to the present.

Quite simply, rich families will worry that others will calculate their property through marriage, while families without money will always be suspected of taking advantage of the rich people, even if they have no intention at all.

If the two families are right, there will be much less concern in this regard, because the family background is similar, and there is no suspicion of who is taking advantage of who.

Not only that, but also greatly reduce the probability of disagreement between the three views. On one level, the values of the two families will tend to be consistent, which is very important for the stability of marriage.

However, when love comes, lovers will not calm down and consider practical problems, thinking that love has everything, just like a chip implanted in the brain, only know how to go forward and enter marriage regardless of all difficulties.

In order to get married, everything can be compromised, and everything can be compromised. Even the last link of examining each other-talking about marriage is omitted, which should not be.

In fact, it is very important to talk about marriage, because it is the process of freezing romantic love in the most realistic way. People and families who can't see clearly under the heat of love can take advantage of this last chance to make the final test and measurement when talking about marriage.

The reason is also very simple. Talking about marriage and discussing marriage are all material conditions for establishing marriage. Whether it is a bride price, a dowry or a wedding room, it is the basis of the married life of husband and wife. If newcomers have their own abilities, they can solve them themselves; But most young people still rely on their parents to provide material help when they get married. Who is more and who is less needs to sit down and talk.

Normal families will contribute more or less when their children get married. After all, they all want their children to live a happy life. Even if you can't get the money, you will never covet the wealth of the other family.

However, it does not rule out that greedy families use marriage to grab money and make their children's marriage on the verge of breaking up. This is all caused by the inequality of wealth.

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Every time I write something like this, I get angry as an emotional worker. Why are there still so many girls who can't think and observe calmly and understand each other's personality and family before making a decision to get married? Why ignore the consequences of love? After all, marriage needs to be together for a long time, and love is short.

Mao Feifei (pseudonym) is a girl who makes me so angry. Fortunately, in the end, she was able to correct her mistake. This could have been avoided if she had thought it over carefully before marriage and listened to the advice of her parents and family.

Many marriage tragedies are the result of crazy love. Ten cows can't pull back the idea of marrying the "perfect" person.

Mao Feifei and Hang Jun (a pseudonym) have been in love for less than a year, and Mao Feifei has always been with him, insisting on marrying Hang Jun.

Her parents urged her to say: Hangjun is really a good boy, obedient and filial. But his family is not particularly suitable for our family. His family is in the countryside, and his parents have no job, no pension and no security. You will spend a lot of money in the future. Besides, Hangjun has a younger brother. His family condition is like that. After his brother gets married, he will definitely come to see you. Such a family has a lot of trouble in the follow-up.

Mao Feifei won't listen. Her reason is that after marriage, she and Hangjun will not live with Hangjun's parents, so far away, there will be no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Far away, get together for a long time, maybe it will be very affectionate? Not to mention his brother. My brother is learning auto repair now. At most, it is not a problem to give him some money to open a repair shop to support himself after he finishes his studies.

Parents also said that they asked Hangjun's family for 60 thousand bride price, but his family still refused to give it, indicating that his family valued money and would not calculate you in the future. I really don't know whether to prevent people.

Mao Feifei accused her parents of being blind to money. Our family is rich, why should we force others to give a bride price?

Mother was so angry that she scolded Mao Feifei for not getting married and turned her elbow outward. The last sentence: if you want to get married, we won't stop you, but the 60 thousand bride price of his family must be given. Or you can't get married.

Hangjun's family patched together and sent 60 thousand bride price. As for whether it is patchwork or not, only the Hangjun family knows.

Finally, the marriage is settled.

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In the war between parents and children, parents always lose. It's all angry words to say whether to ask.

Mao Feifei's parents are still afraid of her daughter's hardship. They gave Mao Feifei the key to the house they had bought, and only wrote Mao Feifei's name, which was equivalent to giving her a dowry room. Another 654.38+ten thousand yuan was added, and a certain * * gave her daughter160 thousand yuan as dowry money, and put Mao Feifei in the closet for fear that she would be bullied.

When I went back to my in-laws for the wedding, my mother-in-law heard that her in-laws were going to marry a house, and she smiled from ear to ear. Mao Feifei returned 60,000 bride price to her mother-in-law, which made her mother-in-law even more proud. Everyone praised Mao Feifei for being sensible and her daughter-in-law for being rich, but she praised her son Hang Jun more. Everyone says that Hangjun is capable, works well and earns a lot of money. She not only found a rich daughter-in-law, but also bought a new house in the city. The envious eyes of relatives made her mother-in-law proud, but Mao Feifei felt a little uncomfortable: her mother-in-law looks good, so let her show off if she wants to. It doesn't depend on who owns the house, but also on whose name is on the real estate license.

Not long after the marriage, Hangjun discussed with Mao Feifei and said that his parents wanted to go home and leave in a few days.

Mao Feifei asked: How many days will you play?

Hang Jun said: I know what you are worried about. Don't worry, I promise it's still valid not to live with my parents before marriage. They will definitely leave in a few days.

After hearing what Hangjun said, Mao Feifei won't embarrass him again and agreed.

But when she saw her in-laws carrying their bags home, she immediately realized that she might have made a mistake.

Privately, she urged Hangjun many times, and her in-laws remembered to send them away after playing enough. At first, Hangjun promised very well. Later, Hang Jun's tone changed. He said that his parents have always lived in the countryside and have never traveled far. Rural conditions are not good, let them live in the city, take good care of them, and facilitate their filial piety.

Mao Feifei is also a filial girl. Since Hangjun said so, her in-laws are cautious when they live at home, and she is not good at going out. However, the living habits and health habits of both sides are different, which makes Mao Feifei very wronged.

Mao Feifei's parents support her daughter to buy another house and are willing to pay half down payment.

Hangjun heard about it and agreed. But Mao Feifei didn't want to. She said that she would buy another house and could not let her family pay for it. Both families have to pay, and each family pays 65,438+10,000. Mao Feifei seems to be getting smarter.

Seeing Mao Feifei's resolute attitude, Hang Jun had to let his parents compensate 6.5438+10,000 yuan.

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After buying the house, Mao Feifei quickly decorated the house and moved there, thinking that she had got rid of her in-laws. But the trouble is yet to come.

Why did my in-laws pay 65,438+10,000 yuan to buy a house so readily? Mao Feifei didn't understand until later.

It turned out that after finishing his studies, Hangjun's younger brother felt that he couldn't make any money by opening a garage in the local area, so he thought that his parents and brother were living in the city and he wanted to come to the city himself, so that the family could take good care of them together. Plus, I'm getting married myself, so I settled in the city.

In-laws have set their sights on Mao Feifei's dowry room. As soon as they moved, the dowry room was empty, just to make a wedding room for their younger brother.

When I overheard the Hangjun family discussing this matter, Mao Feifei was ready. Therefore, when her mother-in-law said that she wanted to use the dowry room as her brother's wedding room, Mao Feifei took out a rental contract.

The mother-in-law looked surprised: "Isn't this house empty? What's wrong with marrying my brother? Besides, didn't we spend 65438+ ten thousand on your house? I bought you a house, so I gave it to your brother. I have time to change the name on the real estate license. "

Whether the mother-in-law really doesn't understand or pretends not to understand, Mao Feifei is too lazy to pay attention. She said directly to her mother-in-law, "If my brother wants this house, I can sell it to him at a low price. If you can't afford it, rent it. Anyway, renting to others is also renting. It is better to rent it to your brother. "

Mother-in-law is angry: "I think you are in the money eye and ask your brother for money."

When her mother-in-law saw that Mao Feifei couldn't persuade her, she let Hangjun come forward to persuade Mao Feifei.

Originally, Mao Feifei still had hope for Hangjun, but when Hangjun kept talking in her ear, he suddenly felt that the man and his family standing in front of him were simply ridiculous. My mother's house, the house with my name written on it in black and white, my husband's family actually wants to keep it for themselves. The reasons are very high-sounding: we are a family, that is our parents and brothers, shouldn't families help each other? Can you help yourself without helping it?

The gap between Mao Feifei's ideal marriage and real marriage is a bit big, which makes Mao Feifei awake.

She looked at Hang Jun, who was still lobbying herself, and said calmly, "Hang Jun, stop it. I'm not giving you this house. If my brother needs to get married, then sign this rental contract. If you want to take my house for nothing, your abacus is wrong. If you insist on doing this, we will get a divorce. As long as you pay me half the down payment and half the decoration fee, the new house is yours. "

Mao Feifei's resolute attitude shocked Hangjun and her in-laws. After all, if you divorce Mao Feifei, Hangjun may not be able to find a family with such good conditions as Mao Feifei.

But Mao Feifei really shook this marriage. Should he get a divorce?

Mao Feifei learned a lesson from this marriage. No matter whether you get divorced or not, you should handle this relationship well.