The deception of the matchmaking agency reveals that marriage is an important event in life, whether for yourself or for your family. China's huge single population has laid a market foundation for China's dating industry. But everyone must have needs, and the fraud of the matchmaking agency is exposed.
Uncovering the fraud of matchmaking agencies 1 Some insiders in the matchmaking industry and witnesses who have experienced matchmaking fraud have exposed various scams in the matchmaking industry to reporters, including the top ten frauds in the matchmaking industry:
"* * for the record": Many matchmaking agencies put up "* * for the record" signs under the pretext of opening, celebrations and festivals. In fact, the filing fee and admission fee of many matchmaking agencies are not the same thing at all. Only 10 yuan is required for filing, but it takes 200 yuan to get to 300 yuan to become a member.
Exaggerate the actual situation of members: nowadays, the advertisements for members' marriage are becoming more and more mysterious, and advertisements such as handsome, elegant and generous have long been commonplace. Even "having a car and a house", "starting a company", "earning 10,000 yuan a month" and "returnees" are everywhere. In fact, the "gold content" of this information is extremely low. Ms. Zhou, an insider, told the reporter: "A family lives in a single house and drives a motorcycle by themselves. It can be said that there is a house and a car; A monthly salary of 10 thousand yuan may be only one month in a year to reach this level; Even those who have worked abroad can be said to have returned from overseas. "
Fabricating excellent members: Although some matchmaking agencies boast about their members, there is no such member in the book. But if you want to know this person, you must join this club. After the meeting, this person will be too busy to meet, either going abroad or on a business trip, so you can't find it anyway.
The promise of words can never be fulfilled: some matchmaking agencies are becoming more and more "bold", and opening their mouths will ensure success. But this "guarantee" has no time limit, one year, two years or even ten or eight years. You're not confident and you won't ask anyway.
Random Yuanyang: The matchmaking agency will actively provide you with a meeting object, but the conditions are far from your requirements. Dozens of people have seen it, and the suitors feel that they are too picky. It is not the responsibility of the matchmaking agency to be unsuccessful.
Use members as "wedding supports": Some matchmaking agencies regard some excellent members as their "wedding supports", so that they can constantly meet other members and then "match the bridge". Anyway, I just don't want people to be lovers and let excellent members "voluntarily" continue to serve the matchmaking agency.
Hiring "marriage supporters" to cheat: this is a particularly common cheating method. Many matchmaking agencies directly employ a "marriage support" in order to defraud the suitor of money.
"Matchmaker" often changes tricks to deceive people: many suitors have encountered a situation, that is, after paying the money, they have never received the service of the matchmaking agency, and they have found that "matchmaker" has changed one after another and said, "I just came here and don't know the situation. I will check it for you." I don't know when this survey will be conducted.
The quantity of lively entertainment is not the quality: many matchmaking agencies hold large-scale entertainment, but only require the number of people attending the entertainment, not the quality. As long as people come, they don't check their certificates, thus providing some lawless elements with a place to commit crimes.
Lack of business premises: Some matchmaking agencies are playing an "empty city plan". Members pay money to receive services but can't find anyone.
The secret of matchmaking agency fraud 2 "blocking" means "blocking the road" By asking why they are single, members find it difficult to find a suitable candidate. "Poke" means "poke the sore spot" to improve the urgency of users' love and marriage; "Digging" refers to the initial excavation of members' assets and mate selection needs, judging their purchasing power, and also paving the way for "selecting candidates" ... Recently, some media reporters undercover well-known dating websites and found that the matchmaker used the background to "obtain" members' privacy information and other suspected illegal acts; Some sales matchmakers register as members of other dating platforms or participate in offline dating activities in order to obtain resources, which leads to vicious competition; Tens of thousands of yuan of blind date service packages, even if they provide the same or similar service cycle and content, the signing price varies from person to person.
Getting married, whether for yourself or your family, is a major event in life. Different from pure love, factors such as appearance, work, property and status should be considered in detail in the matching of marriage. Single men and women not only hope to find a partner to live together through marriage, but also a large number of people hope that marriage can achieve a class jump, at least not a decline. An expert survey once found that 89.7 1% of young people pay more attention to each other's personality and conduct when looking for male and female friends, which is more than 46 percentage points higher than the option of "family status"; 73.9 1% of young people think that the combination of values and outlook on life is "suitable for each other", which is 49 percentage points higher than the option of similar social status of both families. However, if they really face the problem of marriage, they will immediately become a reality, and housing and hukou will become an important dimension to measure each other's economic conditions and family status.
"There is no cloud or rain in the sky, and there is no marriage on the ground." China's huge single population has laid a market foundation for China's dating industry. The core of marriage and love is people, but everyone should have needs, advantages and disadvantages. This demand for marriage and persistence in marriage and love create space for the matchmaking platform to earn the difference. Single men and women expect to spend some money to break through class barriers or reduce screening costs, but this beautiful idea is not so beautiful in reality.
On September 26th this year, Jiangsu Consumer Protection Committee released a survey report on the service status of dating platforms, which showed that the five platforms involved in the survey, such as Jiayuan, zhenai, My Master and Good Marriage, Lily Net and Netease Huatian, generally had some problems such as platform information audit loopholes, false propaganda, unclear refund rules, and infringement on consumers' right to know and fair trade.
"ubiquitous existence", not just "existence", tells the current situation of the matchmaking market-seeing customers' anxiety about marriage and making money by using information asymmetry. However, like many market behaviors, the marriage and love market often reverses. Some unmarried men and women with good conditions and "hot demand" often find partners through more reliable channels after learning about the "shady" market, leaving some unmarried men and women with less "perfect" conditions to stay in this market and find them hard, which will inevitably be "harvested" by the marriage and love agencies mentioned above.
Interestingly, the older you get, the deeper your anxiety, and the easier it is to believe in matchmaker. In fact, this phenomenon also exposes contradictions: some people who marry late are actually resisting the deception of social customs, and finally fall into a deeper routine because of this "late". Where there is anxiety, there are routines; Where there are routines, there are liars. Liars use people's anxiety to "plant" leeks and then harvest them one after another. Anxiety about choosing a school, anxiety about work, anxiety about wealth, anxiety about face value, etc., but many anxieties are deliberately created, and they are all "leek fields" cultivated by "where there is a will, there is a way". This also shows that some members of society are intolerant, or complacent about their own strengths, or worried about their own imperfections.
Of course, all kinds of anxiety can actually be summed up as opportunity anxiety, fearing that you can't catch this opportunity and miss that opportunity. This not only shows the realistic state of opportunity acquisition, but also shows that the interaction between social psychology and reality is not synchronous. In a society that has solved the problem of food and clothing, people should be more calm, tolerant and relaxed. If this is not the case, then we must think about whether the way, order and procedure of obtaining opportunities are reasonable and fair.
Revealing the fraud of matchmaking agencies 3 "The current matchmaking market is too chaotic, and the fees are varied. Matchmaking agencies use wedding support to collect money. Advertisements are not worthy of the name and exaggerated. It is said that the actual service is difficult to reach the designated position. The once respected matchmaking industry has now become synonymous with immorality and fraud. " A few days ago, Zhang Hong (a pseudonym), an insider who has worked for 20 years, exposed the deceptive tricks of the matchmaking industry to reporters.
Practitioners expose themselves: the chaos in the industry is getting worse.
Chaos: the fees are "varied"
Zhang Hong told reporters that it stands to reason that the matchmaking industry should be standardized after 20 years of development, but the actual situation is "more and more chaotic", especially the issue of fees, and there is no unified standard at all. Taiyuan Celebration Matchmaking Industry Association announced the guiding price of matchmaking service charges, of which the highest column charges no more than 6000 yuan. Some matchmaking agencies in the provincial capital divide their members into different grades according to the amount of money paid, and set up gold cards, silver cards and diamond cards. , artificially divided the consumers who joined the club into three or six grades, and the highest charge reached tens of thousands of yuan.
Zhang Hong once received a female boss who opened a coal mine in a matchmaking agency in the city and paid a service fee of 15000 yuan. As a result, the meeting object provided by the other party turned out to be a man who was not divorced. Nowadays, some matchmaking agencies have turned their attention to migrant workers in other places. Young people from other places often go to the door to ask for marriage only when they see the advertisement of matchmaking. Thousands of dollars at a time, but it is difficult to get the corresponding service. When they tried to refund the fee, they were rejected. In the end, I can only eat dumb losses.
Chaos 2: using wedding support to collect money
Matchmaking should be a beautiful industry for adults, but now it has become a tool for some operators to collect money. Zhang Hong told reporters that individual matchmaking agencies often use "professional matchmaking" to deceive consumers in order to maximize their operating profits. There was a middle-aged divorced lady who met a wedding supporter in a well-known matchmaking agency in this city. When they met, the other party claimed to work in the public security system. As a result, after careful understanding behind the consumer, it was found that there was no such person in the self-reported work unit. Finally, the person in charge of another matchmaking agency in this city confirmed that the man she was dating was registered with them. Zhang Hong also revealed that he once heard such an explicit phone call in a matchmaking agency: "There is a person waiting to meet, can you come again and give the number to your sister? "
Chaos 3: You didn't discuss it.
Zhang Hong said that due to the lack of strong supervision and guidance, the quality of matchmaking agencies can only be "boasted" by their own mouths. Some matchmaking agencies claim to be "approved by the Civil Affairs Bureau" and "qualified", while others claim to be "designated brand matchmaking agencies" in the industry. In fact, it's not like this at all. It is common for matchmaking agencies to publicize pseudonyms and exaggerate.
"Making money has become the core interest of some matchmaking agencies," Zhang Hong said. When consumers come to the door for the first time, they will feel that the "teacher" of the matchmaking agency is very enthusiastic and will talk until you pay the money. If you only pay a small amount of deposit, you will continue to receive enthusiastic calls from the teacher, saying that there is an object that fully meets your requirements waiting for you to meet. When you go, the teacher will ask you to pay the remaining several thousand yuan service fee before you can meet. At this time, you are eager to choose a spouse, but you can only fall into the money trap carefully designed by the matchmaking agency. "When you don't pay for the opposite sex information, which is suitable for you, and you really want to meet after paying, either this person has returned to his hometown or that person is on a business trip, and consumers don't know whether it is true or not." Zhang Hong said, such a matchmaking agency just wants to set your money.
The reporter asked: Unsupervised is the root of chaos.
City celebration matchmaking industry association is responsible for the self-discipline and standardization of the matchmaking industry in the city. The reporter also interviewed the person in charge of the association for the first time on the chaos of matchmaking. Zhang, vice president of the association, said yesterday that the chaotic situation in Taiyuan matchmaking market has lasted for quite a long time, and its fundamental crux lies in the lack of an industry management method and industry authorities. He also felt helpless that the association lacked corresponding binding force on some behaviors of matchmaking agencies.
Vice President Zhang told reporters that before 2004, the matchmaking market in this city was relatively orderly, because at that time, the Civil Affairs Bureau had a department specializing in the management of matchmaking industry. However, with the cancellation of the examination and approval system for the matchmaking industry by the civil affairs department in 2004, matchmaking has also entered an unsupervised vacuum. At present, there are fifty or sixty matchmaking agencies in Taiyuan. Because there is no competent unit for daily supervision, the industry is mixed and there is basically no threshold for entering the industry.
"According to the requirements of the administrative functions of various government departments, the industrial and commercial departments are only responsible for the issuance and annual inspection of the business licenses of matchmaking agencies, and their specific business activities are not within our supervision," said the relevant staff of the Market Department of the Municipal Administration for Industry and Commerce. "In other words, we have no right to supervise the matchmaking industry."
Without a specific supervision department, the matchmaking industry is in chaos. Vice President Zhang said that in order to standardize the market, the Municipal Celebration Matchmaking Association and the Provincial Administration for Industry and Commerce jointly formulated a matchmaking contract. On the one hand, this contract regulates the behavior of matchmaking agencies, on the other hand, it also provides legal protection for marriage seekers when their rights and interests are violated. However, due to the ineffective promotion by the competent authorities, this contract was only accepted by a few matchmaking companies.
Vice President Zhang said that although the national standard of matchmaking service has been issued, it is difficult to implement this good system without the promotion of the competent authorities. Even if consumers encounter the problem of matchmaking, there is nowhere to complain.
Typical case: the suitor was cheated.
Speaking of the chaos in the matchmaking industry, the experience of Xiao Xia (a pseudonym), a 26-year-old Taiyuan marriage seeker, is quite telling. On April 24th, 20 10, encouraged by her family, Xiao Xia got up the courage to walk into a famous matchmaking agency in the downtown area. The teacher who received Xiao Xia was very enthusiastic. She said, "We have many men with good conditions here, including hospitals, banks and bosses. If you pay today, you can arrange to meet tomorrow. " Xiao Xia clearly told the other party that if you want to find an account in this city, you must have your own house with a height of 1 m 7 or more. The other party said that their fees ranged from the lowest in 600 yuan to tens of thousands of yuan. The higher the price, the better the service and the higher the introduction level. So, Xiao Xia chose a service of 2,800 yuan according to his economic situation, and paid the money to join the club.
On the second day after joining the club, the matchmaking agency arranged Xiao Xia's first meeting. Xiao Xia, who was full of expectation, ran to meet someone who didn't meet his requirements at all. Xiao Xia made it clear that he couldn't. The person in the matchmaking agency actually said: Idle is idle, let's talk for a while first. At that time, Xiao Xia was still wondering: Why did the matchmaking agency introduce her to such a man who couldn't fall in love at first sight? Afterwards, an insider told Xiao Xia that it is a common trick of matchmaking agencies to introduce some unqualified objects so that you can gain trust without knowing it.
In contact with other members, Xiao Xia heard that some matchmaking agencies "only collect money, regardless of matchmaking agencies". Xiao Xia didn't believe it at first. As a result, apart from "meeting" the next day after joining the club, until May 2, the people in the matchmaking agency never contacted Xiao Xia on their own initiative. Xiao Xia asked to meet the male object advertised by this matchmaking agency, and a service teacher even said, "Is it really possible for such a good person to have a blind date?" Xiao Xia later discovered that after paying 2800 yuan to join the club, many services were not enjoyed. There is not even a trace of the propaganda of "meeting every Saturday" and "getting a membership card after joining a week".
Xiao Xia was dissatisfied with the service provided by the matchmaking agency and asked to withdraw from the meeting on May 8th. The other party said that you can retire for a while, and the money will not be refunded. Angry Xiao Xia immediately went to the matchmaking agency for a face-to-face conversation, and the other party confidently said, "The contract you signed says no refund." The non-refundable fee is clearly written into the matchmaking contract, and the other party is obviously prepared, and this is obviously an unfair overlord clause. At this point, Xiao Xia realized that he had been cheated. In desperation, Xiao Xia had to call 1 10 to report to the police, and under the mediation of the resident police station, he got back part of the expenses.
Afterwards, Xiao Xia found on the Internet that this matchmaking agency had many illegal acts: the contract was self-made, not a formal contract between the Industrial and Commercial Bureau and the Taiyuan Celebration Matchmaking Industry Association, but only one was signed; The content of the contract is to the consumer in obviously unfair; After paying the money, only the receipt is given, and there is no invoice; The promised service is seriously inconsistent with the actual implementation.
Recalling this irritating experience, Xiao Xia still has a lingering fear. "Matchmaking agencies seize the suitors' eagerness to choose a spouse, artificially link money with the grade of the introduced object, and lure you to pay more money and get money unscrupulously. I don't believe in matchmaking anymore. " Xiao Xia told consumers with his own personal experience that in order not to harm their legitimate rights and interests, and not to be cheated again, please carefully choose a matchmaking agency and sign a formal contract.