"The wedding every week. . . What matters is the righteousness of husband and wife and the grace of marriage. I don't think this is a joke. At that time, the faint ceremony was simple and clean, and there was no complicated juggling thing like the bridal chamber. Husband and wife "eat in prison, get married and die" and enter the bridal chamber hand in hand-this is a beautiful ceremony with Han personality characteristics; Light clothes are not red and green, and the bride and groom all wear dignified dark black dresses (dark black, the red color in black, according to the five elements is the most sacred color symbolizing heaven). The whole ceremony was quiet and serene, without sadness. There is a shocking power in the quiet and meticulous ceremony-perhaps this is the power we want to capture today. The quiet and beautiful ceremony that began at dusk represents a pure, beautiful and great Han civilization, pointing directly at people's hearts. "
Tell me about the system:
1 color: China people, especially weddings, can't do without red, so there is no doubt that both men's and women's wedding dresses should be red. The color of women's wedding dresses in past dynasties has become customized. As for men, it seems that Tang, Song and Ming dynasties are all red, and some people in Qin and Han dynasties say they are black. Actually, you don't have to look at ancient wedding dresses. If women wear red and men wear black, it is also very solemn and orthodox. However, according to the concept of modern China people, both men and women should
Style: Guan Liang's clothing is basically straight, with some accessories attached to it, such as Yu Pei multicolored tapestry, scarf, knee pads, etc. These are indispensable dresses that can be tied with red flowers; Women wear wide-sleeved double-breasted clothes with beads and decorations. It is worth noting that the pattern on the clothes pays great attention to the complete symmetry of the double-breasted clothes, which means "combining into one" in China culture, while the golden pheasant patterns densely distributed in pairs symbolize the beauty and joy of husband and wife's life in China traditional culture.
Secondly, the differences between the traditional marriage customs of Han nationality and those of other nationalities;
The real traditional wedding of Han nationality is quite different from what modern people imagine. Orthodox weddings in China are solemn, even sacred, with little fun and intimacy. It was conducted in strict accordance with the ceremony, just like Jin Lan's Yi Jie. The ancients even thought that if there were some differences and mistakes in the wedding, the engagement could be cancelled completely, because at that time, people thought that if only a small and simple procedure did not conform to etiquette, then you could imagine getting married. There must be something wrong with this person, so there are two, two and three. So I read a lot of ancient documents, and recorded that many women in the royal family chose poor families because their in-laws were not polite. Of course, there is no need to exaggerate this point now, but the traditional view of life of the Han people lies in attaching importance to feelings, righteousness and filial piety, so these are reflected in the traditional wedding of the Han people, and it is also beneficial for people who lack friendship and belief in modern society to inherit civilization and identify with Chinese traditional virtues. Of course, there is no need to follow some extreme behavior. Therefore, it is necessary to specify a series of modern Hanfu wedding dresses by copying the ancient system, and revive many traditional etiquette such as wedding coronation. Let's talk about the procedure first:
1 Co-imprisonment: Co-imprisonment refers to the ceremony of becoming husband and wife. As the old saying goes, men and women sit in different seats at the age of seven, so the same supervisor is probably preparing a sedan chair for the newly married husband to welcome the bride. Entering the ceremony room, the east and the west sit at the same table (kneeling) and eat at the same table for the first time in their lives (of course, there is no need to exaggerate now, just a form). Because ancient weddings are held in the evening, after dinner, it is equivalent to * * *, and then they exchange glasses and drink the so-called "glasses" (not the so-called glasses with arms slung over their arms), suggesting that the husband and wife are happy and exchange glasses. After drinking, both of them stood up and stood in a row. Worship heaven and earth and then husband and wife worship each other (this is now called worship heaven and earth and worship Gaotang couples). This is just a simplification in traditional Chinese opera and it is obviously wrong to worship parents together. Finally, exchange hands and enter the dormitory. In fact, it seems that it is not so much a gift of loyalty as a gift of being in prison. There is quite a brotherhood. The feeling and verve of Jin Lan blood alliance are secondary, because both brothers and lovers are good friends or in ancient times.
* * * Workers hold five bundles of silks and geese as gifts as a symbol of bride price. That's the present. It's colored silk from Meng Xuan. Goose is a very important gift in the ceremony. It stands for loyalty and loyalty. Usually as a gift, wooden geese are still used in Korean weddings.
A lovesickness feast (under the same table and eating opposite)
B combination wine (exchange combination glasses * * * to drink)
C Worship heaven and earth (eight worships, eight worships, it must be to raise your hand and kowtow to Mei Qi, instead of simply saluting as in the current TV series).
D husband and wife worship (four worship)
E exchange toilet
2. Pay homage to parents: The next step is to show filial piety. Parents can only be regarded as real adults if they keep their children in the same prison all their lives. So, they went to their parents' rooms early the next morning to salute and count eight times to show their parents' upbringing and their adulthood and independence.
3. See the temple: China people are full of faith in their ancestors everywhere. If the first two items only represent individuals, then going to the ancestral temple to worship ancestors means that the marriage has been completed, which means being responsible for the whole family. Usually, in ancient times, except for the couple who sacrificed their ancestors first, the whole family sacrificed their ancestors together and then formally completed the ceremony of getting married, which also meant the end of the whole wedding.
Left: "female, pure clothes; Standing in the room, south. The pajamas are on the right. Bi Xuan, the female follower, was stunned and followed. "
However, modern so-called Han weddings are permeated with many foreign customs. Let's talk about a lot of Manchu wedding customs, especially in the north. For example, the first step of Manchu wedding custom is to knock on the sedan chair door. The groom invited the bride with an arrow. The bride wore a red veil and was supported by an elderly female relative. During the Manchu wedding, there were no sacrifices, only "sitting accounts" and "laying accounts". After entering the dormitory, the male left and the female right sat on the bed (it should be noted that the cultural concept of Manchu is usually male left and female right, that is, everything we say today is completely influenced by Manchu, while the Han nationality is just the opposite, because left and right represent yin and yang, which is completely contrary to the ancient cultural concept). Then sprinkling peanuts and dates on the bed is called "spreading accounts", which is also a custom of Manchu and a toast of Manchu. Now it is completely twisted with the wine of the Han nationality, and there are some similar intimate dramas, such as "grabbing food", which is far from the traditional concept of the Han nationality. Modern people think that the so-called "traditional wedding of Han nationality" goes without saying, and mistakenly think that many customs of Manchu are influenced by Qidan (and many discussions about "fire" are also influenced by Qidan, such as burning paper and setting off fireworks) and "covering the head" is also influenced by Manchu. Now it has become a part of the wedding of the Han nationality. It must be said that the serious neglect of China culture for many years has resulted in misunderstanding of its own traditional knowledge, and the customs of other nationalities have been incorporated into itself, and some of them have completely penetrated into the folk invisibility during the period of foreign rule.
Modern simplified wedding:
In front of Najib Zheng Na and others, just keep exchanging tokens between men and women and go directly to the audience without welcome.
No music, no kisses, no bridesmaids, just a compliment (host), a bridesmaid and a best man (equivalent to ancient waiters, bridesmaids and best men are mostly relatives and friends of both men and women), and five people can be quiet.
I don't think it's necessary to simplify the same prison, because in ancient times it was calm, quiet and noisy, similar to our candlelight dinner now, but the dinner with China characteristics is still very warm:) As for the last two steps, it needs to be simplified. In ancient times, only the bride paid homage to her aunt and uncle. Now, men and women are equal. Nowadays, parents of both sides can pay a few symbolic prayers every other day, and then they can worship their ancestors directly in class. Just hang a genealogy and make a few symbolic sacrifices, because people now don't have an ancient ancestral temple, and they don't have to take their families to worship their ancestors like in the Ming Dynasty. Only two people can do it.
"If a woman follows her mother's left and her father follows the west, there must be righteousness." The father sent his daughter, saying, "Respect it, night can't be violated!" "
Put on the scarf and the bride officially becomes the bride.
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"I, Yuwo, washed my hands."
China people pay attention to cleanliness, and they should wash their hands and faces before going to prison together. Swap with Yu: She waters her new husband and Yu waters the bride.
"Yi Fu, that is, at festivals, all sit and offer sacrifices."
The same prison began to pay tribute to praise.
"Zaner millet, grant the ridge; All food, with sauce, is a sacrifice and food. Three meals, single food. " Zan moved the millet to the seat and gave the dragon ridge to the newlywed husband and bride. The newly-married bride ate gravy sauce, and they sacrificed their lungs together. Eat three times and it's over.
Praise the baptist, consider the master, and the master will accept it, and praise the north side of the house to answer. So do married women.
"The same is true for the three uses." The third time, I decided to drink the wine, and the new husband and bride got married and drank it. . . Drink half a cup and finish it in exchange. The rest of the etiquette festival is the same as the first time.
The present participle of UNTIE
At the request of their parents, they put on more gorgeous Tang costumes, men and women, and held modern candlelight and toasts. Everyone is familiar with these, so I won't go into details. This article is taken from China traditional wedding and meditation blog. Or please open this website yourself, with pictures to explain; Very comprehensive, very detailed.
One: Being a matchmaker, of course, many people are free to fall in love now, but etiquette has repeatedly emphasized that "there is no cloud or rain in the sky and no marriage on the ground". Must have a matchmaker, can take the initiative to match men and women, can also be entrusted by others, loyal to others. After a man and a woman get married successfully, the matchmaker can collect some money, which is called a thank-you gift. The money is usually paid by the man. I asked the man to give the matchmaker a pair of shoes and a bag of candy. If you are in free love, you must also find someone to match. My brother and my sister-in-law are free to fall in love, and my uncle is the matchmaker when they get married.
Two: blind date, if it is a matchmaker, the specific country is similar. As for free love, it is a process, but it is essential. My brother will go to my sister-in-law's house and move a lot of things.
Three: the date of delivery, that is, the agreed date of marriage. I remember going to the woman's house to pick things, such as cakes, dried noodles and sugar.
Four: Buy everything you get married some time before you get married. Quilts, household appliances, boxes and daily necessities are generally bought by women and put in their own homes. The day before the wedding, the man will kill the pig early in the morning, take half the meat and pig's head to her house by car, and bring the dowry back to her house by the way. The woman's family will invite her uncle, uncle and uncle to come. If both men and women agree that the wedding date is the eighth day, then on the seventh day, the woman's family will host a banquet for her parents' relatives, and on the seventh day, the relatives will come for lunch, and the man will also come. The difference is that on the eighth day of the eighth day, the guests of the woman's family finished their breakfast, while the drama of the man's family just began. In other words, the woman entertains relatives for one day and the man entertains relatives for two days. The man picks up people at the woman's house at two or three o'clock in the morning of the eighth day, and the woman will deliberately make things difficult, such as locking the door, and the man has to turn in the key to open the door. On the morning of the ninth day, the couple will pay homage to their parents, uncles and other relatives. People who are generally equal to the groom can take the opportunity to play tricks on the couple.