Marriage is not only one of the inevitable relationships of social needs, but also the most difficult intimate relationship in the world. It's never a task, but it should be to share happiness and secrets with each other, to share sadness and frustration with each other, and to have two hearts close together and trust forever.
But there will always be a gap between ideal and reality. Some marriages are no longer so pure, and some people will label this relationship with many complicated labels. In the eyes of these people, marriage is no longer the ownership of happy love, but a means to seek money and interests. This kind of marriage is like a flashy coat. Even if it looks gorgeous, you can't hide the lice crawling under your coat, which makes people itch and sick, and you can't enjoy the happiness that marriage should have anymore.
Many people say that the bride price before marriage often acts as a "magic mirror", which can make people's greedy faces clear. I once sneered at such a statement that marriage is the top priority in life and everyone wants a happy and lively marriage. Gift money is just a custom to add color to the couple. But some recent social news really changed my mind. I found that some women not only ask for high-priced bride price, but also collect money on the day they enter the door after receiving huge bride price. The groom didn't take out a small hundred thousand dollars that day, and he couldn't marry anyone on the wedding day.
But I think this wedding is a happy event, and the gift money is just a witness. There is no uniform standard for the specific amount, and it should be considered comprehensively in combination with local customs and the family situation of the other party. But why are some people so greedy and dissatisfied with the bride price? In order to get the man to pay more money, why do they sit on the ground and start the price? The agreed amount of money changed on the wedding day, asking the man to give it or not, and losing face in front of relatives and friends.
This kind of dishonest behavior will mostly hurt the sincerity of the man, which will not only bring trouble to the wedding process at that time, but also greatly reduce the relationship between husband and wife and affect their future life. Even if most men think that "losing is a blessing", as long as they can get a stable and harmonious family, it is nothing to pay some money; But in fact, some men will be forced to make many unwise decisions in this dilemma.
Just like my college classmate Lulu, on the wedding day, the wedding broke up because of the "taxi fare" of 80 thousand yuan.
Lulu is the "man of the hour" in college. She is not only beautiful, lively and cheerful, but also versatile, and she is indispensable in all kinds of cultural performances in the school. So Lulu has attracted a lot of people's attention, and there are many suitors around her. Lulu, who is used to such a star-studded life, was once very proud. Her self-righteous psychology makes her very picky about her lover, and she always thinks that all the boys in school are not good enough for her.
Xiao Gang is also one of Lulu's many suitors. He is attracted to this dazzling girl like a star. Lulu and I have expressed our love many times, but Lulu doesn't appreciate Xiaogang's feelings and thinks that he is plain, so an ordinary boy is not worthy of himself.
Until Lulu worked, college students gradually lost contact, and colleagues around her stepped into marriage one by one, and fewer and fewer people pursued Lulu. Only Xiaogang still insists on his feelings and likes Lulu wholeheartedly. Although Lulu still despises Xiaogang in her heart, considering that she is getting older, she finally agrees to associate with him. After two people fell in love, Xiaogang had a good impression on Lulu. No matter what Lulu asks, Xiaogang will try his best to meet it. Occasionally Lulu loses a little temper, and Xiaogang will immediately bow his head and apologize to Lulu.
In this way, their relationship is not bad, Xiao Gang also proposed to Lulu and got married. Speaking of bride price money, Lulu asks for 200,000 yuan as soon as she opens her mouth. Although she doesn't have any feelings for Xiaogang, she still feels beautiful and excellent in her heart, but Xiaogang has no advantages and feels that he is not worthy of himself. So she asked for such a high bride price, not only to prove her charm, but also to verify Xiaogang's sincerity. Such a high price has put a lot of pressure on Xiaogang. But he really likes Lulu. Considering their long relationship, he finally gritted his teeth and nodded. After persuading her parents, she gave Lulu 200,000 yuan as a bride price.
After everything was ready, the wedding came as promised. Xiao Gang ushered in the most important day in his life, with an excited smile on his face. Relatives and friends of both sides were present, but regardless of their relatives, Xiao Gang warmly entertained them. Not only did he give the guests excellent tea and cigarettes, but even the children didn't neglect them, and he also prepared small snacks and red envelopes for them. Family members are very happy. They all think that the young man is diligent and sensible. No wonder he can marry such a beautiful wife.
The wedding is about to start. Xiao Gang waved, called his brothers to go with him and drove Lulu to the wedding hotel. Along the way, the motorcade was vast, and Xiaogang was escorting with a red envelope. The scene can be said to be very beautiful.
But at the door of the hotel, Lulu said she couldn't get off. Xiaogang was at a loss. At this time, Lulu's bridesmaid quickly reminded: "Why are you still staring? Give the fare quickly, or how will the bride get off? " Xiaogang quickly took out a red envelope from his pocket, smiled and handed it to Lulu, saying, "All the money is ready. It's exactly 888 yuan, which means' send'. What a good lottery ticket! Get off with me quickly! " But after Lulu took the red envelope, she still sat still and said slowly, "That's a good implication, but isn't this 800 yuan a little less?" One of the bridesmaids followed, saying that there was too little money and Xiao Gang needed more money.
Small steel frame can't resist everyone's investment, so we have to ask how much is appropriate. At this moment, Lulu spoke again and said, "This wedding is a big day. We have to win a good prize. I think we have to pay 80 thousand for this fare. " Xiaogang thought Lulu was joking, anxious that the wedding was about to start, and quickly responded casually: "Forget it, don't say 80,000 yuan, I will give you all the money after marriage. Get off with me, it's too late. " Then he reached out and carried Lulu out of the car.
But Lulu not only refused Xiaogang, but also changed her face and said with a cold face, "I'm not kidding you. My parents said that I had to pay 80 thousand fare to get off. This is a rule set by my family and cannot be changed. " Xiao Gang didn't expect Lulu to really want this 80,000 yuan. Now she is really anxious and angry. She said angrily, "where can I collect so much money now?" Everyone is watching. How can you be so ridiculous? " After that, Xiao Gang's brother saw that he was already angry, and quickly stepped forward and said, "Sister-in-law, Xiao Gang will definitely give this money, but he can't take it out for the time being. The wedding is about to begin. Do you think you can get off first? "
But Lulu was unmoved. She felt that she was right. Her parents have worked hard to raise her so much, and her own conditions are so good. Xiao Gang, an ordinary person, is going to marry into his family soon, not to mention that she is a high climber. He didn't give her money at this juncture, but he didn't really like himself. So he said discontentedly, "If you really want to marry me, you have to pay the fare. If you don't give this money, I won't get off the bus and get married! "
When Xiaogang, who has always been honest, heard this, he could no longer hold back his anger. He asked seriously, "for the last time, won't you marry me unless I give this money?" Lulu took advantage of Xiaogang's usual obedience to herself and said willfully, "OK, 80,000 yuan next time, not a penny less, not a penny less!" This made Xiaogang suddenly disappointed with Lulu. He didn't expect that his feelings for many years could not compare with this 80,000 yuan.
In fact, Xiaogang is not as outstanding as Lulu, but he has a good personality. He is always gentle and considerate. He is a "warm man" and many little girls like him in life. Xiaogang's colleagues once pursued him, but at that time Xiaogang fell in love with Lulu and refused.
Then he remembered the girl, dialed her phone and asked, "When you said you liked me and were willing to marry me, did it count?" The colleague at the other end of the phone didn't know what was going on. Without thinking, he replied, "Forget it, what's the matter?" Xiao Gang replied, "Don't ask so many questions. Where are you now? I'll pick you up. " Knowing the address, Xiaogang hung up the phone and immediately married another woman. He turned to Lulu and said, "Since I don't deserve to marry you, I'll marry someone else. Now that the bride has changed, you can go. "
Lulu was dumbfounded this time. She never imagined that Xiao Gang, who is usually good-natured, would be really angry. She hurried off to find Xiaogang, but it was too late. A wedding that was supposed to be enjoyable turned into a farce in full view.
Indeed, love is not a transaction, nor can it be measured by money. Marriage is not a child's play and cannot be treated willfully. Marriage is for happiness, not for money. The high bride price and taxi fare will not only make your husband or in-laws pay more attention to you, but also add cracks to the marriage that has not yet started.
If you want to get your husband's respect, you don't just ask for it, but you need to look at your heart and learn to respect your husband first. You know, it's a lifelong happiness for you to marry the man in front of you. Don't lose big because of small things. If there is only money in the eyes, where should the feelings of both sides go?
I hope that women who are not married or ready to get married can understand that marriage is a long-term process, not a harvest, and we can't just look at immediate interests and ignore future happiness. Only when couples face their feelings more sincerely can they return to the most essential appearance of love.