This is a common phenomenon, how many pairs of mandarin ducks end up scattered on the same word. It stands to reason that your 20 thousand yuan is not too much, not too much. But now the society is changing. Some men are serious and not afraid to find a wife, so they pursue free love and are unwilling to engage in the cliche of money coming and going. Because according to the law, the law stipulates that everyone has the freedom to marry. As long as both men and women are willing to get married, they only need 9.9 yuan to get a certificate, and parents have no right to interfere. So if your problem is free love, then the key is that you and he discuss a result with each other. If it is introduced by the matchmaker, then the matchmakers of both sides should come forward to negotiate countermeasures. I wish you an early solution to the problem, and don't let small problems affect your feelings!