Chatting skills, many people don't know how to communicate with others. Communication is essential in daily life. Only by mastering certain speaking skills can we communicate with people better. Let me give you some information about chatting skills. Let's have a look.

Chatting skills 1

First of all, think twice before you speak

In the process of communicating with people, we often make others unhappy because of one sentence, so we should avoid saying the wrong thing. And the good way is not to say that sentence at all. In order to avoid inappropriate criticism, you should think about what you want to say and what you should say before you say anything.

Many people often call a spade a spade and never think that their sharp words may hurt others. Therefore, you can't speak without thinking. Before you say anything, think about it. "How would I feel if someone told me this?" ? "Is my criticism harmful or beneficial?" . Many times, if you can spend more time and put yourself in others' shoes, you won't put your foot in your mouth and cause others' unhappiness.

Second, choose the right time to speak.

The main meaning of this sentence is that before you express your opinion, you must first make sure that the other party is ready and willing to listen to you. Otherwise, you will only waste your energy, play the lute to a cow, and miss a great opportunity to let others accept your opinion for nothing. Since we should choose a good time, when is a good time to speak? In fact, it is difficult to meet a good time, but it is not difficult to meet a suitable conversation time.

For example, in public, or when other friends and colleagues are present, avoid talking about privacy or some sensitive topics. Also, when the other person is unhappy, try to avoid talking about it.

Third, listen to others' feedback.

If a person wants to talk to others, he should not only know how to say it, but also know how to listen. Lack of listening skills often leads to rash criticism. A person will criticize or make unwise remarks at will because he just wants to control the whole conversation, regardless of what others have to say. If you listen carefully to others' feedback or reaction to your point of view, you can be sure whether they are listening to you and whether they can understand your point of view or feelings. But also can see each other's concerns and are willing to discuss the key points.

Fourth, understand the feelings of others.

If you can try to understand each other's feelings first, you can also skillfully say something difficult to say.

For example, if your parents are worried that your investment plan is not comprehensive enough, don't say to them, "Why can't you mind your own business and always treat me like a three-year-old child-that's my money, and I can use it as I like!" "。 This typical childish defensive reaction can't increase your parents' confidence in you. You should think about how your parents felt when they said this.

Maybe they just want to stop you from investing rashly, lest you repeat their mistakes. It is also possible that your father is worried about his future financial situation, but he doesn't know how to tell you. So when faced with other people's criticism or some behaviors that make you unhappy, as long as you can find out the real reasons or needs behind it, you can resolve a conflict in another way.

Fifth, the matter is not right.

For example, do you have any difficult friends who always make you angry to death? Some people are just complaining, pessimistic, procrastinating and always making up a lot of excuses. If your friend's behavior has threatened your friendship, you have the right to remind him. At this time, it is important that you point out what behaviors you hate, instead of trying to change his personality. It is much easier for a person to change some specific behaviors than to change his personality.

6. When you say something wrong, apologize immediately.

It's important to be brave enough to admit your mistakes, so once you find that your words have hurt others, don't have the cheek to refuse to apologize. Everyone occasionally says the wrong thing. But you must realize that you said something you shouldn't have said, and then try to correct it immediately. Pay attention to other people's words or other reactions to judge whether an apology is needed. If you are really wrong, you must apologize immediately, bravely admit your mistake, and don't make up a lot of excuses to avoid adding insult to injury.

Communicate with others more, don't compete with others.

Some people often regard it as a kind of competition when they talk to others. Be sure to make clear the difference. If you often find loopholes in other people's words, often argue about certain details, or often correct other people's mistakes to show off your knowledge and eloquence. You are sure to leave a deep impression, but that's a bad impression. These people often ignore the communication skills, because they regard the conversation as a debate, rather than a process of exchanging information, ideas and feelings with each other.

Therefore, in order to communicate with others better, we must give up this competitive way of talking and adopt a casual rather than aggressive way of talking. In this way, when you express your opinion, others will listen more easily and will not feel excluded.

Chat Skills 2 The first one, classmates

As I said before, I basically divide girls in school into three categories: ordinary, perfect and academic bully.

If you are a girl and don't want to be left out in the cold, you must remember their chat information when chatting with familiar friends. For example, you may not have time to watch TV programs, various plays and books recommended by your friends, but if you write down your friends' feelings, you can also use them when chatting with strangers.

Generally, girls have no obstacles, just find the bright spot in her body and pretend to be casual and sincere in praising her.

There is always something commendable from head to toe. Even if you really can't find anything to praise your dress, you can still say, "I find your hair is good!" " Or "Well, your nose is beautiful!" "Your eyes are particularly bright!" Shy girls boast that they are quiet, while cheerful girls boast that they are beautiful. The reason must not be far-fetched.

If it is really ugly duckling type, if you really think that suddenly praising her will scare her, you can smile at her approachable appearance and talk about teachers and homework. If your sister doesn't show confidence or inferiority at ordinary times, you should act like you are listening to her when she speaks, give her a look that you are listening carefully and smile where you should laugh. Trust me, this kind of girl will thank you for listening to her.

Perfect girls are used to listening to compliments, so they put on a gesture of consultation.

Make-up artist, matching accessories, boasting and asking, she will automatically tell you something. Forget the flamboyant perfect girl. In my opinion, it's hard to see how far you like to show off. There are also some perfect girls, who are really approachable and won't make you feel that her style is too avant-garde and high-end, and her smile is gentle and friendly. At this time, you can talk about her favorite TV and programs. At this time, you will use materials accumulated from all directions, at least you won't know what your sister is saying. You can recommend similar or better TV to her when she talks about her favorite TV. Isn't it great?

Sometimes it's really lucky to like the same star as a nymphomaniac. You may have a lot to say.

Then if you are an iceberg girl, you should also classify it as arrogant and difficult to talk or nice but not talkative. If Iceberg Girl only plays mobile phone or wears headphones when she is with you, then you can do other things without being forced. Don't insist that you don't chase people. Excellent people can barely discover the same hobbies, such as asking them what they are playing when playing mobile phones. You also like this game, and you also go to Douban. Actually, I think since the iceberg girl made an iceberg, it means people don't want to chat. Don't be embarrassed by silence.

Many schoolmates themselves can't chat, and of course there are emotional intelligence and IQ. For this, please refer to the above two suggestions.

It's similar to the topic of Xueba. After the basic greeting, I will ask her about her favorite books. If she happens to be a sister who reads novels, just talk casually and ask her to recommend the title to you. Seriously write it on paper or mobile phone to show that she likes it and that she will definitely go back to see it. If you expect to meet this girl for the second time in a short time, go back and search the introduction and book review, or read the beginning and tell her where you saw it next time. Impression is definitely a big plus.

One of the advantages of being a bully is that you can ask many really useful questions, such as how to allocate time, how to improve self-control, and what certificates are more useful. Personally, I think chatting with seniors is actually more enjoyable, because it is really easy to gain something.

The second category, predecessors &; Open Loop (same as open loop)

The seniors here include seniors or other seniors in the school. If there is no ice, besides the suggestions just given, we can still talk about some life problems. Is it the postgraduate entrance examination, civil servants, what elective courses to take, and all the things I don't know in school, all posing as a white rabbit, asking and listening. I think this kind of chat is very relaxed. Sometimes, they can talk about philosophy of life from a delicious shop near the school. The more you act like you want to hear, the more they want to talk about it. The timing of asking questions should be appropriate, and the questions should not be too white, which will be annoying.

In fact, OL has a lot of frustrations at work, so we must chat with her with positive energy. We can care about whether the other person is working hard, remind her to pay attention to her health and so on. If it happens that she seems to have a successful career and a good mood, ask her about her work experience and so on. You can sigh with her that it is really important to have a good boss. I remember one time when I was having dinner with my classmates in high school, I met an OL spelling table. She accosted us and said that we reminded her of her when she was young. I am a girl who is completely lacking in one track-minded. I nodded and said, well, she looks 30 years old. Awkward. In any case, women still want to be praised for their youth.

Sometimes when you attend a wedding or a friend's party, you will meet a sister older than you who doesn't know the background. If she is free, or if you are really in an awkward position, you can sometimes use your own feelings instead of ordinary compliments or the weather. For example, this wedding is really good. I think it's especially good to have this and that at the wedding. My ideal wedding would be especially good if it were like this. BLABLABLA…… ... If it doesn't ring, we can talk about work and what to do on weekends.

What to do on weekends or in free time is also a well-developed topic, because her hobbies can be inferred from her answers. I like watching movies, American TV shows, reading books and doing sports. These are all easy to talk about. If you like surfing the Internet, you can actually ask an aspect that you are good at. For example, if you like to visit Taobao, you can ask her what you usually do online. Do you visit Taobao? This suffix is very important. Without it, it's a bit like asking for privacy. As for whether it is a Taobao-type sister or a secondary real estate sister, it still depends on the gas field of the sister's own performance.

This is actually desperately looking for similarities, such as friends, hobbies, tastes and so on.

The third category, elders

Whether it's work or life, it's hard to talk when you meet your elders.

If you are an elder with a big age difference, you must be polite. If you know someone at home, talk about your parents' recent situation or her children. In fact, elderly aunts will praise you when they see you. This girl looks really handsome/tall/good/etc. , she will automatically find a topic to chat with you. There is no need to talk too much with such elders. They don't want to talk, you can't talk. You can't stand it if they say it.

Then there are the younger elders. They haven't even talked about love, but they already have children. It's just the gap caused by life experience. When they talk about their milk powder mother-in-law, it seems that they can't get in touch with each other.

In fact, this is the question that you are good at and not good at. You're not afraid of being caught in the middle when you have children, are you? Therefore, we should do a good job of information collection at ordinary times. For example, if your relatives have children, when you go to be a guest, you should also know what milk powder toys are better now, or which kindergarten and primary school are better. Listen to what relatives and friends say. Their feelings can also be applied to chatting.