If a person wants to achieve great things, he must have a stable mood and a mature mentality, and learn to control the fierce horse of emotions. If a person lacks self-control, he may become depressed or crazy. As a student, he not only can't finish his study task well, but also will run into a wall everywhere in his later life, and he can't handle interpersonal relationships well and live a relaxed and happy life.
We talked about several success criteria of Napoleon Hill, a successful American scientist, and several problems that plague the healthy growth of teenagers. These problems are mainly manifested in emotions, and self-control is the best weapon to control emotions. We even deliberately explored the positive side of bad things, telling him to keep an optimistic spirit at all times and try to say to himself: I can do it, so can others. If I can treat learning and study with this optimistic and enterprising attitude, I can do it well. I am very pleased and look forward to his full enthusiasm in learning.
For children with bad behavior or bad emotions, we should understand first, then talk, and approach slowly, reminding students to find the best way and have the best mentality, awakening students' awareness of self-education, making a heart-to-heart dialogue and narrowing the distance between teachers and students.
Second, all staff appreciate it and everyone encourages it.
Helping every student to succeed in education is the fundamental purpose of education, and the most suitable education for students is a successful education and a successful education. Appreciation and encouragement will promote students' success, while complaints and accusations will lead to students' failure. Failure is the mother of greater failure, and success is the mother of success.
In specific work, teachers should become appreciators, so that students can grow up healthily in an educational environment that appreciates and encourages them. Students' good behavior should be affirmed and praised by issuing appreciation incentive cards. For example, when the teacher is on duty, he finds that students are very concerned about class work, often consciously cleaning, and the work of wiping lamps and sticks is very difficult, so he gives him a praise card: your obscure work shows that you are a person who values behavior and talks less.
In class or tutoring students, we can discover the little progress made by students in time, encourage students with more appreciative and enlightening language, and establish a good relationship between teachers and students, which can also promote students' progress. When correcting students' test papers, you might as well write a few comments to those students who have made outstanding performance and made great progress. For example, the teacher's joy stems from your progress. Your recent performance tells me that you will definitely make progress and your efforts will be rewarded, right? A good scholar is like green grass, which lasts for a short time, but not as long as it is. May you study hard and make progress every day. The process of appreciating and encouraging education is the process of respecting students' subjective value, awakening students' subjective consciousness and fully stimulating their learning potential.
Third, timely, comprehensive and inclusive; Seize the opportunity, create conditions and go deep into students' hearts.
Tolerant love is a kind of wisdom, a kind of virtue, a kind of accomplishment, and also a way of education. Tolerance (not unprincipled accommodation) and proper teaching can subtly convey this wisdom and virtue to students. When dealing with problem students, we should always pay attention to the changes of his emotional seat, find the right time to communicate with him, and pay attention to controlling communication methods. With less criticism, more tolerance and proper handling, there will be less confrontation and more understanding between teachers and students, which is particularly evident in underachievers. Many times, it is necessary to give students tolerance. In dealing with these trivial matters, we can not only see the wit and art of an educator, but also go deep into the hearts of students and understand their ideological trends. As students grow up, it is inevitable that they will make mistakes of one kind or another. Some students' behavior is often subconscious. As long as it is not a major issue of principle, tolerating students and giving them a step down is to give them an opportunity to know themselves and correct their mistakes. Students will feel teachers' love and respect for their personality from their tolerance. From the beginning of gaining this respect, students may reflect on their words and deeds and experience the struggle of inner contradictions, which is a process from receiving education to self-reflection.
Of course, tolerance for students is not indifference, but a positive measure to gain insight into the object of education, grasp the initiative of education and adjust the relationship between teachers and students to develop in a good direction. This is an art that allows students to receive education easily in an acceptable environment. Fourth, establish an equal, democratic and cordial relationship between teachers and students and build a bridge for successful education.
In the first class of the new semester, I wrote four characters of democracy and equality on the blackboard and told my classmates the meaning of these words. Teachers and classmates have equal status, and teachers are also members of the class. If you have something to discuss, you must do a good job in classroom teaching. From now on, every student has the same position in the teacher's mind, and there is no difference between good and bad. I hope students can be strict with themselves and make continuous progress.
As the saying goes, only by respecting, understanding, caring, helping and appreciating students can teachers eliminate students' mental fears and increase opportunities for communication between teachers and students. In this environment, students' personality can be well developed, and they will actively think, study and answer, and open their hearts to teachers. I remember once, a classmate quietly told my teacher that addiction should be pronounced as? Xu? , not? xong？ I looked at it carefully and said, you are right, I was wrong. Then I said to him: thank you, you are my teacher, that's what learning knowledge should be like. I immediately told the whole class about my mistake and corrected it, and praised that classmate. I found that the students' faces were full of smiles, which was not a mockery of the teacher, but an approval of the teacher's practice. In this way, my prestige in the eyes of students has not diminished, but it has narrowed the distance between me and students. Teachers put down the dignity of being a teacher, treat every student with a democratic and equal attitude, and strive to become a guide, guide, collaborator and promoter of students' learning, and realize the greatest respect for students in teaching, emotion and language, without any discrimination, satire and sarcasm, and without corporal punishment or disguised corporal punishment. Give sincere praise and encouragement to students with bright spots and slight progress in class, and give sincere understanding, tolerance and good expectations to mistakes and mistakes caused by carelessness, nervousness and poor knowledge, so that it is easy to form an atmosphere of teacher-student interaction and student interaction in class, thus giving full play to students' main role.
Fifth, do a good job of self-reflection, be kind to the shortcomings put forward by others (especially in student management), correct them if they have them, and encourage them if they don't.
Reflect on the mistakes in our educational work, especially the educational methods for dealing with problem students. Many teachers aim at the educational methods of problem students. Many teachers have done meticulous and patient ideological work for problem students, but when they relapse again and again, they often lose patience; Some teachers often observe them with colored glasses, cold eyes, blunt language, as cold as soldiers, and even corporal punishment. The result of doing so is often counterproductive, which can only make them deviate from the track of healthy development, make their problems more and more serious, and even ruin their brilliant lives.
It can be said that delaying children is a lifelong matter, so let's find more reasons from ourselves. Human beings have given our teachers the glorious title of human soul engineer, and should shoulder the heavy responsibility of shaping a new generation of souls in the motherland. While paying attention to teaching, we should pay more attention to education and persistently cultivate students' good ideological quality and behavior habits. We should completely abandon the prejudice against problem students, educate every child as a good boy, and patiently reform students. Only in this way can we promote the good development of teacher-student relationship.
Growing up with students, making progress together, learning education and self-reflection and making education a positive, cooperative and happy life should be the highest realm I pursue. Teachers who enter this realm are happy, and students are also happy.