Man:
The man's parents and matchmaker took the groom to the woman's house to get engaged.
The man wants to send: a gift (the gift is based on 3. For example, 33,53,65438+100,000 3. The suffix of dowry must be "3", which is homophonic with the word "sheng" in Fuzhou dialect. Symbol of having children after marriage), festive and colorful (5 kg 2 packs of candy, 2 big pig legs, 2 big fish, 2 dried fish, 5 kg 2 packs of noodles (noodles should be wrapped in red paper), some red eggs, some apples or oranges, 2 bottles of red wine, and 65,438+00 giant clams that turn red after being cooked.
These things should be wrapped in red paper, or put square red paper on the things you send.
Woman:
You can prepare a hen and exchange it with the hen that the man gave when he was engaged, so that the man can bring back a pair of chickens (including the cock that the other party originally gave). Some women don't prepare hens in advance at home, but leave the hens given by the man and let the man take them back to the rooster.
Must be prepared: a pair of trousers and a gold jewelry in the pocket. According to Fuzhou, pants with gold are a treasury, and I hope the man has money.
As for how much gift the woman wants to send to the man, she can return it on the spot at the engagement ceremony or give it to the bride as a dowry when she gets married.
Remarks: As mentioned above, the woman can return half of the "ten colors" given by the man at the time of engagement. But this "ten-color celebration" is also negotiable. Now many people don't give ten colors, just give them casually.
wedding
The wedding of the hotel can be arranged by the wedding company.
According to Fuzhou custom, when getting married, the first day is the man's house to handle wine. The next day, wine was served at the woman's house, also called Huimen wine.
On the first day of marriage, the man's family should prepare more than two decorated wedding cars to come to the woman's house to pick up the bride and dowry, which is also called picking up relatives. The groom will also bring the bride's flowers and fine cigarettes to the bride's house. When you see the bride, give her the bouquet. At the same time, cigarettes were generously distributed to the woman's family. When the couple are at the woman's house, after meeting their ancestors, they should eat Taiping (note: Taiping's soup must be chicken. And the bride should eat slowly, preferably not faster than the groom.
The necessary dowry for the woman's family is: a doll (preferably given by a friend, but never bought by the bride herself), a baby bath basin, two suitcases, and a red bucket (meaning the bride's toilet, and red dates, peanuts, lotus seeds, longan and melon seeds should be put in the bucket, which means early birth).
Wedding procedures: the groom's wedding car arrives at the woman's house, and the woman's house should set off firecrackers. After that, the groom can enter the woman's house. After eating too much, the newlyweds took their dowry to get married. Before the newlyweds go out, the bride's house will also set off firecrackers. After that, the newlyweds can walk out of the bride's house. When the bride walks out of the woman's house, never look back. She should move forward happily. Even if she forgets something, she can't turn back. She should let someone else get it. The bride must hold a red umbrella from the moment the bride leaves the house until she gets on the bus. The red umbrella must be held by the bride's aunt (when notifying the groom's family, the groom's family must set off firecrackers first, and then the bride can get off the bus. The groom must take a red umbrella for the bride and walk her from the car to the door. The wedding car began to leave, and the woman's house had to set off firecrackers again.
The day after marriage is the day to go home. The bride's family will send her brother-in-law to pick up the bride, and the groom will give her money. Then the groom prepares gifts, visits Yue's home with the bride, and returns the same day.
As for other things to be used when getting married, whether they are prepared by the woman's family or the man's family, there is no special provision and they can be decided by both families through consultation.
The man's dowry:
According to the old man, the man should prepare 10 when he is hired, which means that after the "perfect" woman arrives at the bride price, except the bride price, the remaining half should be returned to the man.
Engagement fee: 33,000 yuan or 13000 yuan (the mantissa of engagement fee must be "3", which is homophonic with "sheng" in Fuzhou dialect, symbolizing that both parties have children after marriage).
Bride's gift: a cock and a hen (the woman returns the hen) and a pig's leg (the woman returns the pig's trotters).
One leg of lamb (the woman returns the sheep's hoof), two pieces of red silver carp and dried fish, 1 2 packs.
A woman's dowry:
Suitcases (usually two, meaning men) contain some commonly used clothes and the dowry given by the woman's parents to her daughter), dolls, a pair of dolls, a man and a woman, which is auspicious.
Make some electrical appliances (as required according to personal circumstances), plastic buckets, plastic flowers and vases (for decorating new houses): the plastic flowers should be white and red to represent men and women, and the bride should hold a bunch of flowers in her hand before going out. Strangely, I often see spittoons in many dowry, and I don't know what they are used for. Red umbrella: When picking up the bride, the bridesmaid holds a red umbrella for the bride to go out and get on and off. This umbrella should be brand-new, without a trademark, and its color can be red or pink. This is also an old auspicious saying, such as avoiding disasters and evil spirits.
Pick up relatives:
If the woman's home is in Fuzhou or has her own dormitory, pick it up at home. If the bride lives in the groom's house, she should avoid it when getting married, or rent a house in a hotel, pick it up from the hotel, or go directly to the makeup shop to pick up her relatives. If the man's elders don't mind, even the procedure of "meeting people" is omitted, and you are directly welcomed by the hotel in the afternoon (I think "meeting people" is essential because it is the most interesting part of marriage).
When a daughter in Fuzhou gets married, she must go to the man's house at 12 am. Generally, brides will set off to pick up relatives before 9 am 10. When the bride enters the door, the bridesmaid will open an umbrella for the bride, and the door will be opened by the bridesmaid.
Eat peacefully. When the groom arrives at the bride's house, the couple must eat a bowl of Taiping. When the bride receives the man's house, she still wants to eat a bowl of Taiping, indicating peace (there are two safe eggs in Pingli, usually one is left, indicating peace together).
Make the bed:
Fuzhou people want the elders of the man's family to make the bed for the new house. The elders should choose their parents and have complete children, which means that the new couple can be as happy as the elders (my father makes the bed for a couple ~ haha) and then find 1 or two smart and beautiful boys to roll around in the new bed, which means that beautiful boys will be born in the future. If they like to have girls, they can find a man and a woman, or just roll around with girls.
In the evening, the relatives and friends of the couple get together for a wedding banquet and a banquet. Sometimes I have seen relatives of my peers on the wine table. At that time, I could still get a red envelope.