I still remember that in 20 14, my husband and I were in love. I was too blind at that time and wanted to marry him soon. We did take wedding photos, but the real license was obtained two years later. I also put the wedding photos at the bottom of the box until the second half of 20 16.
Why did 14 take a wedding photo, but it was two years later. What happened in the middle?
Those two years were the running-in period when my husband and I saw each other clearly.
Women should remember one thing: get married slowly. Just because you two have a good relationship and have never quarreled doesn't mean you can get married. We still need to experience more and carefully observe whether the person you love is really suitable for you. If there is a contradiction, how will he handle the relationship between you?
I don't regret running in those two years now. Thanks to these two years, I can see my heart clearly and see if he is the right person.
When I am immature, I often complain: how come people are always in love smoothly, but you are bitter and bitter, and life is eventful.
But when I grew up, I realized that "it's good to encounter some setbacks emotionally." If everything goes well before marriage, there may be many hardships after marriage. If so, it is better to meet everything before marriage.
Don't give up on yourself when you encounter emotional setbacks. This period of time is just a test of your feelings, your ability to deal with problems, and whether you can make decisions for the young couple's future life.
02
My relationship with my husband has always been smooth. After we ended up in different places, we lived in the same city and had a good relationship. During the Spring Festival of 20 14, we also met our parents and were very satisfied with each other. However, who expected that the crisis would come at the beginning of 20 15.
20 15 is the first and last meeting between the two families. The meeting was decent on the surface, but behind the scenes it was full of crises. After the two families met, I was dragged by my uncle and said, "My boyfriend's family is too contemptuous of people." I feel so troublesome. It was originally a matter of two people, but the result was related to face.
At that time, my husband's mother was also dissatisfied with our family, and everything was very disdainful. But what's the problem? We're getting married, not two families. Mr. Wang's mother was unreasonable and did something stupid. In retrospect, it's all small things, but it's all big things at that time.
Say two years, in fact, we broke up for a year and a half. I am waiting for him to give me a satisfactory answer. In fact, I am reluctant to part with him, but I want him to properly handle the differences between the two families.
Because at that time, it was too late, and the two families were tired of each other. How can such a marriage have a result?
Mr. Wang has been fighting. I didn't have much contact with his mother during the cold war. Mr. Wang monopolized everything, and he tried to adjust the contradiction between the two sides.
I deliberately angered him: "Listen to your mother, find a girl who is satisfied with her, and then you can get married smoothly."
He said, "I can't let my parents arrange my life. I definitely choose the people I want to marry, not them. " After being out for so long, make your own decisions, let alone get married. "
I broke up many times, but I really didn't really break up. Sometimes quarreling can make both people scarred. I once fled his city, because I first came for him. At that time, I felt that I naturally wanted to leave because of my emotional frustration. I left, and he came back twice.
In fact, in the final analysis, I still can't let go. He can protect me when I am in trouble and make me feel safe. He is very active and has a good temper, and he never dares to speak loudly to me. Sometimes the thought of so much love makes it even more difficult to break up.
Again and again, at the end of the day, two people decided not to make trouble, so it doesn't matter. Anyway, they are far from home, so it's good to be together.
03
I figured it out. We informed our parents and made sure we got the license. After receiving the certificate, the couple who finally got married after running-in from online dating to reality, from long-distance dating to the same city is really married. We didn't have a wedding, and then we got a marriage certificate.
Parents just let us make our own decisions. Now think about it. Fortunately, we were not afraid of anything at that time and solved the problem well. Now the three of us live a happy life.
In fact, two people must have a heart in mind. Falling in love is not a life of talking and laughing, but a running-in of your three views.
When you are in love, you want to feel happy. Can you be together? Observe each other's way of doing things in love. It depends on whether your values want to get back together and whether you can solve the problem wholeheartedly. It depends on how you treat each other when you quarrel. It depends on whether your ideas about wedding and marriage can be unified. It depends on whether you can really control your parents and how well you know each other's circle of friends.
Know a lot of things, not get married.
Don't bring contradictions in love into marriage. If you can't solve it when you are in love, marriage will only be more troublesome without any regrets.
Marriage is not the end of love, but the beginning of your new love. But whether you can have a good marriage or not, you must first take a good trip to love.
"How long does it take to get married in love?" It will take more than a year at the earliest, depending on whether you two can be financially independent. This is very important. If you are financially independent, you can make your own decisions better.
Think clearly about everything, don't rush to get married, enjoy love, find out your temperament and values, and see if the other person is an independent person, the way you handle problems, and whether you have the ability to make your own decisions. Think it over. Think it over before you get married.
It is often said that "men change as soon as they get married", but I want to say that it is not that men are too fickle, but that you are too stupid. Just look at people and see if they are really suitable for you.