The old-style wedding evolved from the ancient "six ceremonies" (one ceremony, two questions, three ceremonies, four ceremonies, five invitations to the sun, and six weddings).
Propose marriage
When a man and a woman get married, the matchmaker, according to their parents' instructions, thinks that the door is right, and presses the exchanged "Geng Tie" (age and birthday) on the bottom of the net cup in front of the kitchen god statue to test God's will. If there are no "abnormal" situations such as broken bowls and lamps, disgusting meals, quarreling with family members, restless cats and dogs at home within three days, please ask the fortune teller to "arrange eight characters" to see if the year is appropriate and the zodiac is compatible. In the old society, some people were superstitious about the so-called six-year big rush and three-year small rush; Men get married at the age of two, and women don't get married at the age of nineteen; It is said that it is difficult to compare chickens with dogs (chickens are at odds with dogs), dragons with tigers (dragons and tigers fight each other), tigers with sheep (sheep fall into the tiger's mouth) and snakes with mice (snakes and mice swallow mice). It is considered that relatives can only be discussed if they are comprehensive.
be engaged in
Discuss relatives before engagement, then discuss "small gifts" and bargain in the age of buying and selling marriage. Generally, it is "four magenta" or "six magenta" (four to six pieces of satin), two gold rings and a pair of gold earrings; Bridal gift, small gift 36, middle gift 64, big gift 120 (silver dollar); The quantity of food is "sixty-four", that is, 64 pairs of baotou, 64 oil bags, 64 biscuits and so on. There are 2 to 8 loads of old wine, so it is called "old wine bottle". After the engagement, the man carried the above gift to the woman with a barbell. The woman's gifts are mostly gold balls, oil bags and embroidery made by her daughter. The engagement certificate is given by the man as a "book", commonly known as "red and green book paper" (two layers of paper are red outside and green inside), and the woman recognizes it as "reply", commonly known as "Wen Ding". In the old society, couples quarreled, and my wife often said that I had a "red and green book" to restrain my husband. After the "Wen Ding", choose an auspicious day to get married, and the day shop will choose a "good day". Gifts from relatives and friends, weddings are mostly cash, or happy events, happy axes, and books such as "A Hundred Years of Harmony, Five Generations under One Family" and "A Match Made in Heaven". Most wedding gifts are embroidered or satin quilts, quilts or daily utensils, but there are also red dates, peanuts, longan and lotus seeds, which means "having children early".
In the old days, there was a custom that matchmakers could not drink tea for the first time, saying that "matchmakers don't drink tea", and drinking tea should dilute marriage. The matchmaker is also called "the matchmaker's wardrobe". If the matchmaker can eat a hundred meals, he should be rewarded with "wine to thank the matchmaker" However, if there is disagreement between husband and wife or between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after marriage, the matchmaker has the responsibility to mediate.
marry
Please have a drink to celebrate the wedding. This day is called a "good day". As the saying goes, "Eat wine to worship life". A few days ago, the groom invited his elders and relatives to have a wedding banquet (good day wine) and used red paper to "Zhi Dan". The elders should write the word "Zhi" under their names. A few days ago, people used to wait for their husbands and wives to get married. Parents of both sides invited their children to eat steamed stuffed buns, clams, elbows, chestnuts and lotus seeds to win the prize of "five sons entering the Ministry". Three or five days before the wedding, the man gives the woman a "sedan chair", usually two geese, 1 square meat and two fish.
Seeing the bride price, the man goes to the woman's house to move the bride price (dowry), and the woman puts the bride price in the hall for people to watch, which is called "seeing the bride price". The utensils are hung with red colored lines, the clothes are smoked with sandalwood, and a few silver dollars are put at the bottom of the box, commonly known as "box money". The dowry is moved to the man and displayed in the hall for people to watch, also called "seeing the dowry". The old lady took the woman's key bag and took the key out of the box, commonly known as "taking out the box"