July 30th, 20 18? Monday
Text/forgotten girl
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By chance, I finished reading Shanghai Women's Picture Book at once, which is an inspirational story about women entering the workplace for the first time.
I haven't seen a play for a long time, and I was attracted by it at the beginning. The roommate said that the story began when a couple of college students went to Bitter's for an interview at the same time, but the unqualified Miss Luo Haiyan was admitted instead of her boyfriend Chen Xiaowei.
This puzzled Luo Haiyan and made Chen Xiaowei, who had always been confident, feel incredible.
So Luo Haiyan wanted to check their written papers, but the interviewer Scarlett told her: "There are no perfect people in this world, but some people can be infinitely close to perfection. Chen Xiaowei is such a person. "
When Chen Xiaowei was informed, he disappeared for a few days for no reason. When he saw Luo Haiyan again, he took out two tickets to his hometown and wanted Luo Haiyan to go home with him to live a stable and comfortable life.
He said if not, we could come back. But Luo Haiyan refused. She said, "If we leave, we may never come back. I want to stay and try. "
Indeed, people's choices at the beginning are very important. Once they make a mistake, even if they can go back, they will pay a higher price.
Soon, I will also face the choice of entering the society, not only to find my own position, but also to choose what kind of city. I didn't understand why so many people had to choose the first-tier cities in the north, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, live in crowded rental houses and squeeze the subway, but also choose the first-tier cities.
Now I understand, because the original choice is very important, it can determine the height and quality of your life in the future.
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Luo Haiyan gave up love and chose the magic capital. But in my opinion, she is not wrong. She just wants to choose the life she wants and work hard. On the other hand, Chen Xiaowei hoped that Luo Haiyan would go back to his hometown with him, because an interview failed and he gave up the opportunity to work in Bites.
It is not terrible that a person is poor. What is terrible is that he has no fighting spirit to make progress and has no ambition to create his own life different from others. And Chen Xiaowei is such a person, empty and talented, ambitious and even selfish.
If the university is a small plastic surgery hospital, then the society is really a plastic surgery hospital that completely changes a person from beginning to end, from outside to inside.
Luo Haiyan is also attracted by this big city called "Magic Capital". From a young and simple college student, she has become a working woman who can calmly deal with all kinds of people in the workplace, and exudes the elegance of charming women.
Luo Haiyan, who had nothing in Shanghai, finally became the person she wanted with her talent and hard work. After five failed relationships, I got the last love.
About this drama, whether it is friendship, love or all aspects of the workplace, I have a lot of new understanding and some new insights.
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About love:
Luo Haiyan (Kate later gave her the English name Harriet) met five love rat in Shanghai before she got her true love. Everyone has his own shortcomings.
The first one is Yang Chengyuan, who is the English teacher Harriet met when she signed up for the English class. The two of them make rapid progress and don't pursue the process. After the storm, they let nature take its course Hasty and direct love has refreshed my three views.
Soon after, Harriet went to see the man's parents. Harriet was nervous and at a loss. Lumani taught Luo Haiyan with her ideas. Tell her that your clothes can be cheaper and simpler, but you must buy expensive gifts, which shows that you value it. And after dinner, you must rush to wash the dishes, which makes you virtuous.
There is no suspense in the development of the plot, and the play of meeting parents will definitely end in failure. Not only because harriet lowered his posture, but also because Yang Chengyuan was a Shanghainese, and his mother's family concept and region despised harriet from other places.
Later, when Harriet told Kate about it, Kate said something very reasonable. She said, "To be a woman, you must be reserved, and don't let people think that you are flattering. People value you, and you can think of compliments for anything you send; People don't like you, and when Jinshan Yinshan moves there, people will think that his family Yang Chengyuan has the ability to get a little girl. "
The day before yesterday, my roommate sent a video in which Tu Lei said, "Modesty is a woman's dress. Once a woman loses her dignity, it is equivalent to being naked willingly. "
In this love, boys are typical mothers-in-law, with soft ears and strong male chauvinism. He was afraid that harriet would be more successful than him, so he listened to his mother and ended up with tens of thousands of dollars.
The second man, Cai Zhongxian, a married person in Hong Kong, is a typical red flag at home, and the man with colorful flags fluttering outside is even worse.
The third man, Yan Bing, a model chosen by Harriet, went to war for her career and betrayed Harriet.
The fourth man, Harriet began to lose confidence in love, and met Bai Qiang, the head of the wedding company, at the blind date. Slag point: After proposing marriage, I proposed to harriet to buy a villa, with a down payment of half for each person, which is euphemistically called: both parties pay, so as to be like a family. In the second scheme, he can pay the down payment himself, but the real estate license only writes his name. If Harriet's name is to be added, so is Harriet's new apartment. Harriet turned blue on the spot, immediately made an excuse to leave, and finally they broke up.
The fifth man, a rich man, described love as a contract and asked his assistant to give Harriet a five-year contract. After five years, I will leave my job automatically if I don't renew it. This is just a love transaction.
The last one is Harriet's neighbor Zhang Tianhao. When he fell in love with harriet, he saw harriet going in and out with three men in front of him. After discovering that I like harriet, I cut off all the peach blossoms around me, began to slowly narrow the distance with harriet, and even designed games for her, resigned and started my own game company.
But Harriet has gradually lost confidence in love and dare not take any more risks. Zhang Tianhao still didn't give up, and Harriet was finally moved by what he had done for herself.
A woman may meet many men in her life, but the right one belongs to love. Before that, I want to live an honest and clean life, try to be better and wait for that person to arrive. As Shen Congwen said, "I knew you would come, so I waited."
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About friendship:
Lumani met Harriet as a real estate agent when she was looking for a house. Later, she became her roommate, spent her most difficult days with Harriet, and solved the worries of Harriet's accommodation. But later, because of the different heights of the world seen in a friend's community, the two went further and further, and the three views gradually separated, and finally separated because of the three views.
Kate is an intern who joined the company with Harriet. Compared with Harriet's innocence, Kate is a capable, intelligent and beautiful newcomer. During her career development, harriet not only helped harriet change her temperament, but also gave her a lot of advice. But her choice is different from Harriet's. Harriet is going to make a splash in Shanghai. Kate left early and married the vice president of the company.
Kate has her own rules in this play, whether it is her own requirements or her understanding of the workplace. She taught me a lot. Women must first learn to invest in themselves. If they don't know how to cherish themselves, how can they ask others to love them?
Scarlett plays the role of teacher and friend in Harriet's life. Harriet later said in an interview that Scarlett was her mentor when she was growing up, and she always took what Scarlett said to her as her creed: "Every important choice in life can't be dragged down by others, even your lover."
Every step of life is screened by a sieve, and so is social interaction. We always choose who to associate with according to our inner standards, and what kind of people are doomed to be unable to be together.
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About the workplace:
Kate said something, which I think is particularly reasonable. She said: "Small companies do things, big companies are people."
Although I haven't stepped into the society and entered the workplace, in my heart, there is a set of principles that belong to me, and there are standards to measure what I should do and what I shouldn't touch.
The truest appearance of the workplace is a complicated relationship that cannot be sorted out, and it is cruel and realistic.
From the interview to the hard work in the workplace, Shanghai women's picture books show the roles of every role type incisively and vividly, and what we finally become stems from our original choices.
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Everyone struggles in the workplace on their own, regardless of gender.
Whatever you want, you have to fight for it by yourself.
Women want to survive in the workplace, and no one can cling to it. Even if there is, you have to feel safe on your own.
I admire Luo Haiyan's courage to work hard in Shanghai, but her concept of love is unacceptable to me.
Everyone has his own way of living, and others can't evaluate whether they are happy or not.
But as a woman, I prefer to work hard by my own efforts, with strong capital and an independent and free soul.
Above, * * * encourage!