However, after several times of reciprocity, the question of whether the gifts are equivalent and whether the status is commensurate gradually arises. Most gifts between relatives symbolize a kind of? Meaning? There is no other meaning, such as household goods, food snacks, health care products, etc. They are all daily gifts, and when it comes to weddings, funerals and weddings, they will involve gifts, which means that the usual gifts, with more money and less money, represent the weight in each other's hearts.
In the process of this wedding, it is very important to master a certain degree of propriety according to status. Randomness is also exquisite and taboo, such as these:
First, avoid slapping your face with fat, and the ceremony is getting higher and higher.
Different people's abilities, grades and identities have different natural styles. For example, some people are born much taller than others. In his eyes, money is not money. As a result, when other relatives held banquets such as weddings, funerals and celebrations, he directly sent thousands of gifts to show his concern for relatives. What does he think? Normal? Maybe his circle is like this, but some relatives have poor family circumstances, so it is undoubtedly astronomical to let others accompany thousands of pieces of gift money at a time.
Why do some relatives like it? Punch a swollen face and pretend to be fat? Seeing how well others follow the rules, he should also follow the rules to show that he is not worse than others. As a result, what used to be an ordinary marriage custom has become a competition for everyone to compare with each other. You follow 5000, I follow 5000, he follows 5000, you follow 10000, I follow 10000.
This is no longer a gift, but a vicious competition, a mutual comparison that destroys family ties, and its nature is like driving up prices and destroying market conditions. Therefore, in order not to be bloated and obese, it is wise to avoid private communication with everyone as the ceremony gets higher and higher, and to take a middle value acceptable to everyone.
Second, avoid choosing only expensive gifts and not choosing the right ones, which will not reach each other's wishes.
Generally speaking, gifts need to be given according to the nature of the other party's banquet. For example, if the other party is a wedding, it is best to send something useful for marriage; If the other party is willing to move, then send some household items; It is best to send funeral supplies to each other's funeral.
However, in order to show their style, some people give antiques, treasures and souvenirs directly regardless of the willy-nilly. It seems that the price is very expensive and the cost is very high. In fact, the other party is useless and useless.
Like a family funeral, the old man died. The old man especially liked to collect antique calligraphy and painting before his death. As a result, people who went to the funeral still sent antique calligraphy and painting as usual, which made the family miserable. Obviously, these antique calligraphy and paintings are precious, but they can't be sold or burned to the dead.
Remember not to feel expensive and expensive when giving gifts. It depends on whether it has practical value. That's all that matters. People need new furniture when they move, so you can deliver it in time. This is called sending it to your heart.
Third, avoid a big gap in gifts, and give gifts to relatives with similar relationships in a balanced way.
Being a man, not being a man, can often be seen through gifts. For example, some relatives are brothers and sisters of the father's and mother's generation and belong to close relatives. Before my parents, I even went to my grandparents' relatives, that is, distant relatives. Gifts from close relatives are naturally more expensive, and those from distant relatives are not too expensive. It's good to have a heart.
Some people don't care so much, close relatives and distant relatives are equal, and there is no difference. This made the closest relatives have an idea in their hearts. When your family needs help, distant relatives may not care too much about you, and close relatives may think: this person can't tell who is light and who is heavy. Look at the last gift, so-and-so family has been giving gifts for generations, and the gifts are the same as ours. Now, why don't you come to us when you meet something?
This is the difference. Don't give gifts regardless of your status, especially if you give them unevenly for the same mutual affection, it will also destroy your feelings and make people dissatisfied.
The world is a state of life that people must pay attention to when they reach middle age. It is necessary to distinguish between what kind of people to bring and what kind of gifts to send to relatives, so as to see the scenery clearly, accurately grasp and safeguard the friendship of every relative.