Some people say that the happiness of marriage lies not in how luxurious the wedding banquet is, nor in how much bride price is given, but in whether two people love each other.

The implication is that the happiness of marriage has nothing to do with material things, but mainly lies in the feelings of two people. In fact, this sentence has some truth, but it is too one-sided. If marriage is so simple, then there are no divorced couples in the world.

In my opinion, half of marriage is composed of feelings and the other half is composed of materials, and both are indispensable. Marriage without feelings is passive water and will not last long at all; Marriage without material things seems to be an extreme way, and there is no motivation to move forward, and it is not the way. So in marriage, emotion and material complement each other.

But in real life, too few people know this truth, and many people will go to extremes. Either only pursue feelings in marriage, or blindly pursue material things. These two are too extreme, which is not good for marriage, so the chances of happiness are very small.

Almost everyone thinks it is wrong to pursue material things excessively in marriage, but now almost everyone is pursuing them. This is also a puzzling place.

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In recent years, I always feel that people's hearts are becoming more and more impetuous, hedonism and egoism are rampant, and many people take the motto "Every man for himself, the devil takes the hindmost". Therefore, today's social environment is becoming more and more complicated, and people are increasingly lacking in trust.

Even things like marriage and love are polluted. Everyone wants to marry someone better than himself. The "strong" here mostly refers to being richer than oneself, that is, worshipping money.

In the past, when getting married, it might be enough for two people to hit it off. You don't need anything, you can be together for a lifetime. Nowadays, there are many requirements for getting married, such as having a house, a car and a bride price, so that a man can marry a woman and marry her.

Now marriage is so realistic. You can pick and choose if you have money, but you can only be selected if you have no money. So today's divorce rate is getting higher and higher, because many couples are together not because of love, but because of material conditions. The result of this marriage is not optimistic.

It is precisely because of their obsession with material things that many people have done many wrong things and many absurd things. Moreover, because of material things, people can't get married, and there are not a few people who break up a couple.

I wrote this article today because of the contribution of reader Jia Yu. Not long ago, Jia Yu planned to marry his girlfriend, but a series of things happened and ruined his wedding.

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Jiayu is 29 years old and has a girlfriend Jamlom who has been in love for more than a year. They are the same age and joined the same company after graduating from college.

Jiayu people are ugly, short and slightly fat. I have been single for several years in college because of external conditions. When he entered the company after graduation, he felt a little touched when he saw his colleague Jamlom.

Xiao Xu is not beautiful, but he is not ugly. He belongs to ordinary people, but because he likes fitness, he has a good figure, is polite and treats people with courtesy. Everyone in the company likes her very much.

Jia Yu, a boy, has no attraction in Jamlom's heart. In fact, Xiao Xu has been fond of a senior for many years. This man is tall, handsome and talented, but he always refuses to accept Jamlom.

Over the years, the seniors have probably regarded Jamlom as a spare tire, but Jamlom is also willing, because she really likes the seniors.

On the other hand, Jiayu belongs to Jamlom's spare tire. Jiayu has been fighting for Jamlom, and will buy gifts and give red envelopes to Jamlom on holidays and birthdays. On weekdays, it is also at your fingertips and you can't go away.

If put in a TV series, these three people can achieve a doomed love. It's just that this is in real life, and there are not so many infatuated men and women.

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The senior finally married someone else and abandoned the spare tire Jamlom. Jamlom was very sad because he wasted several years of his youth on a fruitless thing. At that time, Jamlom was 27 years old, the age of marriage. But she has just been hurt by love and doesn't want to get married.

After that, Jamlom's inner thoughts changed, and she no longer wanted to pursue feelings, because in the last paragraph, she gave her heart and got this result. So she began to pursue material things.

And beside her, there has always been a spoony man, Jia Yu. She also knows that Jia Yu's family is very good, so she tries to be with Jia Yu.

When Jia Yu heard that Jamlom promised to be his girlfriend, he was very happy. He felt that his sincere efforts had finally paid off. When he fell in love with Jamlom, Jia Yu was almost obedient to Jamlom.

Jia Yu spends almost every month's salary on Jamlom. Sometimes if he is not good enough, he has to ask his parents for some. In this way, two people fell in love for about a year, and Jiayu proposed to Xiao Xu.

Jamlom thinks that Jia Yu is obedient to herself and will listen to her after marriage. Men are dead set on themselves and don't have to pay too much. Why not? So I promised to marry him.

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Two people began to prepare for the wedding. Jamlom is very demanding. She wants Jiayu to buy a house in the city, write her name, and want a bride price of100000 and other wedding details. She is also very demanding.

You know, buying a house in the city has made the Jiayu family unable to afford it. Coupled with all kinds of miscellaneous things, Jiayu's parents' savings may not be enough, and they need to borrow again.

Jia Yu asked Jamlom if she could have less, but Jamlom insisted on it, saying she wouldn't get married if she wasn't satisfied. Jia Yu was scared when he heard this, so he begged his parents and borrowed some money himself, which finally met Jamlom's request.

At that time, Jia Yu's parents said to him, "Son, your girlfriend's request is too material and realistic. Are you sure she likes you? " If I really like you, why not think about you? "

Although Jia Yu spoke through his parents, he felt bitter in his heart. Especially when he was with Jamlom, he heard some rumors about Jamlom and his seniors. But he likes Jamlom so much that he chooses to ignore it. But now that he is married, Jamlom has a big mouth, which makes him a little uncomfortable.

Soon, the wedding day is coming.

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Because of the excitement of getting married, Jia Yu stayed up the night before yesterday, and took a group of people and the motorcade to Xiao Xu's house to meet relatives before dawn the next day. A line of people came to Jamlom's house in a mighty way. According to custom, there is a link where the groom opens the door, which is also a small game.

Jia Yu's friends tried their best. Jia Yu stuffed a lot of red envelopes and finally opened the door. Then a series of links, very easy to take Jamlom away, I didn't expect Jamlom to make a request in front of everyone.

Jamlom said, "To show your determination to love me, I decided to increase the bride price by 50,000 yuan. Now find someone to get the money. When the money arrives, I will go with you. "

Jia Yu thought she was joking and kept coaxing her to stop talking. Unexpectedly, Jamlom said solemnly, "Who has offended you? I'm serious. "

Jia Yu realized that Jamlom was serious. He pleaded, "Where can I get you fifty thousand dollars at this juncture?" . My family has already owed a lot of money for my marriage this time. Can you stop? "

I didn't expect Jamlom to stare at me and say, "That's your problem. If you love me, you have to make up for this 50 thousand anyway. "

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Jiayu begged, but Jamlom just didn't agree. There is already a peak, but Jamlom just won't go. The people next to him began to talk.

Jia Yu was angry for a moment. Pointing to Jamlom, he shouted, "I'll ask you again, will you go?"

Jamlom was worried when he saw Jiayu angry with her. He shouted, "I won't leave without money!" "

After hearing her say this, Jia Yu's eyes became red. He was crazy and lost his mind. He rushed forward, tore Jamlom's wedding dress to pieces, and shouted, "Let everyone see what you are. Others playing with things they don't want is superior! "

They didn't react at that time, watching Jiayu tear Jamlom's wedding dress to pieces. All this just slow lead to god, quickly pull open two people.

Jamlom immediately became a laughing stock, and everyone was talking about it. Jiayu left directly with the people, and announced the cancellation of the wedding before leaving.

Originally it was a happy event, because Jamlom's aggressiveness turned into a farce, which had to make people cry.

Marriage was originally based on two people's feelings and wants to be together, but now it is becoming more and more because of money and material reasons. This is the deterioration of marriage, so it is difficult for two married people to be happy.

Couples bound by matter will be separated by matter sooner or later.