Blind date:
First, friends and relatives introduced them, and both sides had suitable partners. Then parents or others participated in some unannounced visits to each other. If there is no objection, they agree to associate with each other. Some people get along first and then introduce them to their parents slowly. This is the custom that most Baoying people follow. Although there are many free relationships now, they are basically for parents to see. If it is a free love, you need to find a matchmaker to explain that Mingmei is marrying.
Engagement:
The two lovers are getting married, so let your parents know. Afraid that their children are not in a hurry (in fact, most parents are in a hurry), parents formally hold a pre-marital ceremony, that is, engagement. The purpose of engagement is to formally inform the closest relatives and friends to let them know that the girl has a husband's family and the young man has a fiancee. The main relatives of both sides know each other and invite them to dinner by the way (this meal can also be cooked at home, and some men express their sincerity and go directly to the restaurant, which is more lively). In the engagement ceremony, the man usually goes to the woman's house with a betrothal gift (such as clothes and rings bought by the man for the woman) and sets off some firecrackers. This ceremony does not require money from relatives and friends, but the elders will give gifts to the two children. Now some people cancel the engagement ceremony to save trouble.
Chasing festival:
The penultimate festival before marriage, usually the Dragon Boat Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival, Spring Festival and other days, the man will send two ducks (pawns) at the farewell ceremony, indicating that I will leave my fiancee at my mother-in-law's house until I get married. On the penultimate festival before marriage, two geese (nests) were given instead, indicating that the fiancee wanted to build a nest in her house ("nest" is a dialect, meaning "marriage"). Because there are no ducks and geese as gifts at ordinary times, the woman knows that the man wants to marry the woman, and the woman wants to get married, so she is called chasing her sister.
Nowadays, the two ceremonies of engagement and festival chasing are sometimes reversed.
Greenhouse:
Warm house day (also called "make-up" locally) refers to the day before marriage. After the wedding date is fixed, both men and women should make some preparations before marriage: some people choose the date in advance and send the girl's dowry to the man's house, while others send it in the greenhouse. On Warm House Day, both men and women will hold a banquet at home to entertain relatives and friends. Banquets are usually arranged in the evening, and the main relatives and friends are usually present. Generally, uncles and aunts sit on the chairman's desk, so the wine they eat on this day is called greenhouse wine. The bride and groom also have things to arrange. Before the bride gets married, she should bathe and change clothes in the greenhouse day, usually accompanied by bridesmaids (girls selected by local aunts or girls close to the bride among relatives and friends) to rest; Dress up the next day and wait for the arrival of the groom. On the groom's greenhouse day, in addition to greeting guests, he has to take a shower and change clothes. Before going to bed, the man's family arranges a boy (usually a close relative boy or the best man) to sleep with him. The next day, the boy who sleeps with him can get the money to press the bed on the groom's bed. Couples usually put some dates, peanuts, sweets and cakes under the bed, indicating that the couple are prosperous, full of children and grandchildren, and have a baby early.
Zhengri:
Today is the wedding day, the most crucial day for couples, and the most polite day.
In the morning, the groom takes a bus to pick up the bride's makeup, but most of them are arranged by the woman's family to send someone to accompany the bride, or ask the makeup artist to make up at home. At this time, the bride puts on makeup, and the groom arranges to tie the wedding car and hold flowers. After putting on makeup, the bride will go home by car, or arrange an auxiliary car to send the bride, and the float will go home with the groom at this time. The float returned to the groom's house, and the groom's parents burned incense and thanked the Bodhisattva, and arranged for the wedding team to have morning tea. The wedding procession is generally composed of the groom, the best man and the matchmaker, with or without drivers and photographers. After a simple morning tea, set out to marry the bride with wedding gifts, firecrackers and farewell.
Go to the bride's house, hold out the whip to inform her, and say, marry the whip. The bride's family has already sent people to wait, and they also responded with a whip, saying, a whip to marry the bride. In order to welcome the arrival of the wedding procession, when I arrived at the bride's house, the groom went straight to the bride to offer flowers, indicating that I had come to marry you. At this time, some people won't let the door open, ask for a red envelope and say, the door is closed. Then the groom dispelled the smoke of happiness. The host arranged for the guests to sit down and ate three kinds of tea (one kind of tea, brown sugar and red dates, two kinds of tea, sweets and cakes and three kinds of tea dumplings).
After a short rest, the bride began to get married. (There are arrangements, children's toilets, bronze stove curtains, boxes and quilts, toiletries, dowry items ...), but now these brides are usually sent to the man's house together with the dowry in advance. Generally, on the wedding day, it is mainly to send a girl as a dowry and pay attention to sending boxes. Ask the groom to pay the person who locks the box (the bride's brother or younger brother) (how much is discussed in advance, generally). There are also beautiful things in the box, and red envelopes are usually placed around it, which read: box money. If the man carries a red envelope, the woman must match the same red envelope equal to or greater than the red envelope to press the bottom of the box together. At this time, the matchmaker or Grandma Xi will light a piece of red paper (a paper stick stained with oil twisted with red paper), or cover the woman's house with a red paper sieve and hold a ceremony around the box, saying, take a picture. Second, the bride's father or brother or younger brother will accompany the bride to cook a sumptuous meal and light candles. There are usually only two dishes, fish and tofu. Yue: Get married when you are full. The matchmaker or grandma Xi puts a little of everything for the bride to eat. At this time, the bride and her mother will cry. Say: marry in tears.
Then the bride began to get married. At this time, her feet don't touch the ground. The bride puts the bride's shoes in her father's or brother's shoes, and the father or brother helps her get on the groom's float (or the brother carries the groom's float). When leaving home or getting on the float, the bride leaves her father's or brother's shoes (before that, the bride should put a red envelope in the shoes for her father or brother who helped her). The family also arranged for someone to send her to get married, usually the bridesmaid or the bride's brother. At the same time, remember to bring the dowry of the woman's family, which is usually half of the bride price brought by the groom. Finally, whip goodbye.
When the wedding team crosses the bridge on their way home, they will set off firecrackers or throw coins. When they got home, the groom's family began to set off firecrackers to welcome the couple. The bride won't get off the bus for a while, saying, hold your temper. At this time, someone put reed firewood according to the distance and spread it from the car to the door. At the gate or stairs, they lit the red reed sticks, pine branches and sesame stalks in the ingot basin. When finished, take the bride off the float. The groom is in front, the bride is behind, holding or carrying the bride. They walked into the house along the paved road in Chai Lu and said: There is money under your feet; Then cross the brazier and say: higher and higher; Enter the bridal chamber.
After entering the bridal chamber, the matchmaker closes the door, arranges for the bride and groom to have tea and a rich meal, and then hangs the curtain, usually by the matchmaker (the wedding person). To shout a few words of good luck, we should also arrange unmarried people or children and men to smash the window and applaud. Those who break windows can get candy or cigarettes and red envelopes. Some arrange to smash the window after the wedding. Commonly used words for smashing windows: smashing and poking, raising a son to go to college; A Yi Dao tuo, adopted son officer; A catty, a pull, full belly to raise eighteen; A pound, a pile, raising a baby.
Then arrange for the couple and the wedding procession to have three mouthfuls of tea. The ceremony of meeting after tea means that the bride meets the main relatives of the groom's family (grandfather, grandmother, father, mother, uncle, aunt, brother, sister, uncle, aunt, etc. ), this is called a gift. There are also worship ceremonies.
After the ceremony, the couple will be arranged to return to their parents' home, and some women's families will be taken care of by special people, usually older brothers or younger brothers. Yue: Bringing back the door is also a back door. Some people came back the next day. When you go back to the door, you should also bring back a gift. On the way back to the door, you will meet the relatives of the woman who come to the man's house to make moves. Usually the man's family sends someone to pick him up, saying, take a move. At this time, the cars or motorcades of both sides can drive away directly. Some bridegrooms can't talk when they get off to smoke, and then their respective motorcades drive away. The couple go to the woman's house and invite guests to the man's house.
At noon, the newlyweds eat at the woman's house, and before or after eating three teas, the newlyweds should take the initiative to meet the relatives and elders of the woman's house and say hello. At this time, relatives and elders will also give gifts to newlyweds; Dinner at the man's house is usually composed of the main relatives of the woman's house, so that the main relatives of both sides can get to know each other.
In the afternoon, after dinner, the couple will go back to the man's house and invite guests back to the woman's house. In addition, the two teams will meet on the way. When the couple get home, they will have a rest and prepare a banquet in the evening. At the banquet, the couple will propose a toast to everyone.
After drinking, the noisy room began. When the bridal chamber is in trouble, the officiant will shout a few good words, such as: open the curtain and see the bride. One person will eat happy candy, and another person will eat happy eggs. After the noisy room is over, set off fireworks and smash windows. If they are not smashed in the morning, the bride and groom will wash and close the door to rest.
(of a newlywed wife) going to her parents' home with her newlywed husband.
Going back to the door is a continuation of the wedding day. Even if they return home on the same day, the couple usually return home the next day, which is also a custom. Now that young people are open, some families get things done in one day in order to save money and not be tired. Some people put the banquet together in the restaurant for fun. Some newcomers use photos, videos, motorcades and wedding etiquette to leave the best memories of their lives.
The above is the general custom that we Baoying people follow now. I hope you like it!