There is a joke circulating in the world:

"Will you attend your ex's wedding?" "I just want to attend his funeral."

For many people, it sounds too Japanese to witness the funeral of their predecessors in their lifetime.

But not everyone will feel so happy when it happens.

Bai Liusu's ex-husband divorced on 1978 and died of pneumonia. But she never imagined that her destiny would be rewritten, and even a novel "Love in a Fallen City" would be created.

The road is absolutely wonderful.

Bai Liusu, the heroine of Love in a Fallen City by Zhang Ailing, is the sixth housewife of a famous family in Shanghai. After the divorce, she became an enemy like her husband. Now, the ex-husband is dead.

If you die, you die. People pay their debts when they die, let alone in 1978. If they can't break it, they don't want to break it, and they can't. Besides, China people have been kind and tolerant since ancient times, and there is nothing wrong with saying that "everyone is dead".

But my brothers and sisters are not going to let it go. They want Bai Liusu to go back to Dai Xiao, you damn fool, to be a chaste widow, and to find a nephew to raise as a son and inherit the family business.

"My nephew, pick one with you, adoption. Although there is nothing left in the furniture, his family is a big family. Even if you are sent to guard the ancestral temple, you and your mother will not starve to death. "

Of course, my brothers and sisters are not really thinking about her future and livelihood, mainly because her money has been spent. Keeping it is a burden. It's easier to send it out early.

"You live in our house, eat our food and drink our food. You used to pay it back. Add one person and only one pair of chopsticks. Now you go and ask. What is the price of rice? "

Sisao even made it clear that this natural jinx will bring a burden to the whole family if he is not driven out.

"I told you, you can't use six aunts' money. Not bad luck! As soon as she married her in-laws, her husband became the black sheep. When I returned to my mother's house, I saw that my mother's house was going to be defeated-a born jinx! "

The third agreed, "Fourth Granny is right. At that time, if we didn't let her buy shares, we would never be defeated. "

Of course, this is what China men have always been good at. When they fail, they put the blame on women. In the long history of 5,000 years, the word "femme fatale" was abruptly discovered, which shows the wisdom of men.

Who can Bai Liusu blame? I can only blame my life. Married a gambler, fortunately, Qing died, and her woman can get a divorce.

It's a pity that Qing died, but the Qing in people's hearts is still there. Husbands are worse than animals, but brothers and six relatives are worse.

"I this justice, three cardinal guides, the P5, but can't change! You were born in his house, and death is his ghost. The tree attracts the wind and the leaves fall to the roots. "

Bai Liusu also thought that his mother could love him a little, but her mother said a lot of irrelevant words, with only one point: "Going back is serious."

On the contrary, the matchmaker, Mrs. Xu, can be fair: "Your brothers have taken all your money! It is also appropriate to raise you for a lifetime. "

My husband's family can't go back, and neither can my family.

Bai Liusu, a married housewife with a big family, is 28 years old and has a long way to go.

Give them some color to see see

Mrs. Xu is here to set up a bridge for her mistress.

The object is Fan Liuyuan, an illegitimate child of an old overseas Chinese, who has been unrestrained for 32 years, eating, drinking, whoring and gambling. Both parents died and inherited a huge family business at home and abroad.

This last point is the key.

The White House regards Fan Liuyuan as a cash cow, and the third and fourth grandmothers are particularly jealous. It's a pity that she is a little old and has no charm, so Fourth Grandma has to give her charm to her daughters to encourage Mrs. Seo. Even the youngest is only twelve years old.

On the blind date, the White House went up and down.

The seven giants are still pretending to be ladies, and Bai Liusu has been hugged by Fan Liuyuan for three times.

On the one hand, the prodigal Fan Liuyuan, and on the other hand, the little widow Bai Liusu, who had no intention of keeping the festival and couldn't keep it. One is a mad bee and the other is a butterfly. Two pairs of bodies are dancing, two pairs of eyes are flirting, and two stars are calculating separately.

Bai Liusu didn't mean to, but she was proud.

"Anyway, she gave them some color to see."

At home, Third Grandma and Fourth Grandma scolded a laundry list of "whore". Bai Liusu don't angry, the in the mind only dim.

Seventh grandma went to bed early with anger. My heart is dirtier than fourth grandma's, but I am in awe. I thought Bai Liusu was just a widow who would never turn over, but I didn't think I would pull myself together.

"A woman, no matter how good, also can not get the love of the opposite sex, also can not get the respect of the same sex. Women are like this. "

It is always women who embarrass women.

Sure enough, as everyone expected, Mrs. Xu, who hasn't been to the door for a long time, euphemistically announced that the marriage between Seventh Grandma and Fan Liuyuan had been ruined, and everyone laughed.

But she immediately invited Bai Liusu and his family to Hongkong and was willing to pay the travel expenses. Everyone looked at each other again. Dare not point at Bai Liusu's nose and scold her again, for fear that she will go to Hongkong to marry a rich man and never meet again.

Bai Liusu knew that it was not Mrs Xu but Fan Liuyuan who wanted to invite her to Hong Kong.

Hong Kong, a distant and strange place. Going or not? Bai Liusu put a horizontal heart, should be.

"She decided to bet on her future. If she loses, she announces sweeping the floor. If she wins, she can get Fan Liuyuan, the goal that everyone is eyeing, and let her breathe a sigh of relief. "

People are in a dead end, and sometimes the most impossible way is also a road.

Love in A Fallen City

It was Fan Liuyuan who greeted Bai Liusu in Hongkong.

Fan Liuyuan is really good at sweet talk.

"Some stupid things, not only to say behind people's backs, but also to carry themselves. It's embarrassing to listen to yourself. For example, I love you, and I love you all my life. " "General men like to teach women bad, like to influence bad women, turn her into a good woman. I'm not that free. " "With you, I like to do all kinds of stupid things."

He took her to all the places where Hong Kong couples go. They play, eat and watch all the fun, delicious and beautiful things.

He called her room in the middle of the night to say "I love you" and then hung up. Hang up and call again: "I forgot to ask you, do you love me?" Sometimes they will say something else: "tassel, can you see the moon in your window?"

Occasionally reveal the truth.

"If you knew me before, maybe you will forgive me now." "I don't know myself-but I hope you know me! I want you to understand me! " "Life and death and parting, are big things, not dominated by us. Compared with external forces, we are so small, so small! But we must say:' I will always be with you; Let's never leave. It seems that we made the decision ourselves. "

For months, when Fan Liuyuan launched a surprise attack on her, Bai Liusu was always on the alert. However, Fan Liuyuan took advantage of everything in his mouth, but he just kept a gentleman's demeanor in his actions.

Bad enough, ambiguous enough. She didn't even have a chance to prove her reserve.

I understand that I am close to Fan Liuyuan because I want to find a purse all my life. Her purpose is to get married. Only when she is married can her purse be stable and she can win the confidence. Otherwise, my sister-in-law's words are not nice.

"When a woman is taken in by a man, she should die; Women should give to men, especially; If a woman seems to be deceived by a man, but she is deceived by others, it is a double adultery, killing her and contaminating the knife. "

But Fan Liuyuan just wants to fall in love and find a mistress.

Bai Liusu never wanted to be a mistress. She doesn't want to lose her "lady" status, which is tasteless and regrettable.

But can she not do things in the world if she doesn't want to?

What they fantasized about countless times finally happened.

He got her and she became her mistress.

After all, she only did it for the money, so let's do it.

Fan Liuyuan is going to England, and waiting for Bai Liusu will be a lonely mistress with nothing but money.

But the Japanese soldiers came, Hong Kong fell, and Fan Liuyuan's boat couldn't get out.

In the sky fire, "she only has him, and he only has her."

"In this turbulent world, money, real estate, all eternal things are unreliable. Only the tone in her mouth and the person sleeping next to her can rely on it. " "They look at each other transparently. It's just a moment of thorough understanding, but this moment is enough for them to live together harmoniously for ten or eight years. "

The gunfire stopped. Liu Yuan decided to marry Fan.

"The fall of Hong Kong fulfilled her."

Everything about the love of the whole city, family, people's heart, society, times ... The background color is gloomy, and Zhang Ailing only designed the love between Bai Liusu and Fan Liuyuan as a happy ending.

Of course, this may be influenced by the consistent thinking of China people, but I'm afraid there is another reason.

At that time, Zhang Ailing was only 23 years old and unmarried. She must be full of pity and fantasy about love: she will not hesitate to dump a city and let them be together.

The city didn't fall, and so did love.

When Zhang Ailing wrote Love in a Fallen City, she didn't know Hu Lancheng. But Fan Liuyuan has the shadow of Hu Lancheng.

One day, Zhang Ailing saw a piece of paper stuffed under the door. Some people said that they had read her "Blockade" and could not help but want to read it. Yes, signed: Hu Lancheng.

At that time, Qian Zhongshu had not said, "If you feel good after eating an egg, why should you know the hen who laid it?" This sentence. Otherwise, Zhang Ailing wouldn't dial that out of curiosity the next day.

Hu Lancheng and Fan Liuyuan can tell love stories.

The first sentence is "I didn't expect you to be a woman", and the second sentence is "Why are you so tall?" Just like Zhang Sheng meets Yingying: "I'm not married yet." For example, Qian Zhongshu met Jiang Yang: "I don't have a girlfriend."

Inexplicable, seemingly reasonable and ambiguous.

The next day, the third day and the fourth day ... Hu Lancheng comes every day.

Zhang ailing fell in love like this.

It is clear that Hu Lancheng has a wife and two concubines in his mind, that Hu Lancheng is older than himself 15 years old, that Hu Lancheng is a playboy, and that Hu Lancheng is a traitor. ...

Clearly written is "Love in a Fallen City", Zhang Ailing mercilessly stripped off in search of marriage, but she couldn't help but fantasize that she met true love when she met Hu Lancheng. I couldn't help writing "When she saw him, she became very low, as low as the dust, but her heart was happy and flowers came out of the dust" on the back of the carefully selected photos and sending it to Hu Lancheng.

Sure enough, I understood everything, but I was still confused when it was my turn.

Bai Liusu and Fan Liuyuan fell in love and got married after their boat capsized in Hongkong. Hu Lancheng and Zhang Ailing got married first, but before the fall of Shanghai, Hu Lancheng ran away first.

1945, less than four months after marriage, the Japanese will die. Hu Lancheng, who followed Wang Jingwei, fled to Wuhan alone, leaving Zhang Ailing alone in Shanghai, suffering from being reviled as the traitor's wife.

Not counting this, Hu Lancheng also hooked up with a nurse named Zhou and wrote to Zhang Ailing: "I fell in love with someone else."

Not only Zhou Xiao, a nurse, but also countless Yingying Yanyan in Hu Lancheng, including Zhang Ailing's best friend.

After several struggles, Zhang Ailing finally woke up from her fantasy, gave Hu Lancheng a 300,000-yuan breakup fee and wrote a breakup letter.

Zhang Ailing is merciful. Even if she loses everything, she will help Bai Liusu and Fan Liuyuan. But in reality, she has never had any pity for Zhang Ailing, and Hu Lancheng is even more heartless and rogue to her.

In reality, love and marriage can't tolerate any illusions or compassion.

A bigger misunderstanding

Mr. Hu Shi, the pioneer of the New Culture Movement, did not refuse arranged marriage and free love like Lu Xun, but married a tigress arranged by his mother Jiang Dongxiu.

Jiangdong lost his temper, made a hullabaloo about, and even used a knife. Hu Shi was so scared that he had to hide in the toilet.

Even Li Ao said, "Only when you have seen Jiang Dongxiu can you feel the greatness of Hu Shi."

But Hu Shi could not live without Jiang Dongxiu all his life. He likes her cooking, and she knows that he has no intention of becoming famous and never asks him for money.

Later, Hu Shi put forward the famous "three obedience and four virtues" saying: "A wife should obey her orders when she goes out, and blindly follow if she is wrong; You have to wait for your wife to make up, remember her birthday, be patient with her beatings, and be willing to spend money. "

This is not a complaint, but a middle-aged man is obviously showing love.

On the other hand, Li Ao wanted to divorce Hu Yinmeng only because she saw a beautiful woman sitting on the toilet and constipated.

Li Ao is still naive and has too many romantic fantasies, while Hu really knows life.

Qi Gong, the most talented painter and calligrapher in modern times, also arranged his marriage.

His wife, Zhang Baochen, is ugly, with upturned nostrils and a flat nose. She is short and fat and has little education. Qigong doesn't like her at all.

In the first few years of marriage, he was always cold to his wife, who kept silent and took care of her husband while doing housework: Qi Gong's mother and aunt were old and sick, and she served alone; Qigong entertained guests at home and was in high spirits. She didn't interrupt, and served tea and water beside her.

Slowly, Qi Gong felt that this person had a good personality and was impeccable.

After a long time, Zhang Baochen also understood what Qigong meant: she was too poor to eat, and Qigong wanted to sell paintings, but she couldn't save face. Without saying anything, she went out to sell it on a snowy day. During the Cultural Revolution, Qi Gong was forced to stop writing. She knew he was not feeling well, so she told Qi Gong to hide quietly in her room and wait for him at the door. Qi Gong was very wronged, so he threw the manuscript into the brazier and burned it. Without thinking, she reached out and grabbed it, and her hand was burnt. Qigong likes painting and calligraphy, so he saves money from his teeth to buy it for him.

After Zhang Baochen died, countless people introduced his wife to Qi Gong, but he persisted for 30 years.

Zhang Baochen can no longer be put down in Qigong.

Many people have the belief that they must and will meet true love. I'm afraid this is our greater misunderstanding of love.

True love is neither meeting nor waiting.

True love is run in a fiery life.

There is no love in the world, but there is love when there are more people who love.

In that era of picking wild fruits and hunting wild animals for a living, marriage was just the result of accidental division of labor. Women find that food is more secure if they are attached to a fixed man; Men find that sleeping with regular women can ensure that they can support their offspring.

Women want to survive, men want to reproduce, and men and women combine for life, not for love.

Love is the product of civilization.

True love is the result of management.

Life is never perfect, and marriage always has many flaws.

So Qian Zhongshu said that marriage is a besieged city. Marquez said that the key to maintaining a stable marriage is to endure discomfort.

Experiencing, feeling and facing these flaws together in life is the process of discovering true love.

Some people will say love at first sight. Unfortunately, love at first sight is only the result of hormone secretion, not true love.

True love can stand the test of life and time just by lighting a cigarette.

Nietzsche said, "Learn to love all the way. Love always appears at the end of the rugged learning road. "

Nietzsche also said: "Love is not just a feeling, the essence of love is the act of love."

The so-called "learning to love" is to experience all kinds of life together, oil and salt sauce vinegar, stars and seas, life and death.

Like Fan Liuyuan, go to eat, watch, play and experience the war together, from the initial love; Like Hu Shi and Jiang Dongxiu, Qi Gong and Zhang Baochen, they have gone through the ups and downs of life together, from rejection to acceptance, and then to inseparable.

The so-called "act of love" is the management of love.

Don't imagine that true love will fall from the sky like Cupid's arrow.

The economist Xue Zhaofeng made such an analogy in Qi Baishi. How did you meet true love? It is equivalent to randomly putting billions of beans in a big barrel. One red bean and one mung bean happens to be each other's true love, but the probability of their meeting in their lifetime is almost zero.

But giving up fantasy does not mean giving up hope.

On the contrary, only by stopping fantasy and recognizing reality can we manage our love and marriage seriously.

True love may not be met. But as long as you manage it carefully, you will get it.

Editor | Mu Xin | Black sheep

Source | Love in the City, vision china

So a bad marriage can't be happy. The related content is about Zhang Ailing's sharing. After watching Inferior Marriage, I really can't get married. I hope this will help everyone!