Wedding is a very festive and lively day for children, but for adults, it is often not unexpected, and sometimes it even hurts money. Because you definitely don't join in the fun when people get married, you definitely need to spend some time and energy, at least you should follow the ceremony.
Accompanying gifts means accompanying money, of course, it is also called accompanying staff. In the past, dowry was limited to the man's relatives, mainly to help the man hold a wedding and marry a wife. In the past, every household was not so rich, and it cost a lot of money to get married. Therefore, close relatives like to give gifts to everyone, and it can also help the man get married more smoothly.
Gradually, the woman got married, and relatives and friends at home began to pay with the money. Until now, following money has gradually become a way of emotional communication between people.
Many people feel that their feelings are good. When they get married, they will send invitations to relatives and friends, and some close relatives and friends are willing to join in and send blessings to the newlyweds at the wedding scene. Take your own money.
However, due to the soaring prices, the feelings between people are getting heavier and heavier, and the money is naturally getting bigger and bigger.
From the beginning of the man's marriage, the people in the same village took out the good things from their homes and gave them to the man to help him hold the wedding. On my parents' day, someone even took a few pounds of eggs from home to congratulate him on his marriage, which later evolved into 5 10 for the man's marriage.
Later, with money, it rose to 100 yuan in 200 yuan. Now with gifts, 500 yuan feels that he can't get the money, so now the gift money is getting bigger and bigger, and it is too much for him to bring gifts.
For some working-class people, it is very likely that a gift will lose half a month's salary. If they just catch up with three or four weddings a month, they will really make ends meet. If they work hard for a month, they are likely to ask for money from home.
So this is one reason why many people don't eat banquets with gifts, because they feel that the relationship between the two people is not bad, and the distance between them is not far. This gift is ok, but there is nothing to say without gifts, but they always feel that as colleagues in the company or residents or neighbors in the community, they bow their heads and don't look up. If this gift is not kept, it will be embarrassing.
So, I wrote a gift when someone got married, but because I didn't know his relatives and friends very well, I felt that the gift was less. Therefore, I didn't join in the fun. After arriving, I wrote a gift and found a reason to go home, so that I won't be embarrassed when I meet you next time, and I will send my best wishes enthusiastically. People will naturally see your gift and say "thank you" enthusiastically.
Otherwise, I will always feel a little embarrassed if I don't write this gift. I don't know if I should say hello when I meet you.
In fact, there are more and more people who don't eat banquets with gifts, and there are other reasons. Let's see what causes people to eat more than just rituals.
The first reason is the distance, there is no way to take money to the scene. You can only transfer money by electronic payment red envelope, with gifts. In today's society, people have a wide range of contacts. It can be said that some people have friends all over the world, but for various reasons such as work, they may not be able to come to the scene to attend the wedding of their good friends. Because we have a good relationship, we can't save the money at all. Even if we ask someone to give us a gift, we should bring it with us and send our best wishes.
With the increase of electronic payment means, many people can take money with them without leaving home. If you feel that you have less money with you, and you are embarrassed to transfer it directly to your good friends, that is, newlyweds, you can invite people you know to attend the wedding and help yourself bring gifts.
Now many people have worked hard for a week because the pace of life is getting faster and faster. On weekends, they can relax and go with the members, which is very time-consuming. On the way back and forth to attend the wedding, it is likely to waste half a day. At the wedding scene, all kinds of complicated wedding ceremonies prevented them from eating immediately. Therefore, many people would rather pass their blessings than join in the fun at the scene, which not only saves time, but also saves their own time.
Now many college students come from all corners of the country and have a good relationship. We know, but it's really a long way to the wedding. Take a day off on Sunday, it's definitely too late to go to the wedding, and even there's not enough time on the road.
If you ask your boss for leave for this matter, although he said he might agree, his attendance award will be ruined again, not only the money, but also the fare on the way and the cost of going to that city, which is really uneconomical. Therefore, it is still honest to transfer money with money, and don't go to the scene to join in the fun, otherwise this big expense is really unbearable.
The second reason is also very simple. I don't know much about the relatives and friends of this couple. So eating at the same table will be a bit embarrassing, and some people really don't want to join in the fun. Eating at the same table with unfamiliar people will make some people very uncomfortable.
You have no idea what kind of people you eat at the same table with. Some people's bad habits formed by taking advantage of petty advantages are really speechless.
For example, some people take all the melon seeds and fruit bowls or candy on the table to their side before opening a banquet, and then secretly put them in their pockets. When they are discovered, they will laugh and say that they are for their own children and let them follow suit.
At the beginning of the wedding, they often take out their mobile phones in a panic and start video recording, while looking for the most suitable location to watch. Many times, they just block the sight of others, just to make a good video and send it to a "circle of friends".
Finally, when the banquet food is served, they will stare at each dish. Sometimes, before the party begins, they will go directly to grab food. When the banquet was actually held, it was even more surprising. It seems that I haven't eaten anything for hundreds of years, and the chopsticks have never been put down. Every dish is turned over by them, looking for their favorite food. Saliva is likely to get all over chopsticks, which makes people very uncomfortable.
However, before everyone finished eating, they began to take out the plastic bags prepared in advance and began to clean up the dishes on the table, saying that it would be a waste to eat and take them back to their families to taste. As a result, half a table of dishes was gone, and others could not eat it at all.
If such a person takes another child, it is really invincible. They will make the above actions on the grounds that their children are too young to understand. It's really the people who eat with them as long as they're not embarrassed. This kind of person is really ill-bred and makes people feel uncomfortable.
Third, there are many ways to entertain people now, and they don't like to join in the fun. Maybe when they were young, they liked others to get married and have fun to see the bride. However, with the growth of age, many things are used to it. For myself, getting married is largely a matter of human relations. There is no need to join in the fun. It is good for both sides to bring the gift money with you.
You can leave some time for yourself to do other things, and the wedding people don't have to worry about entertaining themselves. There are many ways of entertainment now, so why go to the wedding scene to join in the fun? You don't know anyone at a big table. If you have time, you might as well make an appointment with good friends and communicate your feelings.
Many people will say, isn't that new guy your good friend? When you go to the wedding, you communicate with him. But when you really go to the wedding, you will find that the new guy is really busy, toasting all the relatives and friends at the table and taking photos with everyone.
In short, I can spend so little time with you that I may not even be able to talk to you. Therefore, going to the wedding alone is a lonely experience. It is better to brush dramas, watch variety shows and watch videos at home.
Finally, people don't like the feeling of being ignored. Because the couple are very busy at the wedding, they may not have time to take care of you at all. If you don't know their relatives and friends, you can only eat awkwardly with a large table of people you don't know, pretend to know each other, and then everyone will eat separately. This is extremely embarrassing for people with small faces.
Wedding banquets are usually held after various celebrations. Even if the food is served, I won't give you chopsticks. You can only look but you can't move chopsticks first. However, many people don't like this. It's really hard to attend the wedding, and they can't eat right away.
Therefore, many people don't want to go to the wedding. Generally, people with good relationships will try to pay part of the money, so the wedding banquet will not follow the crowd.
At present, most people are accompanying members in interpersonal communication. If you are really close, you will choose to go to the scene early to help plan the wedding, while some unimportant people will feel that it is not necessary to go by themselves, but the gift money must be accompanied by someone. So many people choose to accompany gifts instead of eating banquets.