As a native of Yancheng, wedding housekeeper, I have long wanted to write an article about Yanfu's marriage customs. So, how many Yanfu are there?
The complete process of marriage and love in Yanfu area is generally: love (blind date), engagement, gift, dowry, celebration and return. The housekeeper here focuses on the wedding day, that is, the wedding customs on the wedding day.
1 make the bed
As a prelude to the wedding, making the bed is the beginning of the whole ceremony.
Making the bed, also known as "making a room", refers to the ceremony of arranging the bridal chamber by a special person the day before the wedding.
Custom of bed loading: the door of the bed faces the window, the wardrobe is in the lower hall, the door is not in the cupboard, and the mirror is not facing the bed. The installation of the bed is divided into three steps: making the bed, setting up the account and opening the bed.
Bedding: red is generally used, and four quilts (included in the bride's dowry), four mattresses, two pairs of pillows, two pairs of cushions, etc. 18 items are needed for the bed.
Bed-making items: the bed needs peanuts, longan, dates, peanuts and other dried fruits, which symbolizes your son's early birth.
Bed-making time: the day before the wedding, the "mother-in-law" is invited to make the bed for the couple. It's usually morning or morning, not afternoon.
Bed-maker: The person who makes the bed is usually invited by the man's family. It is better to find a "blessed person" to make the bed, that is, good health, good parents, good health and long life, a surviving spouse and children, so that they can pass on their good luck to the new couple. Give a red envelope to the person in charge of making the bed in the bedding.
Process of making the bed: The main process is "making the bed" except sweeping the bed, laying the mandarin duck pillow and laying the dragon and phoenix quilt. The wedding bed is covered with dried fruits such as peanuts, longan, lotus seeds and dates, which means "early birth, lotus seeds and peanuts (all children)".
Bedclothes After making the bed, find two children to roll on the bed. Namely: smart, healthy and lovely boy. Also put red envelopes.
Taboos for making beds. The significance of early marriage is more to carry on the family line and prolong life, so women who have never given birth can't touch bedding, bedding or even help the bride. Don't let too many people in the master bedroom of the new house, lest the new bed sit too many people. Before the wedding, the bride and groom are not allowed to sit on the bed.
Modern marriage is not only the meaning of extending life and carrying on the family line, but also the sublimation of love and the establishment of a new family. In the traditional bed-making ceremony, the implication of having more children and more happiness is more about the care of the elders for the new couple and the blessing for the new life.
Wedding Bed-making Song: In the process of making the bed, when folding the quilt, sweeping the bed and distributing articles, we say auspicious words and jingles while doing it, so as to wish the couple peace, success and happiness.
2 wedding
On the wedding day, the groom's parents will prepare morning tea for the groom and the best man. The so-called morning tea is the cooked solid dumplings (meaning true and soul-to-soul). The groom and the best man are generally a pair, and the edible dumplings are also a pair (meaning yes-men).
Customary holiday preparation: the man brought it to the wedding (packed in 2 baskets): 8 fish, 1 double-knife meat belt, 2 big cakes, 2 bags of fruit, 2 boxes of longan, 2 boxes of honey, cigarettes, wine, etc. The woman replied: 4 fish, lucky (pig's feet), 2 big cakes and 2 bags of fruit. (Bring it back when you get married)
Wedding reception: The number of people who receive the wedding reception can be single or double, and they should be paired when they come back. There is no need to turn back on this route.
When men leave, set off firecrackers. At the woman's house, the man puts the whip first, and the woman takes it back. Nowadays, most of Yancheng City uses electronic whips, which is safer and more convenient.
At the woman's house, the woman's "Quanfu people" prepare tea for the groom and relatives (jiaozi is usually boiled in water, and the number of jiaozi is in pairs. If you don't eat it all, keep a pair). The hostess accompanied the tea, and the number doubled. The groom pressed a red envelope at the bottom of the bowl after drinking, thanking the woman for her hard preparation.
Next is the knocking game that young people like, which is generally divided into two categories: answering questions outside the door and interacting inside the door. Answering questions outside the door is basically a test of the groom, and the best man team sometimes helps, such as singing, asking about the bride's hobbies, telling the truth, physical fitness tests and so on. The difficulty of asking questions often depends on the extent to which the groom bribed the bridesmaid by stuffing red envelopes.
Generally speaking, the interaction in the door is to find the bride's wedding shoes, put shoes on the bride, propose marriage, read the groom's declaration and so on.
This game link is the place where young people's creativity is reflected, and the routines are often different. The main purpose is to "make things difficult" for the groom, let the groom go to great lengths to open the bride's boudoir door, and then marry the bride home. On the one hand, let the groom feel that this marriage is hard-won, and cherish his wife; On the other hand, it is also to increase the festive excitement of marriage. However, it is still necessary for both parties to communicate a little in advance, pay attention to the scale, and make the wedding ceremony civilized. After the game of blocking the door is over, it comes to the formal link-changing tea: the groom changes his mind by offering tea to the woman's parents, and the woman's parents give the groom a big red envelope in return. The process of offering tea is generally arranged by wedding housekeeper. (Tea is black tea or sweet tea)
3 get married
Local newcomers usually get married in the morning and go back to their hometown in the morning. Some had lunch and got married in the afternoon.
The bride or younger brother prepares wedding supplies and locks the bride's carry-on clothes, wedding clothes, dowry, cash, etc. Put it in the red box. At the same time, a couple ate jujube tea (meaning early birth) in a rich bowl, which was also prepared by Quanfu people. After drinking tea, the couple pressed a red envelope under the bowl, thanking grandma Quanfu.
The shoes worn by the bride on the wedding car mean not to take the woman's dirty things away. In Jianhu, Funing and coastal areas, there is also the custom of the bride wearing a red umbrella, which is intended to attract money and avoid disaster.
When getting married, if the woman is sent off, the number of people in the wedding car must be two (including the driver). The return route does not repeat the route you took when you came, that is, you don't go back. If you pass by the bridge, you still have to flip a coin, which also means to seek wealth and avoid disaster.
4 pick up relatives
When the wedding car arrives at the man's house, Xi Palace or Quanfu lays reeds for a couple downstairs, which is also called Chai Lu locally, which means making money step by step and taking a couple home. After entering the door, the newlyweds enter the wedding room first, and then eat jujube tea in the living room, which also means to have children early. If someone sends relatives away, they should receive them at the neighbor's house first, and then they should drink Zi Yuan tea. The man walked in pairs. (Now they are all commercial houses, and if you have change, you can go to the groom's house for tea), and then there is tea (why there is so much tea). This time, the bride changed her mind and said it was the man's parents. The parents of the groom give the bride red envelopes, just like black tea or sweet tea. There are also relatives of the man who give gifts to the couple at this time (commonly known as "family photos"), and the bride and groom will bow to meet them one by one. The normal order is that the elders in the family start first, and then the younger generation.
5 huimen
Here is the bride dressing up and going back to the house with the groom. Under normal circumstances, the wedding car can accompany the couple. In Yancheng, the bride will have lunch in the afternoon, followed by the best man and bridesmaid. After lunch, they will go back to the man's home. This is a complete return ceremony. In the afternoon, newcomers can choose proper rest or location shooting. They need to make an appointment with the makeup photographer in advance for the location time and place. If wedding housekeeper is present, he will arrange a reasonable time and place.
6 dinner
This is definitely the most important thing in a wedding. Most people take it for granted that the default dinner is a wedding. In fact, the dinner is only an important part of the whole wedding, and it is also a link with high participation. Inviting guests and friends, many wedding companies now call dinner a thank-you banquet, which is actually a way to express their long-term concern and help to the newlyweds.
The welcome time of the couple is generally 18: 18, and the official start time of the wedding is generally 19: 18, 19:28, etc. So when choosing a lucky day, please win the lottery. Such a long welcome time also gives the guests time to say hello to the newcomers and take photos with joy. At the same time, traffic problems are also taken into account, so that everyone can arrive in time. Dinner is generally divided into three parts: love ceremony, entertainment performance and hilarious custom. Now it is basically arranged by the wedding company.
The love ceremony is mainly Chinese, with love, affection and friendship as the main line. The main link is that the groom takes the stage, Xin and Dad appear, and the daughter's hand is delivered to the groom. The couple went to the ceremony area of the wedding stage, and the ring and witnesses witnessed the wedding. At this point, a couple is married in everyone's eyes. Next, the parents of both sides made speeches and raised their glasses on the stage. Both sides of Yancheng are popular now. A couple changed their names and called each other's parents under the master of ceremonies, and both parents happily gave the couple red envelopes. The scene was full of joy. As mentioned earlier, the ceremony of changing the mouth has been carried out when drinking tea, so this link at the dinner party is actually for the guests to see and has the nature of performance.
Entertainment performances, interactive games. Generally speaking, it is a song and dance performance and acrobatic performance, and it is also for guests to eat. At the same time, there are some interactive games, giving gifts and so on. The purpose is to make the dinner more lively, and the second is to thank the guests.
Then there is the controversial hilarious custom.
Making trouble with the new house, that is, "making trouble with the bridal chamber", is an essential link in traditional weddings. There are also sayings of "making trouble" and "making trouble" in rural areas, and there is a custom of making trouble in bridal chambers everywhere. At present, this custom is not advocated in hotels in urban areas.
7 new styles and customs
A new generation of young people have more and more independent opinions, cultural and personality pursuits, which makes their creativity emerge one after another and the wedding form has also undergone great changes.
In Yancheng City, there have also been cases where couples get married, ride bicycles with groomsmen and bridesmaids, and tie many balloons and flowers. When riding on the road, the rate of turning around is very high, but attention should be paid to traffic safety.
There are also newcomers who have been deeply influenced by Confucianism since childhood. This time, they chose a unique Hanfu wedding.
Of course, there is still a traditional bridal sedan chair, but the distance between the two houses is relatively close. After all, there are many creative personal customized weddings, such as outdoor weddings. There are also several hotels in the city with venues, so outdoor weddings are suitable for small-scale gatherings with few people, most of which are mainly western food. The most important thing is to look at the weather on the wedding day. Having said that, I won't introduce anything else here.
8 conclusion
In short, both traditional and new marriage customs are inseparable from one original intention-that is, good wishes to a couple.
People skillfully package the wishes and expectations of "growing old together", "having a baby early" and "living a happy life" in various forms. Some customs are civilized, some vulgar, some conform to the trend, and some are ignorant and backward. Customs are always developing and changing, so we should adapt to the development of the times, abandon them at the right time, don't stick to the rules, and don't kill them with a stick. But in any case, any behavior that deviates from the original intention of the marriage custom to bless the new couple is condemned.
As for the overall butler service of our wedding ceremony, we should explore the traditional wedding customs, which are constantly evolving and need to be passed down in a positive way. Bad habits must be abandoned, customs changed, and the new fashion of civilized wedding in Yanfu area should be promoted.
The above is the content related to the auspicious words of wedding tea, which is about the sharing of wedding. I read four or eight auspicious words about marriage, I hope this will help everyone!