To be honest, before I came here, I always thought that there were not many men with virginity complex in China now, and I seldom discussed this issue with other men around me. It was not until I read these posts that I found that there were still so many men who cared about this matter, and some even cared to the point of paranoia. Moreover, a few days ago, I accidentally saw a colleague's "bosom friend", in which a man tore up his girlfriend because her girlfriend was not a virgin, resulting in her lifelong disability and her imprisonment. Seeing this, I really can't understand, which is more important, decades of happy life or temporary psychological satisfaction?

I once saw someone say that finding a virgin can be closer to happiness. I don't know how others practice this sentence, at least from my personal experience, it's sheer nonsense. My wife is a virgin, but I dare say that few people around me are happier than me!

I once had a virgin girlfriend, but I never had sex. That was my first love in college. I dated for over two years. I didn't mean to praise or criticize my ex-girlfriend I can only say that my personality is really inappropriate. After several breakups, I broke up. During this period, I also had my impulsive moments, but she said that she was still a virgin and didn't want to give it to me so early, so I gave up. So strictly speaking, I am still a man who has never tasted a virgin, but I don't feel particularly sorry for it.

After graduation, I had two short-lived love experiences, both of which quickly separated. I can't talk about who is right or wrong, but I really don't have that kind of congenial feeling, which also makes me sigh how difficult it is to meet a girl who really suits me.

After working for two years, I got acquainted with several colleagues at school and often went out to eat, drink and have fun after work. Once a new female colleague went out with us and brought a girl. This girl is my wife now. To tell the truth, she looks ordinary and is not tall, but she is still slim. Objectively speaking, she may not be as beautiful as any of my former girlfriends. But the first time I saw her, I felt very cordial. The most impressive thing is that she loves to laugh, smiles at everyone and is easy-going and funny. Although we met for the first time, we had a good time, as if we had known each other for a long time. I strongly feel that I am more relaxed and happy with this girl than ever before. The whole person seems to be so excited as if infected by some kind of gas field, and I can feel that other colleagues also welcome her.

Later, we played together several times and became more and more familiar. I can feel that she also has a special feeling for me. After having her, I began to ask her out alone. She was a graduate student majoring in liberal arts at that time. I have contacted her several times and found that this girl is particularly simple and kind. I have always thought that kindness is the most important criterion to judge a girl's quality, and all virtues come from it. Later, it turned out that I didn't misjudge that person. Her kindness is reflected in ordinary small things, such as giving up her seat by car, because she is not worth mentioning, mainly because some words and deeds she inadvertently shows can make you feel that she is always thinking of others and really has no mind and care.

For example, when I was in contact with my former girlfriends and other girls, I found that most girls were narrow-minded and preferred to talk about other people's shortcomings behind their backs. I don't think this is a big shortcoming either, but I can hardly hear my wife complaining about who is bad, but I always hear her say that this person is also very good, and that person is also very good, as if she had met all the good people in the world. I think this girl, so good at discovering and praising the advantages of others, is very commendable. Later, I learned that she actually has people she doesn't like, but she keeps others at a distance. She won't talk about it all the time, and her heart is full of happiness.

For example, she keeps a warm and friendly attitude towards everyone she meets, whether it is the aunt who cooks, the aunt who sweeps the floor, the waiter in the restaurant or the driver. She smiles at people, is polite and considerate, and never looks down on anyone, so wherever she goes, others are especially kind to her. What I learned from her is how others treat you, which often depends on your own performance. Every cause has its consequences.

When I discovered and confirmed her kind nature, I strengthened my determination to pursue her. From her, I really realized what "girls are beautiful because they are cute". At first, I always asked her out for dinner and tea or something. She must know what I mean. I didn't ask about her past, and she didn't tell me anything seriously. She just casually told me that she had been in love and lived with her boyfriend in the past. Maybe I grew up in an enlightened environment, so I really don't think it's a big deal to hear her say this; I think it's normal for her to tell me so generously and frankly. I didn't even think about whether I was cheated by looking for a non-virgin, because I thought it was lucky to meet a girl with the same personality as her. What's the need to think too much about the past?

Later, our feelings gradually developed. In the nearly four years from crazy love to getting married and getting married together, most of my time seems to be living in heaven, which makes me grateful for my choice countless times. She is not a perfect person, such as occasionally playing a little temper, not good at cooking, and sometimes careless. She also has these shortcomings, but when it comes to her benefits, it's really endless for three days and nights, so these shortcomings can be completely ignored by comparison.

When I think of her goodness, a thousand words come to my mind, and I don't know where to start at the moment. I think apart from her kindness, what makes me most happy is that her love and trust fully give me pride as a man. She never compares me with other men. She often looks at me with infinite appreciation and tells me how handsome, competent and capable I am in her eyes, even when we are poor. Although I will be called a fool when joking, I certainly understand that it is just another expression of love. People who have had the same experience will know how much motivation it is for a man to live in the worship and trust of women. This is like a strong psychological suggestion, which makes you work hard in a good direction with confidence every day. Since I married her, my career has been in a thriving situation and has developed extremely rapidly. I think at least half of this is because of her trust and encouragement. I learned another thing from her-the greatest virtue of a woman lies not in how well she can do housework, but in making her man feel like a man from the bottom of his heart!

Then there is her simplicity. She also loves some beautiful clothes and some novel and interesting gadgets, and these things are not expensive, so she likes them, but I think this is understandable. Why do you say that? I think judging whether a girl is pure or not depends on whether she really spends money for her own preferences or to satisfy vanity. Like my wife, she likes beautiful clothes and gadgets, so sometimes it doesn't matter if it's expensive; But she won't waste a penny on something she doesn't like very much, but it may give her face. For example, if she doesn't wear makeup, skin care products will always be cheap in the supermarket. I suggested that she order something advanced, but she said it was unnecessary. Anyway, she doesn't look old (maybe because she is cheerful and optimistic, she looks at least 5 or 6 years younger than her actual age); She doesn't want expensive jewelry, except a small diamond ring when she got married. She wears cheap silver ornaments at most, and she doesn't even look at those real jewels. Many girls around like to play for a change. She used one for several years and only changed it if it was broken.

When we got married, my position was relatively low, my income was not too high, and my family was an ordinary working class. She just graduated from graduate school and stayed as a teacher, and her income is also very average. She told me that we can only invite relatives and friends to dinner at our wedding, without any motorcade or wedding. This is a great event in your life, and it won't be glamorous. Don't you feel sorry? It's a pity that she said I liked it. The problem is that I don't like these vulgar routines at all. It is wrong to spend so much money on this. Later, we held a simple and generous wedding according to her meaning, which cost little, but it was also unforgettable.

When we got married, her parents gave us a car and I kept driving it. After marriage, I jumped ship and went to a foreign company, and my salary rose several times. When I got rich, I told her to learn to drive, and I gave her a car to drive. As a result, people thought about it and said that a road blind like her would be punished for driving out, and she was too lazy to care about so many cars. She said that she might as well give her a better bike. She doesn't like riding, but she likes riding. At that time, I was really in distress situation, and later I really gave her one. She never drove my car again. It is beautiful to commute to work by bike every day, saying that she is very happy and exercises. Where can you find such a wife?

Besides, my wife doesn't go to bars and halls. She doesn't like this place at all. At most, she occasionally goes to ktv to sing with friends and colleagues. The same goes for eating out. I like to eat kung pao chicken, dried lentils and other home-cooked dishes. Once I invited a client to a very high-end restaurant to eat seafood and asked her to accompany me. She sat gracefully in the dining room and ate with us. Then she said it was delicious. Later, when I came to her birthday, I invited her to eat there. She said that it was enough to eat this kind of food once, and it was better to eat home-cooked dishes or hot pot.

It seems that she won't enjoy life, but in fact, I think she is the one who knows how to enjoy life best. It is said that contentment is always happy, and this sentence is too fully reflected in her! She is very satisfied with those simple and ubiquitous pleasures, so she loves life very much, is always curious about the world and is always full of longing for the future. She can find pleasure and beauty in many things that ordinary adults will ignore; Moreover, her pursuit of spiritual world is far higher than material things. A good article and a wonderful movie can make her happy for a long time. Because my wife is at school, the working environment is relatively simple, and she never argues with others, but she is very focused on academic research and appreciation of literary and artistic works. At ordinary times, she looks like a careless and heartless silly child, but if you talk to her about her professional or literary topics, she will suddenly glow with a strange brilliance in the endless conversation, which will let you find that this girl is actually so intelligent and profound in her bones.

She is always so happy and strong when she is unhappy, but the total time of being angry, sad and depressed is at most one tenth of the time of being happy. Every day when I come home from work, I see her smiling and jumping into my arms, and all the hard work of the whole day disappears. I think the greatest comfort for a hard-working man is not the delicious food on the table, but the unparalleled excitement and joy on your wife's face when she sees you step into the house, which makes you feel that your existence is so important to a person. It is for this feeling that as long as there is no necessary entertainment, I will go home as soon as I get off work, and I don't miss the outside world at all.

My parents and friends like her very much, and all my friends can be said to be her friends. Even the most critical person can't say a word to her. She is nicer to my parents. When she sees something good, she always cares about giving them a share. Sometimes when I go out on business, she will say hello to me every day and come to see me every once in a while, which is more diligent than me. My mother likes to play, so she can show the old lady around if she has nothing to do. My parents-in-law are also a pair of very reasonable old people. Watching many people on the Internet complain about the bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, my wife and my mother are just like mother and daughter. Looking at some colleagues and friends around us, the two in-laws are fighting as a bee, but we take our parents out to eat, drink and have fun on holidays. Four old people played cards, played chess, drank and chatted, laughing and laughing constantly. With such a harmonious family, what can I ask for?

Not only to my parents and friends, but also to everyone around her. In the neighborhood where we live, I feel like a spring breeze wherever I go, because all the people are very enthusiastic about me, thanks to the good luck accumulated by my kind wife every day. People are kind to me, mainly because they love my house and my dog.

Her biggest shortcoming is that she was spoiled by her family when she was a child, so she was not good at housework. But after getting married, she has been studying hard. Anyway, cleaning, washing dishes are careless, but she can't cook. I cook most of the meals at home or eat out, but I don't think it's shameful for men to do some housework. She is so kind that I am willing to cook for her. And many things always complement each other. She is not good at housework, but she is not nagging or picky. She happily does what she can, gives what she can't, and praises me for being good or bad. In fact, doing some housework is really tiring, and it seems more important to stay happy at home. No one whispers housework in your ear all day, and no one forbids you to do this and that in order to keep your home absolutely clean. What are you afraid of when cooking?

Of course, we sometimes quarrel, which is inevitable, but it is all for trivial matters, and there is no question of principle. It usually takes less than an hour to make up after a quarrel. Even if I am wrong again, as long as I coax her, she will be very happy and will never be adamant. If she is wrong, then I have to coax her to reason with her, and she will be even more embarrassed and lovely when she understands-I often think when I look at her, how can there be such a lovely girl in the world?

There's so much to say about her. We have been together for six years, and what is deposited in our hearts is full of happiness and joy. Because of her, how wonderful life has become! I'm not saying this to show off anything. It's just that I don't understand after reading so many men on the Internet claiming that they will never marry a non-virgin. Is it not good to be a virgin? I married a non-virgin, but I think my real happiness for so many years is enough to survive a meaningless pink eye.

Some people may ask, wouldn't it be a pity not to taste the virgin in this life? To say I'm sorry, there are too many things I can regret in this world. I may never be able to go into space, eat a Manchu-Han banquet or be on TV. There are some things I can't achieve in my life. Do I have to torture myself every day because I can't get these things? Besides, these unattainable things can still bring me some benefits, but what practical benefits can the broken place bring me? Looking at a woman who hurts me and then bleeds, what should I be particularly happy and happy about? I really don't think so! People who pay special attention to this matter, only under the influence of some narrow ideas, or driven by a strong desire for possession, artificially raise this experiential and non-experiential thing to a certain height.

My wife and I were in love for two years before we got married. When the relationship developed to a certain extent, we naturally completed the combination of spirit and flesh. It was my first time, not hers, but I just felt beautiful and happy, and I had no other thoughts at all. Some people say that if the other person is not a virgin, it is disgusting to think that other men have been coming in and out there in xx. I think people who think this way are often a little masochistic, just like you went to a beautiful park and didn't enjoy the scenery well, but thought that many years ago it used to be a muddy pond, smelly and dirty, and maybe someone drowned here. I don't know how disgusting it is-isn't this wrong? Happy people always live in the present, but unhappy people demand the absolute perfection of the past and the future, in fact, they are looking for their own punishment! And if so, do you also ask your girlfriend not to kiss or hold hands? Otherwise, when you kiss her, you will feel that this mouth has been kissed by another man, and when you hold hands, you will feel that this hand has been touched by another man. Aren't you sick? How can you have a happy life with this mentality? As for those who compare non-virgins to unopened goods, I can only say that if a person regards a woman as a commodity, he is only worthy of spending money on his partner, not a change of heart.

Later, I saw some men on the internet saying that it was disgusting to think of other men coming in and out. I once imagined my wife and her ex-boyfriend. But I didn't find anything disgusting and uncomfortable, because that was her in the past, not her now. She used to love others, which has nothing to do with me. As for that man, I can't even think of the specific appearance, let alone me. Two people who have nothing to do with me are doing something that all ordinary people can do. Why do I feel sick? Whether her present and future belong to me alone is what I should care about. I'm not a god. Can I control other people's past?

There are still many men who find it shameful to find a non-virgin wife and will be laughed at. I don't understand. When people around me talk about your wife, are they talking about her character? Or will she say for myself whether she was a virgin when she married you? My wife just picked me up when I was working overtime, and I just sat there waiting quietly. I'm afraid she can't wait, so I often see her. She gave me a gentle smile, indicating that I could work with peace of mind. My colleagues looked at me with envy. When I went out to eat with friends, my wife praised me without hesitation. When it comes to my pride and persistence, my friends are envious. When a large family of relatives get together, my parents talk endlessly about how good their daughter-in-law is to them, and relatives are even more envious-I think this is called having face!

Marry a virgin and you'll have face? Can I run to tell everyone: was my wife a virgin when she married me? I am afraid that others will not envy me, but will only think that I am crazy! A virgin wife is not a virgin, which is your personal privacy. What is saving face? Who wouldn't have anything to ask you about this? If someone asks me such a question, whether my wife is a virgin or not, I will refuse to answer. It is a great disrespect to my wife to talk about such things with others. If men who are concerned about face are interested in talking to people around them about whether their wives are virgins, I think you should ask yourself first, do you really love your wife? Do you really love someone, and will you take her privacy as an open talk after dinner?

More men believe that women always love to take away their first man. Let's see what my wife says about this problem. She once read such a post on the Internet. Seeing such remarks, she once said: Most of these things happen naturally when feelings develop to a certain extent. At that time, she must have loved that person, but it was really fate, and the past was over. Most normal people will still cherish new happiness. How stupid people are to live in the past, and even more stupid to live in other people's past!

Indeed, taking subjective speculation as a fact, or even as an absolute truth, is also a manifestation of self-abuse. Unfortunately, many men are not as good as a woman in mind and wisdom. Whether she loves you wholeheartedly depends on your own heart; Everyone can't influence other people's thoughts, but can feel happiness, and the ultimate goal of love is a happy life; If you really feel happiness, why do you have to guess what others are thinking without any basis? You can't be happy without you in her heart! What's more, if you love her enough, treat her well enough and treat yourself well enough, don't you have confidence to compare with a person who has become a thing of the past?

I say these words, not to attack anyone, nor to teach anyone a lesson, but whenever I see some little boys clamoring for a virgin as a wife, I think they are probably artificially obstructing happiness. What is happiness? Many people don't understand it very well. It is often said that when I am rich and developed, I can find any woman I want, so I have to find a virgin. I believe you can find it, but the so-called money is easy to get and true love is hard to find. In this world, rich men and beautiful women are easy to find, virgins are easier to find, and people who really love you and really suit you are hard to find; When you find this person, you will understand what happiness is!

What can a virgin say? A girl with a pure nature like my wife can change her temperament by losing that film? And that kind of material vanity girl, even if she keeps her hymen all her life, can't get rid of the copper smell? With my appearance and current economic conditions, it should not be too difficult to find a virgin, but let me find another lovely girl like my wife, maybe there will be no more in my life! Let me trade the happiness of the rest of my life for a virginity? I wouldn't do such a stupid thing if I were killed!

I have always thanked God for giving me such a lovely wife. So what if I am not a virgin? Even if I have to pay more for it, I am willing! I'm just thinking, those who have a serious virgin complex, if one day there is such a lovely girl in your life, and you let her slip away from you just because she is not a virgin, what a pity! I wrote this post with my heart, just to make this regret less. The real world is becoming more and more impetuous and indifferent. Happiness and true love are things that can be met but not sought. Why draw a prison to reduce our chances of getting them? Maybe if you open your heart, you will really be closer to happiness!