In the old marriage custom of Han nationality, marriage was concluded through a series of processes. First, the matchmaker takes a tea bag to the woman's house to propose marriage, which is called "taking tea". When the matchmaker comes to the woman's house for the first time to propose marriage, he should bring tea wrapped in red paper to introduce the man and ask the woman for advice. If the woman thinks this marriage can be considered, the matchmaker will send a formal tea gift package again, two for each person, and invite the woman and her relatives and friends to discuss it together. After the collegial discussion, if agreed, the matchmaker will send a tea gift to the woman's home for the third time. This tea ceremony is more solemn and generous, and it is generally agreed. "Gift giving" means engagement. Gifts depend on the man's family and the woman's requirements. In addition to the catalyst, the giver also needs several close relatives of the man's family, such as uncles. The woman's house serves wine and rice to the guests who give gifts, and the wedding date is agreed at the wedding banquet. On the same day or the next day, in some Han areas, the man's family sent a mutton recipe and two bags of tea to the woman's family. In some areas, the woman's family will send the mutton recipes and tea bags back to the man's family. After the ceremony, both men's and women's families have to make nervous wedding preparations. Marriage usually takes place before dawn. In the past, weddings were held in sedan chairs, but now cars are used. The wedding team is mainly composed of grandma (must be in-laws, husband and children), matchmaker and groom. The number of people in this team must be even. At the door of the bride's house, the wedding team will set off firecrackers, and the groom will loudly call her parents-in-law to open the door, but the door of the bride's house is closed, and there are children quarreling inside, and the bride knows. Stuff a few more red envelopes, which is called a "good start", and so on. After teasing and abusing each other, the door was opened. At this time, the strong young people in the family are going to propose a toast to the married people (except the groom), which is called "blocking the door". No one can go in without drinking this wine. When the wedding procession arrives at the woman's house, it must be seated. This is called "getting on the horse". At the same time, the bride's grandmother went into the bride's room to wear it. At this time, the bride married the harem and deliberately hid the bride's shoes. If the bride can't find it, she will give a red envelope. After some abuse, the bride and groom came to their parents-in-law's house. The groom toasted and said that he would treat the bride well in the future and his parents would entrust her with it. After that, the bride's brother carried the bride into the car. When the bride stepped out of the house, she scattered a chopstick and drove all the way through three or five bridges. When you arrive at the groom's house, the man's house will set off firecrackers immediately. If it is in the countryside, a "pine and cypress shed" will be set up in the yard. Accompanied by the groom, the bride will marry her grandmother and walk down the red carpet to the wedding hall. In urban areas, the groom usually carries the bride to the wedding hall, and the bride's feet can't land. In the wedding hall, the master of ceremonies will preside over the worship ceremony. Generally speaking, one worships heaven and the other worships heaven. In the high hall surrounded by relatives on both sides, a newly married couple enters the bridal chamber first, and some also enter at the same time. After entering the bridal chamber, the groom takes off the bride's red veil, and under the guidance of seeing her off, the newlyweds drink rice soup to make it sweet. Previously, when in-laws arranged new beds, they had to put red dates and walnuts on the bedside table, and some areas in eastern Qinghai had to hold barnyard grass activities to throw sugar and red dates on the beds.

After the bride got married and entered the house, she gave a banquet at the man's house to bid farewell to her relatives. Farewell consists of the closest relatives of the woman's family, and the man's family should make a warm toast, which is called "dismounting". Around noon, the man's family warmly treats the woman's family, and the banquet usually takes ten to twelve seats. After dessert was served, a newly married couple began to propose a toast to the guests. If in the countryside, the best man holds a wooden plate in his hand, and the guests put different amounts of money in the plate after drinking a toast to show their congratulations. At this time, the bride's family will crown the groom, that is, a new suit from head to toe. The bride's family should send clothes, shoes, socks, pillows and other things to her in-laws, brothers and sisters, uncles and aunts, which is called "carrying a needle and thread". In some areas, her sister-in-law will open and lock the box. Before opening it, the mother of the bride will give her a red envelope. After opening, the mother-in-law will pour walnuts, red dates and so on into the dowry box. During the dinner, the chef was given a cup of toast, a towel and a red envelope by her family, which was called "end soup". During the dinner, when she is busy, she has to make trouble with her in-laws. In the evening, the bride's family goes to hold a banquet, and the husband's family is mainly young men, having sex and going home after marriage. In some places, it is the third day after marriage, and in some places, the time to go home is not necessarily the same. At this point, the wedding process is completely over.