On the desk of the matchmaking agency, the folders are all classified and put away. Someone hired a door-to-door son-in-law, and someone applied for a door-to-door son-in-law
There are more women than men.
The quality of Xiaoshan's door-to-door son-in-law has improved and the demand has also increased.
Xiaoshan's door-to-door son-in-law needs to be bullish
At noon on March 18, Xiao Xu took the EMU from Shanghai to Hangzhou City Station, and then transferred to the train to go to Xiaoshan Jindianzi Marriage Agency.
Flat head, white shirt, green jacket, shiny shoes. Xiao Xu, who came in a hurry, came on a blind date this time, dressed meticulously.
Last month, he registered with a matchmaking agency and wanted to be a son-in-law
"About three years ago, when I was working in Shenzhen, I heard about Xiaoshan's son-in-law, and I had an idea at that time.
Later, I went to work in Shanghai, found a matchmaking agency online, and came over. "Xu said.
This matchmaking agency, which mainly introduces on-site son-in-law, is quite famous in Xiaoshan. She wants to be a door-to-door son-in-law. The membership fee is high: 8,000 yuan, and the introduction period is two years.
"Now the door-to-door son-in-law, not only in Xiaoshan, Yuhang, Binjiang and other places, but also in Xiaoshan, which is the most common in Guali, Ningwei and Yaqian. There are people all over the country who register with us to apply for a son-in-law. In recent years, there have been calls from international students studying in Japan and the United Kingdom. " Li Jiyan, head of the matchmaking agency, said.
What do Xiaoshan people want from their son-in-law? Li Jiyan, who has been in contact for ten years, said four things: good character; Harmonic essence
Good; Must have a skill and strong viability; I also wish you good health. He said that these are all hard levers. In Li Jiyan's view, in the 10 year, there are two biggest changes in the door-to-door son-in-law: First, the education and quality of the door-to-door son-in-law are obviously high. In the past, there were many foreign son-in-law in junior high school and senior high school, but now they have at least a junior college degree or above, and some master's and doctor's degree candidates apply for door-to-door son-in-law Twenty or thirty masters and four or five doctors are registered here. In the past, most of them were migrant workers, but now there are more highly skilled talents, teachers, civil servants and other applicants. Second, the current market is "more women than men", and the demand for door-to-door son-in-law is bullish. Some Xiaoshan families have begun to relax the requirement of recruiting son-in-law at home. As long as the son-in-law has a stable job and good quality, he can live in the woman's house. There's a house anyway. The location of the first blind date was chosen at the woman's house. Let's talk about Xiao Xu. Xiao Xu, a native of Jiangxi, was born in 1979. He/kloc-came out to work at the age of 0/6. He used to be a cook and drove a forklift. Later, he learned to repair cars with the money he earned, and he has been doing it since he finished his studies. Now, he works in an auto repair shop in Shanghai with a monthly income of more than 4,000 yuan. "A few years ago, I was optimistic about the prospect of repairing cars. I opened a small garage with all my savings, but I have no experience and no deep life. I lost a lot until the year before last. " Xiaoshan is very rich, and the number of cars in the country is very high. I came here as a son-in-law for my own career. "Xiao Xu did not shy away from the original intention of being a door-to-door son-in-law." Does this make people think that you are too purposeful as a son-in-law? "I asked." I am targeting a region, not a family. "Xiao Xu replied very firmly." In my hometown in Jiangxi, my brothers and sisters are married. As for me, it is impossible to go back to my hometown and get married. I have skills, but I lack opportunities. ""Have you ever thought that being a door-to-door son-in-law will have a lot of pressure? "I asked." I thought about it. At first, others may look down on you, but the key is to look up to yourself and prove it to others. "When he spoke, Xiao Xu's face went red." What do you think are the requirements of being a son-in-law? ""filial piety, respect for elders, good character and diligence. " Xiao Xu said. After waiting for 4 hours at the matchmaking agency, Xiao Xu, who was restless, set off for a blind date. I told Xiao Xu that I wanted to see it, too, and Xiao Xu readily agreed. We went to the door of a big supermarket in Xiaoshan. Xiao Xu started from this side of the road, then went to the bathroom across the road, and then she kept texting there. It's been 20 minutes since the appointment, and the girl hasn't come yet. Xiao Xu kept looking around. At the same time, he took the paper towel twice and wiped the sweat on his head. I looked at him from a distance across the street. In the blink of an eye, Xiao Xu was gone, so I quickly sent him a text message and asked him where he had gone. Five minutes later, he texted back that he got in her father's car and was going to the woman's house. In other words, the first blind date was chosen at the woman's house. At 8 o'clock in the evening, I texted Xiao Xu and asked how it was. "It feels good! Now her father drives me to Xiaoshan Railway Station, and I'm buying a ticket to Shanghai. "Xiao Xu reply message. In the past two years, the divorce cases of door-to-door son-in-law have shown a decreasing trend. Walking on the street of Guali Town, Xiaoshan, famous cars such as BMW and Lexus fly by from time to time, which is as famous as Guali's wealth and the adoption custom here. I heard that I want to know something about my son-in-law's marriage. Ge Hongwei, Dean of Guali Town Court in Xiaoshan, smiled. "Door-to-door son-in-law, melon juice is more common in our country, and it definitely involves marriage. "In 2008, there were about 770 cases tried by our Guali court, accounting for 25% of divorce cases, that is, 190, and the marriage disputes involving on-site son-in-law accounted for 20% of divorce cases, that is, less than 40 cases." Ge Tingchang said that in the divorce cases accepted by the door-to-door son-in-law, the woman usually filed for divorce, mainly because of the differences in family status and social status, the man could not integrate into the local life in Xiaoshan, and some door-to-door son-in-law lacked life skills and gave up on themselves, leading to the breakdown of marriage. "However, in the past two years, the divorce cases of son-in-law have shown a decreasing trend." Ge Tingchang said: "There are two reasons for this. First, Xiaoshan's requirements for on-site son-in-law are reduced. For example, it is not necessarily required to live in the woman's house to reduce the pressure on the man. " Secondly, now the son-in-law's own literacy and working ability are also improving, which is very popular with the woman's family, so that her status at home will also improve, which is of course conducive to the stability of marriage. "(Reporter Yue Haizhi)