If, 20 years ago, someone told me: getting married means taking on heavy housework and facing large and small economic expenses at home; In addition to dealing with the human relations of parents, we must also face the world of parents-in-law. If you are not careful, you will be said to be rude and find fault. I really want to give a discount on my marriage.
If someone told me: after marriage, you have to face the danger of pregnancy reaction, the danger of giving birth to children, the difficulty of pulling children, and the glory of physical collapse because of busyness and absent-mindedness because of anxiety; You have to be busy with work and family, you have to take care of children, and you have to face emotional betrayal. When you need to be an "iron man" made of reinforced concrete, I guess you don't even have the enthusiasm to get married.
Some people will say, where is it as terrible as you say? If it's really like what you said, what were everyone doing when they got married? However, dear girl, you should know that marriage does not mean that the prince and princess live happily together from now on, but the beginning of responsibility, from a girl to a queen, and the beginning of a good journey.
Therefore, as a girl, if you can look at the following proverbs carefully, it will really help you in your future marriage.
Every newly married couple once had a sweet life, but after this sweet period, they may have to face the pits and problems in life.
Remember the TV series "Golden Marriage"? Wen Li and Tong Zhi are like-minded. After they got married, you went in and out together. But before long, the problems in life were exposed one after another. Because Wen Li likes romance, she spends money on movies, which leads to their poor life and has to borrow money from Dazhuang. After solving this problem, the two met the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Wen Li doesn't like the way her mother-in-law takes care of her children, and her mother-in-law doesn't like Wen Li's affectation. Tong Zhi, caught in the middle, suffers indignities at both ends. Finally, after solving the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the two faced the problem of emotional infidelity. If you already have children, you should be responsible for them. You are both responsible for your family and children. When a child is freed from this cage one day, that is the real liberation.
Although art comes from life and is higher than life, golden marriage does reflect the problems we must face in our marriage life. Many people pass it, which means victory. If they don't cross it, the marriage is likely to fail.
Economic problems, mother-in-law's problems, emotional problems, children's education problems, one after another, and sometimes even find us together. Only when two people, Qi Xin, work together and consult with each other can we solve these problems and turn these stumbling blocks in marriage into touchstones.
If only one party works hard, it is difficult for one person to bear the burden of two people, and the oppressed party will often be disheartened, leading to the failure of marriage.
Someone once said: "Life is only half born. If you walk in the world to find the other half, life is complete, and someone will find it sooner or later." Some people have not found it and can only live an incomplete life. "
Many people also want to believe that the person holding hands with them is the "other half" they are looking for in their lives. However, people forget that when we walk in the world and look for the other half, we have smoothed our own half. Therefore, when these two "halves" are put together again, they are no longer a complete whole, and we still need to work together in our daily life until we are integrated with the other half.
If a person is covered with thorns, it will hurt others in the process of running in with the other half, and it will hurt to try to grind off his own thorns. Therefore, smart people always hide their "thorns" so that they will not get hurt during the running-in process.
Gangzi chased Xiao Fang for eight years and finally married her into the house. To tell the truth, from an outsider's point of view, two people feel a perfect match in appearance, knowledge and work. It's a perfect match But neither of them finally reached the end of their marriage.
Xiao Fang is lively and outgoing, outspoken, but likes to steal the limelight everywhere. Just married at that time, Gangzi forbeared her everywhere, thinking it was just a little girl's temper. Have a rest. Isn't "savage girlfriend" popular at that time?
Later, because Xiao Fang laughed at relatives from the countryside and quarreled with Gangzi's mother, Gangzi became disgusted with her. Xiao Fang, who was originally cute, lively and outgoing, has gradually evolved into a rude and unreasonable "tigress" in Gangzi's eyes. He doesn't like going home, but all the girls in the office who are willing to listen to him become gentle and considerate.
Family problems have become emotional problems. Finally, after Xiao Fang discovered the evidence of Gangzi's infidelity, the two parted ways.
Remember The Story of Yan Xi Palace, which was just released this summer? Why can Wei fight monsters and upgrade all the way in the complicated Forbidden City? Based on looks? In the Forbidden City, what the emperor needs most is beautiful women. However, the beautiful face is the same, but the interesting soul is one in a hundred. It is precisely because of his "interesting" soul, such as courage, agility and broad-mindedness, that Wei became the emperor's indispensable assistant and the closest and most trusted person.
Therefore, as a girl, you can be unruly, coquetry and willful, but as a woman, learning to control emotions, learn to grow up and learn the wisdom of life is more important than anything else.
Some people say that marriage is the grave of love. This is not unreasonable. Love is a flower months ago, and marriage is daily necessities; Love is a rose, but marriage has no money to spend; Love is your love, and marriage is the old man, children and family.
Many girls think that love is like aunt Qiong Yao's TV series, full of dreams and happiness. It's just that love is falling apart. Who cares about tomorrow's right or wrong?
However, love has a shelf life, and there will be birth and death. So in marriage, we must make love and reality clear.
Some time ago, I attended a marriage class. One of the students asked the teacher, "My husband has a lover outside, but he and I already have two children. I have been taking care of children at home these years. I have no job and no income. I want to go out to work, and the children are left unattended. Divorce is another problem. What should I do? "
The teacher said, "You have to support yourself and your children before you have the courage and confidence to divorce. Otherwise, you can only stay in this mud. "
Yes, you married him and thought he was the world, but when the world abandoned you, you didn't even say hello. You are not Yuqi Zhang, you have no confidence to divorce, and you have no courage like her. It is best to learn how to survive from Wei first.
Many women forget to grow up after marriage. Only by keeping in touch with the world can you not be abandoned by the world.
Tang Jing said in "My First Half Life": "When two people are together in marriage, the one who makes rapid progress will always get rid of the stagnant one, because people's instinct is to explore the extension and connotation of life more."
Marriage is a course worthy of your lifelong study. It takes two people to have the determination to "never leave" and run the business together. It takes two people to suffer together and enjoy the benefits together.
In today's impetuous society, when everyone pursues self-individuality, a woman who can manage a good marriage is valuable, but marriage is not the bondage of your painting. No matter whether you are inside or outside the besieged city, as long as you try your best to be positive, no matter how ordinary your life is, you will have a brilliant future!