Holding a wedding is just a news to announce the wedding to the outside world. As for whether married life is good or not, it depends on how two people live. I found a strange phenomenon. Many people will evaluate the happiness of marriage from two aspects: whether couples hold a wedding when they get married, or whether they hold a grand wedding.
When Chen Xing got married, Hong Wei held a very grand wedding. The wedding was held in the downtown hotel, with nearly 100 tables, well-known brands of drinks and specially customized candy cakes. The guests who came to the banquet were all amazed when they saw such a luxurious wedding scene: "People who can hold such a good wedding should be very happy after marriage."
At first, Chen Xing thought he would live happily ever after, as others said. But after the marriage, Chen Xingcai realized that this seemingly "scenery" marriage is actually not happy.
Hong Wei basically doesn't ask or worry about things in life.
When Chen Xing wants to ask Hong Wei for help, he always says impatiently, "It's up to you. Leave me alone! " Hong Wei's indifference again and again made her feel desperate for this marriage. Married life is not a form to show others, but a content to show yourself. After marriage, if the partner doesn't take the responsibility of the family and doesn't understand the love of the partner, this kind of marriage life is like icehouse, which only makes people feel cold. Isn't marriage without a wedding unhappy?
1. Whether the marriage is happy or not has little to do with whether the wedding is held or not. Holding a wedding is just a news to announce the wedding to the outside world. As for whether married life is good or not, it depends on how two people live. I found a strange phenomenon. Many people will evaluate the happiness of marriage from two aspects: whether couples hold a wedding when they get married, or whether they hold a grand wedding. When Chen Xing got married, Hong Wei held a very grand wedding. The wedding was held in the downtown hotel, with nearly 100 tables, well-known brands of drinks and specially customized candy cakes. The guests who came to the banquet were all amazed when they saw such a luxurious wedding scene: "People who can hold such a good wedding should be very happy after marriage."
2。 At first, Chen Xing thought he would live happily ever after, as others said. But after the marriage, Chen Xingcai realized that this seemingly "scenery" marriage is actually not happy. Hong Wei basically doesn't ask or worry about things in life. When Chen Xing wants to ask Hong Wei for help, he always says impatiently, "It's up to you. Leave me alone! " Hong Wei's indifference again and again made her feel desperate for this marriage. Married life is not a form to show others, but a content to show yourself. After marriage, if the partner doesn't take the responsibility of the family and doesn't understand the love of the partner, this kind of marriage life is like icehouse, which only makes people feel cold.
3. A good marriage is not a gorgeous vase for others to enjoy. A good marriage should be like a warm baby whose appearance is not outstanding. Love between husband and wife is like hot water in it. Husband and wife Qi Xin work together to keep the hot water at a suitable temperature for a long time, making people feel its warmth. When Liu Li got married, Gao Feng wanted to hold a beautiful wedding in a hotel in the city, but Liu Li refused. Liu Li said to Gao Feng, "Don't be so extravagant. Just set some tables at the Li Family Hotel in our village. I didn't marry you for a big wedding, but for us to live. " Liu Li knows very well that when she chose to marry Gao Feng, she took a fancy to his calm, reliable and considerate advantages. When she was in love, she knew that Gaofeng was born in the countryside, but she didn't dislike him because of it. Liu Li knows that it is important to marry Gao Feng and have the life she wants. After marriage, the peak is usually very busy at work, but as long as she has time to rest, she will take Liu Li out to play. When Liu Li was in a bad mood, the summit always stayed with her and patiently comforted her. When Liu Li gave birth to a child, Gao Feng looked at Liu Li in the hospital bed and burst into tears. Liu Li and Gao Feng's life is very simple, but it makes Liu Li feel very happy. A happy marriage means that under the protection of French, both husband and wife can treat each other with care and cherish each other, and they will lead an extraordinary life.
Whether a marriage is happy or not has nothing to do with other people's definitions, but only with their own inner feelings. Liu Li's family, because Gao Jian has a wedding, feels that he has wronged his daughter, and she is not very happy. At the same time, those relatives who went to Liu Li's wedding came back and told Liu Li's parents that Liu Li's wedding was too simple. If I had known, I would not have attended it. The words of relatives made Liu Li's parents feel that it was their daughter's humble wedding and lost face. Every time Liu Li goes back to her mother's house, her mother always quietly calls her aside and asks her about her married life, as if worried that her baby daughter will be wronged when she is with Gao Feng. Liu Li always smiles and says to her mother, "Mom, I have a good life with Gao Feng. He has always taken care of me, and I am very happy. You, leave me alone. " At first, my mother didn't believe it, thinking that what Liu Li said was to comfort her. Later, Liu Li gave birth to a child, and her mother went to Liu Li's house to live for a while. When she saw Gaofeng taking care of Liu Li day and night, she believed her daughter's words and stopped worrying. When people look at marriage, they always habitually evaluate whether it is happy or not from its appearance. But marriage is like a pair of shoes. Only two people who wear wedding shoes know whether the shoes fit or not.
It is too arbitrary and one-sided to evaluate the happiness of marriage only from a wedding. Whether two people in a happy marriage can treat everything in life with heart.