If this man believes that you are the one who can spend the future with him hand in hand, how can he easily question you because of his mother's words? On the contrary, no matter what happens between you and your mother-in-law, he will not question you, but try to make his mother accept you.
The man who really loves you should be able to shelter you from the wind and rain, instead of thinking about letting you take the wind and rain to relieve his pressure. Although marriage goes through thick and thin, it is selfish for a man to marry you for this purpose from the beginning, because he never thought that he would have to pay for it if he wanted to gain something.
Happiness in marriage can only be gained if it is paid. People who don't understand this can easily be dissatisfied with the other half because of trivial matters in marriage, especially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
In the eyes of some men, marrying a wife means giving birth to children and taking care of the elderly, which is also the wife's duty, so once a woman can't do it, men will think it's a woman's problem. In fact, whether it can be done depends on both sides, not just women. It is unfair for men to think so, and it will also make women feel chilling.
However, many people don't know who their parents are until they get married. Before marriage, women were fascinated by love and thought the other person was very nice, but once they entered marriage, the test of love officially began, and the previous disguise would be exposed in the triviality of marriage. At this time, it is too late for women to regret.
How stupid can a woman be for love? I think, if I am pregnant, I can catch a man. Therefore, many girls who are not recognized by their parents will choose to get pregnant before marriage to try to make each other compromise.
When Chen Jing and Tan Feng met, they didn't know that Tan Feng's family was rich, only that they were not poor, but because they really liked Tan Feng, they didn't pay much attention to this aspect. During the period of love, every time Tan Feng bought a gift for Chen Jing, Chen Jing would reciprocate, just because she didn't want Tan Feng to think that she was a money worshipper.
Chen Jing said that he never wanted anything from the other side, but strangely, the more you don't want the other side, the more the other side will bully you, just because you and he were not at a starting point from the beginning.
Although Chen Jing is also the only child in the family, her family conditions are average. Her parents are office workers and have separate books, so her family is well-off. Her parents like Chen Jing and find a person with a separate book. When they first met Tan Feng, the old couple thought that Tan Feng was not a down-to-earth person, but Chen Jing said that Tan Feng had a dream for the future, and only when he lived with such a person could he have hope.
Despite parents' objections, Chen Jing still contacted Tan Feng privately, while Tan Feng delayed taking Chen Jing home to meet his parents, fearing that his parents would not agree.
Tan Feng's parents are businessmen, and they are very demanding of their daughter-in-law. They had hoped that Tan Feng could find a suitable one, but Chen Jing obviously didn't meet the requirements of Tan Feng's parents.
Tan Feng knew that his parents wouldn't agree, but Chen Jing was beautiful and admired him, which made him feel a sense of accomplishment, so he didn't want to be separated from Chen Jing, but Chen Jingke didn't want to be consumed like this. Tan Feng was cornered by Chen Jing, so he had to take Chen Jing home to meet his parents. Before going, he specially dressed Chen Jing as a social celebrity.
Chen Jing said that Tan Feng was exaggerating. It was not until she went to Tan Feng's house that she knew that Tan Feng's family was rich. She was like an ugly duckling. What she didn't expect was that Tan Feng's parents treated her so badly. At first, it was good, but she talked a few words, especially when she heard about Chen Jing's family background. On the spot, she said that Chen Jing and Tan Feng are not from the same world, so Chen Jing can give up, otherwise it will be too late.
Although Chen Jing's family background is not as good as Tan Feng's, she was also held in the palm of her parents' hand since she was a child, and her academic performance was among the best. She graduated from a famous university in China. At first, Chen Jing didn't think much of Tan Feng. I chased her for a long time, but Chen agreed, and now she is rejected by the other party.
Chen Jing said on the spot that she married Tan Feng and Tan Feng loved her enough. Tan Feng's mother just smiled and didn't respond. Chen Jing believed that all beings are water. Unexpectedly, Tan Feng soon lost her main source of income, and they could no longer fall in love as easily as before.
Once a woman falls in love, she will lose her mind, and Chen Jing is no exception. Although Tan Feng's parents don't like her, she is determined to stay with Tan Feng and thinks she is in love. In desperation, Tan Feng came up with a way to get Chen Jingxian pregnant. Once pregnant, her parents have to agree if she doesn't agree. Originally, Chen Jing was a little worried, but Tan Feng said that early birth and late birth are the same for each other.
Chen Jing thought it was correct and agreed. Not long after, Chen Jing was pregnant, and Chen Jing's parents had to agree. Tan Feng's parents had nothing to say, and Chen Jing was secretly happy. However, Tan Feng's parents only gave 80,000 yuan as a bride price, which was far lower than Tan Feng's family's conditions, but it was not negotiable, and the wedding must be held after giving birth.
Chen Jing's parents think each other is bullying others, and they don't agree with anything. Tan Feng said that his family had made concessions. He doesn't understand why Chen Jing's parents still care about those steps, but it's only a matter of time.
Chen Jing felt that Tan Feng didn't know himself well enough, and Tan Feng always stood on his parents' side, which made them very unhappy.
After Tan Feng moved back to live, he didn't take the initiative to contact Chen Jing for a long time, saying that Chen Jing was wrong and needed to reflect. Chen Jing was angry, too, but his belly was getting bigger and bigger, and he couldn't bear to part with his children, so he had to bite the bullet and apologize to Tan Feng. Only then did they make up.
Finally, the two families reached an agreement that the bride price would remain unchanged and the wedding would be held immediately. Chen Jing breathed a sigh of relief when she had a baby. When the wedding is coming, Chen Jing has been pregnant for six months. It's not obvious, but she still has to try to avoid getting hurt.
Unexpectedly, one thing at the wedding made Chen Jing personally end this hard-won relationship.
The wedding of two people was very lively, and both relatives were present. Theoretically, parents of both men and women should sit at the main table, but Chen Jing's parents are not among them. Chen Jing asked and got the answer that there were too many people in this person's family to sit down. Chen Jing wanted to make a statement, but her mother wouldn't let her, so she forgot.
However, when it comes to offering tea, she is afraid to touch it because she is pregnant, so Chen Jing doesn't even dare to drink wine, for fear that it will have a bad influence on the fetus. I didn't expect my mother-in-law to insist on serving tea on her knees: "How can a daughter-in-law serve tea to her mother-in-law without kneeling?" This is the minimum etiquette! " Chen Jing was in a dilemma and had to see what Tan Feng and Tan Feng said. Chen Jing still remembers: "How can you be so melodramatic? My mother told you to kneel, and you have to kneel! " Said, and pulled a handful of Chen Jing, push Chen Jing to him, make Chen Jing flustered.
Chen Jing couldn't hold back at that time, and tears came down. She stood up, looked at Tan Feng and said, "I won't get married."
Tan Feng didn't expect Chen Jing to be like this, thinking that Chen Jing was joking, but Chen Jing took off his veil and left the scene.
Later, Tan Feng's parents were even more dissatisfied with Chen Jing, and Tan Feng felt that Chen Jing was unreasonable. Only his parents felt sorry for Chen Jing, but Chen Jing said they couldn't go back because she saw Tan Feng clearly.
More than once, I was asked about pregnancy before marriage, and the answer I gave was, in any case, please try to get pregnant after marriage, because there are too many variables in women's pregnancy before marriage, and having children before marriage will not be the guarantee of marriage, but will become a potential threat to marriage.
If a man marries you because of his children, there is a great chance that he will cheat after marriage because he doesn't want to, and it is the husband and wife, not the children, who maintain the marriage for a long time.
From the moment you promised him to get pregnant before marriage, you lost yourself At this time, you forget that the most important thing you should do is to love yourself. Only a woman who knows how to cherish herself will truly gain the respect of men.
This is not to say that a marriage with pregnancy before marriage must be bad, but a marriage with pregnancy before marriage as a bargaining chip must be bad.
When a man makes such a request to you, it shows that he doesn't love you very much. All he thinks about is how to solve the current predicament, but he ignores your feelings, your position, and the consequences, all of which depend on you to face.
Therefore, women should not be so stupid! Never use children to catch men. Love yourself more before you love, and you will meet someone who really loves you.