There are 56 nationalities in China, with different customs and cultures and different economic conditions in the southeast and northwest. Some young men and women are in free love, while others are buying and selling marriages. Then according to local customs and economic differences, the mouth-changing fee should be divided into three grades: 3, 6 and 9. How much is appropriate for each, which needs to be discussed by both sides.
In economically developed areas, if one party surpasses the other in all aspects, the change fee may be higher. If the other party is not as good as the other party in all aspects and the marriage is passive, the exchange fee may be less.
As for how much the change fee is appropriate, it will vary from person to person, depending on their economic situation. Marriage is a big event, which should not only conform to local customs, but also consider each other's affordability. Whether it is a son-in-law or a daughter-in-law, when they get married, they become a family. If they ask too much, it will embarrass each other, if not, it will cause contradictions.
Giving a symbolic change fee can not only set off the atmosphere of the wedding scene, but also be a form and complexity. Some places also regard this project as a wedding process, which is festive and lively.
1982 When we got married, our parents only gave us 300 yuan. Now that 38 years have passed, I think the change fee should be at least a lucky number, either four sixes or four eights. Of course, the most important thing is to see if the other party can bear it. If the family is good, it is not too much to pay 30 thousand to 50 thousand!
Renaming fee is a ritual in the primitive marriage custom, that is, when a woman marries her husband's family, she changes her address to her husband's relatives, which is also called "opening worship".
The past and present time nodes and the level range of "opening worship" are slightly different from the present.
What I have heard and seen is that when I get married, before the garden banquet the morning after the man's wedding banquet, I will arrange according to the meaning of the woman's parents, see how many cloth shoes the woman usually prepares and decide how many relatives to visit. During the ceremony, the cloth shoes were tied on the waist with red paper in a strip shape, and were brought by the bride's parents, followed by the man's arrangement, brought by the guest teacher or the person in charge, paid a New Year call to the man's family, kissed his grandparents, parents and elders, and then presented gifts to his brothers and sisters one by one.
In the past, when women changed their names to worship, they should show respect to their elders, and show respect to their peers by changing their names to confirm, exchanging greetings and returning gifts. It's not just the woman who pays for the worship that accepts the change. The man who receives the gift wants a red envelope full of cash better than the woman's gift.
Now the original meaning of the ceremony has been retained, but the scope has been narrowed, which is limited to son-in-law to father-in-law, and daughter-in-law to in-laws. As a part of the wedding, it was held at the same time as the wedding, and the ceremony was presided over and directed by the master of ceremonies, and the names of the parents-in-law were changed to "parents".
This is a happy moment in life. When parents-in-law hear their son-in-law and daughter-in-law calling their parents, they all have to pay for their own red envelopes, which is the change fee. How much is in the red envelope depends on your own economic situation.
Anyway, I gave it to my son-in-law and daughter-in-law, which is decent and generous. There are 1000 yuan and 100 1 yuan in it, which means that my son-in-law and daughter-in-law are "one in a thousand" and "one in a thousand", which is a compliment and encouragement to them.
This is the beginning and end of the formation of the "change fee" for newlyweds.
How much is the marriage change fee appropriate?
There is no uniform standard for this problem, which is mainly determined according to the economic conditions of individual families. But at least from 600 yuan-10000 yuan. Generally, the highest is 6000-8000 yuan.